Dr. Sakshi and her Decision - Discuss

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Posted: 19 years ago
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Sakshi joining Simran, Is this justified or not?

We saw a new character Dr. Sakshi Joshi, entering Astitva this week. We saw that Sakshi had always been a great fan of Simran, infact, possible that Sakshi decided to become a doctor seeing Simran. She also told that Dr. Simran was her idol. She was so thrilled and excited to hear to a lecture of Simran in her college, when she was a student. Sakshi, even went to the Prinicpal's room to get an autograph from Simran.

Sakshi, when she met Simran again, told her, that she wanted to help people around her, wanted to practice in her home town, which did not have much facilities. Simran was so impressed with Sakshi's thoughts, that she told Sakshi, that she will be fulfilling her incomplete dream of working in a small set-up.

Now, after so many years, we see Sakshi again, who is now married to a very nagging and irritating person Nakul. I really feel there is something unsaid, why and how Nakul and Sakshi got married. I say this because, in one scene, Nakul was screaming at Sakshi, asking her why did she marry him at all? Hearing this, there was a sudden change in Sakshi's face, Nakul too mellowed down, tried to talk softly to her.

But whatever the reasons maybe for their marriage, the fact is that they have lots of differences of opinions. It is very obvious that after marriage, Sakshi went to USA with Nakul, as he could not live in India. He hated India from his bottom of his heart, a complete extreme to Sakshi, who loved her people a lot. It looks as though Sakshi stayed in husband for the past 6 years, worked in a hospital there. But, as she mentioned, her heart always wanted to work in India, wanted to do something for her own people. She was not happy with the work and the working atmosphere there.

Now, we can say that Destiny made her to make a small 2-3 day trip to India. She also planned to meet her role model Dr. Simran. She then went to her house, to meet her. She got to know about Simran's condition. Simran later offered her a job. Now, remember that Simran has always been Sakshi's mentor, role model , idol and what not. The very thought that her idol needs her now, as she is helpless, made Sakshi think a lot.

But, when she told about her plan of accepting this offer to her husband, they both had an argument where Nakul asked Sakshi to choose between him and work. Sakshi tried to reason out that this was just a temporary phase in their life, she always dreamt of working like this. So she needs to accept this for Dr. Simran. She told him that though she earns in dollars in USA, her heart craves to do something worthwhile to her people. But Nakul was adamant. He wanted Sakshi to think about his own career, which was in USA. He did not understand the feelings of his wife, when she openly said that she was not happy and satisfied with the job she was doing in US, so would accept this offer, work for few months and come back. But Nakul called her Selfish, a woman who gave more priority for her work and mentor than her own husband.

So friends, the topic of discussion now, is that, seeing Sakshi's ambition in life, seeing her aspirations, her present situation, her love for her work, love to do something for her own people, the respect she has for Dr. Simran, her nagging husband, his selfishness, his care-no-damn attitude to her work and her thoughts, do you all think Dr. Sakshi Joshi's decision in joining Simran was justified or not???

Please do pen down your thoughts, rather type it up....Please do put forth your arguments with valid points, which will support your argument..
Also, please do try to put yourself in Sakshi's shoes, try to analyse what you would have done , in this situation?

Sree

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Posted: 19 years ago
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well, the reason for why the marriage ever took place is a big question.
For sure opposite attract but I don't think that's the case here. Saakshi
has sacrificed 6 years of her life for this husband of hers.
Marriage means giving & accepting from both parties but here it's kind of
like it's always been the hardest on Saakshi; so now that she has the
chance, I guess she should follow her dreams & learn to make her own
'astitva' as her mentor Simran.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Very interesting topic sree…!

