Devika would have been an ideal wife for Anuj

Jab dil aaya Gadhi pe to Pari kya cheez hai? He fell for Anupama at first sight seeing her horrible dance on Sridevi’s Bijli girane (I guess that’s the song)

On a side note, Devika is a bhakt of Anupama, and anyone who is related to Anupama cannot be an ideal partner for anyone else!

Devika was the one who said Anuj ne iss umar mein bojh (Aadhya) ko Anupama ke sar par dal diya, while she was okay that iss umar mein Anupama 2 ghar sambhale aur ex in laws ki naukrani bankar rahe, that was too harsh and she also sided by Anupama in all her wrong decisions of catering to her so called phemily baggage! I don’t agree with Devika’s thinking that if Anupama already had three kids and was going to become a grand mom soon, Anuj should give up his wish for his own child…because Anupama ke nalayank bachche hain na? But then again, seeing current scenario, Anuj doesn’t deserve Aadhya at all (my pov)

If at all anyone would have been an okay partner / couple in the show, would have been Kavya and Anuj, she was very much a practical girl until she turned into an Anupama bhakt….but again for Kavya ….dil aaya gadhe Vanraj pe to Anuj gadha kya cheez hai! (I would repeat same line for Shruti too)

They are all suffering for the wrong choices they made and refuse to break out from those abusive clutches so no sympathies for anyone of them. All of them chose the red flags for themselves so bhugto!

Originally posted by: prachetas2211

I was indeed shocked that a handsome guy like Anuj could not find a suitable girl for himself in the US. Kavya could have been ideal wife to Anuj had she not got married to Forest King aka Vanraj. I feel sorry for Kinjal, Dimpy and Kavya who have become blind devotees of Anupama. And Anuj, how did he offer a business partnership to Anupama, who did not know the A, B, C, D of business and who was not well educated? Which sane business man acts like that? I feel sorry for Anuj who had lost much in his so called 26 saal ka pyaar. Rather than marrying Anupama, Anuj and Anupama would have been better had they remained as good friends. I just love the bond of friendship between Anuj and Anupama.

He would have found many girls who would probably have been 100 times more eligible and suitable for him than Anupama (Anupama was never the suitable one, she was a red flag since beginning), had he married at the right age, maybe he could have had his own child too, but he just wanted Anupama….an absolutely unhealthy obsession!

Kavya was ambitious, well read, self dependent, practical, wanted to break away from Shahs initially, outspoken who would put Baa into place whenever she misbehaved, but what happened, Anupamaa transformed her just into her own miniature version. She knew her husband was lusting after his ex wife and she even left the house, but came back again. And this happened multiple times.

Anuj was blinded by Anupama’s love and her badi badi baatein, he offered her a partnership worth Crores just by hearing how she would recruit housewives into the restaurant, and she abandoned the project just like her second marriage and adopted kid.

I can’t stand both of them now, its just an abusive cycle, Vanraj Anupamaa Anuj all are alike, obsessed folks who refuse to differentiate between right and wrong. All of them all morally corrupt people.

Indian men do not like woman who are bold or equally qualified as them as they are threat to mans position in relationship(same with most men not only indian)

They and their family think such woman are threat to marriage and family and even boy as she will not obey husband or adjust in family - at first issue they will walk off marraige

In 90s when anuj was in his 20s that thinking was much more than 2025

I remember recently one boy rejected a very good proposal of a girl shes a doctor why? Because shes youngest child of her parents. As per him youngest child are not mature and will not be able to do house work and office work together everyday etc as brought up lovingly by parents and may not shift abroad want to be near parents etc

This girl family is rich and shes highly educated and beautiful but why rejected? As shes more educated and youngest child of parents so cannot do house work etc may be will show more nakras this is 2024 mens thinking who are 25-30 year olds born in big cities

May be anuj too thinks same so he did not want any US woman or devika or Shruti to marry in life apart from obsession of anupama

