What do you want to see next in BAVD? - Page 3

After re-reading your earlier post, I definitely think that Bharti should forgive him, provided Murli gives her an unconditional apology. By unconditional, no invoking Gaushala, the prison or anything else. Just a 'I treated you badly, which I shouldn't, and so I apologize'. After that, they can remain friends, but shouldn't re-unite as spouses.

I'm guessing you meant 'that doesn't mean she should reconcile with RA. i would definitely not like to see sudha go back to RA.'

I agree about Yuvraj & Pankaj, and kept the list down to just Jyoti & RS. Pankaj was certainly not worse than Brij.

I should add one thing about my criteria - in the universe of men who ill-treat their wives, I am more hostile to those who knock up their wives and then abandon them, like Pankaj & Brij did. In the above list, Pankaj's & Brij's wives were pregnant, Rohit's, Sumer's, RA's & Murli's are not. Look at it this way. Let's say the marriages end. When any of these women would have recovered and looking for newer hubbies, the women who are never married have the best chances, followed by the ones who are married but don't have kids, followed by the ones who are married and pregnant but don't have kids, followed by the ones who have kids. It would have been impossible for Jyoti or Sushma to find another hubby - Jyoti was very lucky that Kabir surfaced. So Pankaj and Brij did far more long term damage to their wives than Sumer, RA, Rohit or Yuvraj.

You are reasonable, but the CV's aren't necessarily so. I'm just afraid that once the Lals know the truth, even if Murli doesn't invite Bharti back, Kamala might, and that would make it even harder. I do hope that both families avoid pushing them into reconciling and calling off their divorce, since there is nothing to guarantee that Murli will love Bharti after all that. It would also pervert the title - when it says Baba aiso varr dhoondo, does aiso varr mean Murli? I'd think that aiso varr would better mean Amit.

i completely agree over here Vrish. making the wife pregnant then leaving her is simply disgusting!🤢 it's equivalent to some damage that is irreparable. this is why i hate dev of geet so much

Originally posted by: vik rocks

but still there is a question mark have amit & sudha been introduced for the leads or are they the medium to bring bharli closer?😕

yep my hunch is it will be bharli at the end 😔

vik & vrish if some feel bharati should not forgive murli then it is good only 😆 ...murli will be free to move on with no pressures from his family....so let murli be a monster itself 😆 ....
(not meant to offend anyone )

@jas

Originally posted by: vik rocks

i completely agree over here Vrish. making the wife pregnant then leaving her is simply disgusting!🤢 it's equivalent to some damage that is irreparable. this is why i hate dev of geet so much

it is difficult for a woman to find someone else if she's a divorcee or a widow. but to some extent it would be easier if she's not carrying a child. it automatically becomes difficult when she's already in the stage of being a mother. coz not all can be kabir of jyoti or shyam of balika vadhu or man of geet...jyoti, sugna & geet were lucky to get them. but not all can be lucky.

sushma wasn't lucky enough & was sent back to brij🤢 but then pankaj didn't know what would happen later but at least dev knew it but still went ahead with geet🤢 but sumer didn't have the capacity, maybe that's why asha was saved from the damage. yuvi also was an eunuch so sandhya was saved. rohit was following the godman's advice in which he can't even see his wife's face so shradhya was saved. i wonder if these guyz could do the damage then would they have spared their wives😕

coming back to murli's case... when bharti tried to seduce murli, it was good on his part to reject her advances rather than going ahead when he knew he wouldn't be able to do justice to their relationship. & that's the only reason why i'm ready to forgive him. but then i think maybe he just didn't find bharti attractive at all😕 btw i don't see him getting attracted towards sudha too. i wonder how would he react when he gets to know what sudha feels for him😕 or is it just too early to comment on murli😕

Vik

As far as the other abusive hubbies who couldn't/didn't make their wives pregnant went:

• Sumer may, just may, have been kinder to Asha had he been able to impregnate her. Much of his abuse of her was based on her not conceiving, and he blamed her for that. I'm not excusing this @ all, but I do think that had Asha become pregnant, Sumer, unlike Brij or Pankaj, would have happily embraced her w/o Jyoti's intervention. He'd not have thrown her out like Brij or Pankaj did.
• Rohit hasn't made Shradhya pregnant so far, and so I don't ding him badly either, even though I want their marriage to end
• Yuvraj's entire issue was based on his sexuality, and if he wasn't a eunuch, the whole story would have been different. For one, he'd simply have married a Gwalior heiress, and left Neeraj to marry Sandhya. So had Sandhya gotten pregnant, he'd have very much embraced her, like he'd have embraced Vrinda on his being proven masculine. So none of the women would have been ill treated like Jyoti, Sushma & Geet

So I don't think any of the above guys would have abused their wives like Pankaj, Brij and Vikrant had their wives become pregnant.

@Vrish

Vik

I agree - in your update, I commented that Gau is the real dheelee (remember what Dadi used to call Sudha in Jyoti?) for assigning a ditz like Jhumka tasks that she's bound to screw up. Yeah, I like Dumroo distracting her, but I liked even more the (unlikely) coincidence of Mridang, not just anyone, drinking that potion. Yeah, I can't wait for him to find out, and hopefully, he treats Gau like Rohit treats Shradhya.

If Mridala's coalition crumbles, it will be even more difficult for her to rig the house in her name. But I do hope she gets kicked out.

Imagine TV reminds me of Neeraj's cousin Raj in RS - that guy is not trusted in business b'cos he doesn't have the patience and perseverence to see anything thru. That's why even his sasural, which was his for some years now, made an unlettered Anmol the MD of one of their companies, but not him. Imagine TV similarly doesn't have any patience w/ any serial. Previously, as part of NDTV, they were good - gave long ropes to Bandini, PKCM & Jyoti to hang themselves. I guess that Turner entertainment has decided that instead of allowing serials to hang themselves, they'll just be more merciful & shoot them. 😆

I've commented about the episodes in the EDT and update threads, but one thing I liked about yesterday's & today's episodes - Amit saw how tender Murli was w/ Sudha, which he never showed himself to be w/ Bharti, while Sudha had earlier seen Bharti happy w/ Amit and had originally thought he was her hubby. So given this, I doubt the mahaan bug will bite them i.e. I doubt Sudha will try to send Murli back to Bharti, and I doubt Amit will try to send Bharti back to Murli.

Also, since Jhumka too knows that Murli is married (neither Sudha nor Jhumka know about his divorce as yet), I doubt Gau will be able to persuade Jhumka to go after Murli any more - it'll just be Dumroo from now on. As it should be. Maybe it will take a lot of episodes b4 Murli tells Sudha what happened b/w him & Bharti. And like I commented on the thread on Bharti-Sudha's friendship, I think it will definitely be affected, contrary to what a majority of people thought.