I must confess that there were days when i also felt the same way, albeit a little less emotional than you. I even felt like breaking my TV... this is exactly what the writers of this serial want us to do. get so involved with it so that they have some kind of fan following. My advice, just press the OFF button on your TV and listen to some soothing music - even the title track of BALH will do, as i find it very soothing.
do not take these characters seriously. They have all become a joke!
Coming to your point of respect for women.. What respect is left when you see a man having two biwi's living under the same roof. First they showed Ram with that Ayesha and Priya - being married to both and now they are showing Kartik with Natasha and Jhanavi. If the writers think that indian women can take this non-sense, they are dead wrong. No woman in her right sense of mind will want to see her husband living with someone else, unless ... you know what...
Do not be surprised if they show Vikram having two biwi's, Sudhir having two biwi's, rishab having two biwi's... after all bade acche lagte hai... oops, bahut acche lagte hai... 😊