Well before I feel I can answer whether Saakshi was justified or not, there are a few scenarios I would like to analyse and put forward my comments:

1) Saakshi's Marriage

It clearly seems that this is not the first problem that Saakshi has faced in her marriage, rather that she looks as though she has been very unhappy with her husband over the last 6 years. I feel her husband is a disgrace to the Indian community, he has been taken in so much by the Western world and the facilities and luxurious life he leads there, he has forgotten his roots and his own identity (I personally was not impressed by this character at all!) So it seems the Saakshi has given up a lot for her husband and has tried to adjust to him, without his support conversely. So it looks like a marriage for the name of marriage only.


2) Saakshi's respect and admiration for Dr.Simran

As we can see, Saakshi is totally in awe of Dr Simran and she is her idol. This respect she has for Dr Simran is much more valid than the respect she tries to give her husband. Simran has recognised the admiration Saakshi has for her, whereas her husband is totally ignorant of his wife's feelings.


Now putting these two areas together, it clearly seems to me that Saakshi is totally justified for her decision… I mean she nearly let her dream job go for her husband when she refuses initially…however fate lets her re-decide. Thinking from Saakhi's shoes, I would have done what she did…her husband was completely unsupportive and basically wanted a trophy as a wife (remember when he said to Saakshi when they were going to the dinner party that she should dress up amazingly so everyone can look at what a gorgeous and good looking wife he has) – I mean how shallow is that. Her husband doesn't care, and there is only so much a wife can take in her life…and it is not like that the position at the hospital was for life, a few months only…for the 6 years Saakshi has supported her husband, her husband couldn't support her for a few months…

If I was offered such a job in such circumstances, I would have accepted…there comes a time in life where we have to think of our dreams and the 'right' thing to do…and if I had my idol come to me for help, it would be very difficult to refuse… Saakshi has shown through her character that she is strong and able to be independent, like Simran … and her life does not simply revolve around her husband, but around helping others in this world…


That's my view anyhow!!

Aloo Gobi
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Anyma and Aloo_gobi, I agree with both of your replies whole heartedly! Much as I agree that marriage is about adjustment and compromise and a promise to be with each other in thick and thin, it CANNOT and just cannot be a one way path!! And that's exactly what seems to be happening in Saakshi's life. Yes, why she got married to her husband Nakul is a mystery until now. And from what I read in the updates, all I can say is I just don't like Nakul. I cannot stand people who backstab the very country that nurtured them without which they could not be what they are now and without which they would not be in the US or anywhere else!! And I don't wish to digress but really India is not as bad as what he portrays it and it is a well known fact that one can be very comfortable materially in India too if they have the money and a good job. And I for one am happy that Saakshi took the decision that she did - to serve her country, to pursue her dreams instead of feeling suffocated and disgusted and disappointed with life..Tough decision but I am glad that she took it!
Edited by xyzzee - 19 years ago
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Saakshi has a right to do what she wants ... it would be nice if the husband supported her, but in this case he is against it.

In a good marraige - the husband and wife should sit down and try to understand the actions of the other person i.e. Nakul should have had the decency to hear Saakshi out and honor (if not understand) her emotions, sentiments and her 'want' to work for Simran.

Saakshi said she was doing this for a matter of a short time (well, we all know this short time is going to be along time eventually) - but for Nakul's sake and the way the story started out .. it was a matter of few months.

The other aspect of this is - the fact that Saakshi wanted to stay in India without Nakul, giving up her job in the USA signals to some trouble in their marraige. Agreed it is her dream job, agreed that she has strong emotions about working in India .. then the question is .. why did she go to the USA in the first place. "She got married" is not the answer .. she could have chosen not to get married to a guy from USA
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Posted: 19 years ago
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We do not know the background of Sakshi and Nakul. Was there 'love' in their marriage at all. I am not sure if it is the ego of Nakul that is hurt that he is calling Sakshi to come back or is it love in a hidden form...

Sakshi sure has taken the right step for her, but as far as her marriage goes, it has taken the blow. The blow may very well be needed, so that Nakul and Sakshi can now figure out if they really had a marriage in the first place.
We have been shown that Nakul is arrogant and that Sakshi is the obedient one in the relationship. There is only so much that a person can take and may be since her marriage was not doing well and that she really wanted to be in India, Sakshi may have taken the step. Sometimes distances help build a relationship.

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Posted: 19 years ago
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I love how the director pushes us towards one choice: meaning, Nakul is shown to be SO bad, and so arrogant and so annoying (how he hates everything about India) that the viewers are automatically pushed to sympathizing with Sakshi and with approving the choice she made!
How about if Nakul really misses his wife, loves her and is a nice guy? Would Sakshi still help Simran out during her hour of need? In that case, how would we justify Sakshi's decision of helping out because her dream was to work in India? Tougher call then huh? :)
Anyway, just felt that what we feel is pre-determined by the directors by the way they portray the extremes in these characters!

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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: lrao

I love how the director pushes us towards one choice: meaning, Nakul is shown to be SO bad, and so arrogant and so annoying (how he hates everything about India) that the viewers are automatically pushed to sympathizing with Sakshi and with approving the choice she made!
How about if Nakul really misses his wife, loves her and is a nice guy? Would Sakshi still help Simran out during her hour of need? In that case, how would we justify Sakshi's decision of helping out because her dream was to work in India? Tougher call then huh? :)
Anyway, just felt that what we feel is pre-determined by the directors by the way they portray the extremes in these characters!



👏👏 You read my mind or what 😃

I agree, director has to show some way or the other that Simran is so great (role model of Sakshi) that people prefer to leave their spouses to help her out. This is what is annoying to me 😕
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: lrao

I love how the director pushes us towards one choice: meaning, Nakul is shown to be SO bad, and so arrogant and so annoying (how he hates everything about India) that the viewers are automatically pushed to sympathizing with Sakshi and with approving the choice she made!
How about if Nakul really misses his wife, loves her and is a nice guy? Would Sakshi still help Simran out during her hour of need? In that case, how would we justify Sakshi's decision of helping out because her dream was to work in India? Tougher call then huh? :)
Anyway, just felt that what we feel is pre-determined by the directors by the way they portray the extremes in these characters!



I too agree with you ,
Sometimes rude and arrogant men are very soft hearted and loving from inside...if this guy is that bad then why he wants to live with his wife,he should'nt care and go on with his life specially in the country like USA..I am personally against this type of separation between husband and wife. If you marry someone then you are totally commited to live and compromise with your partner.If you want to live without your life partner then why the need to get married, just focus on your career and fulfil all your dreams.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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All of you have raised some good points. But if Nakul were really sweet and loving and kind and loved his wife from the bottom of his heart, then a woman like Saakshi would not have taken a decision as tough as this so quickly. I don't think so anyway. She would have tried patiently to make her husband understand. After all they were married for six years - enough time for her to understand if he were just 'rough' on the outside but soft inside. Chances are (and I may be way off here) that that is not the case.. Also, as Vazz pointed out, we don't know if Nakul is calling her back because he truly loves her or if he is doing this because of ego issues. If he loves her, then the two do need to sit and talk about it and reach some kind of decision/compromise. I believe marriage consists of give and take but as I said before I do not think it can be a one way road and from what I read, that is what is the case here. I could very well be wrong, of course. Look at Simran for instance- she was a very, very career oriented and independent woman but who loved Abhi to death (even 20 years earlier) and did try her level best to make her marriage work *despite* Abhi's being unfaithful to her. It was he who told her point blank at one point that he wanted to be with Kiran and even had the cheek to ask Simran if she were willing to share him with Kiran.. My point I guess is that career oriented or otherwise, if the husband and wife truly, sincerely love each other, they would give utmost importance to their marriage and not rush into divorce/separation. Rather they would go out of the way to make the marriage work...Something was obviously drastically wrong with this marriage for her to do what she did and she therefore took up this opportunity when it came along. That it had to do with serving Simran the great is another story:-)
Edited by xyzzee - 19 years ago

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