Indian and most asian men want wife less educated less salary earning than them and at least 5 to 10 years younger to them so in old age wife must live to do their seva etc this is all thinking that comes and is observed from childhood in men

Further like i said modern dressing and highly educated woman like doctors, engineers, MBA are considered not fit to marry or handle house work and youngest girl in house is irresponsible cannot cook/handle home. Many such prejudice thoughts still exist in most men that too educated men so imagine illiterate villagers what they think

Women like kavya, devika, barkha, malvika, kinjal, nandini, shruti, adhya later who act modern wear modern dress are well educated like men only will never be considered as ideal wife or bahu in patriarchal society. All educated modern thinking modern western dressing woman who are highly educated are vamps not only as per serials but 80% asian familys also think same way. Highly educated woman are seen as threat and those who speak as it is like kavya, malvika, devika, barkha, shruti are abhored and beaten, ignored in family and humiliated till they bend like kinjal or dimpy to get place and accepted in family

Its usually woman like anupama, baa who will be considered as idea wife and bahu in patriarchal society in longer term by husbands as well as their in laws or family

Indeed family has problem with daughters too who act modern dress modern think modern not only with bahu as its danger to patrichial dominance in family and society

They shall be surpressed like an adhya or a dimpy or a pakhi or face consequences for it like dimpy became widow for running away and got gang raped, pakhi was attacked by friend in hotel and divorced, aadhya also is being abused by anuj to bend as per his will as thats how men impose patrichail mindset and suppress sister or daughter to obey their orders and not have own thinking or like malvika where anuj ran off leaving her with vanraj although he knew vanraj will abuse her or when he asked her to give vanraj job back in kapadiya empire.

Anuj abondoned malvika the moment she refused to toe his line shes no longer his family or sister. Till malvika liked vanraj and shahs anuj was meri bacch meri bacchi moment she threw vanraj kavya toshu from kapadiya empire he started hating her misbehaving wth her forcing her to take vanraj back . next i think if adhya do not bend and accept anupama he will do same to adhya. Hes already using emotional tactics saying i adopted you i am living alone and suffering for you i got engaged for you etc all pure lies of anuj kapadiya. Hes living alone and suffering because anupama abandoned him and ran away not for adhya sake, neither he got engaged to shruti for adhya sake he wanted a woman like free maid to take care of him his kid and home so he got engaged as no indian woman will stay with a man for long unless he promises marraige

Pls note the thoughts i have typed here is my interaction with few young men finding girl to marry or their family nowadays. Its not my personal thoughts.

All of this doesn’t apply to Anuj because Anupama was having more relationships then a girl whose parents loves her.

You are saying that modern girls don’t contribute in household works so Anupama also didn’t contributed in their marriage or house in 3 years of their marriage so why Anuj is obsessed to Anupama now too.

If you see in Anuraj marriage all the above things were the reason of why their marriage failed.

In Anuj case it is purely obsession where he took seriously old movie dialogues

Pyaar ek baar hi hota hai

Or pahle pyaar ko kabhi bhul nahi sakte…

There is no practical thinking in Anuj love.

Anuj is a person who is lost in his dream land of Anupama. He don’t care about anyone else. If Anupama had not left 5 years ago then Anuj would have begged Anupama for saying harsh truth but Anupama leaving left him no choice.

We can’t see Anuj love in practical world. He is rare case who destroys everyone’s life for their dream love. People’s like Anuj don’t stays in reality and messed up close one’s life like Anuj destroyed Mukku's life. He never took stand for the people who really care about him. For him only Anupama exits.

All of this doesn’t apply to Anuj because Anupama was having more relationships then a girl whose parents loves her.

I agree that with respect to anupama anuj may not have such thinking

But what does he exactly think of devika or shruti as life parterns or usa woman he dated may be patrichial thinking thats why he never married others may be thats my guess it may or may not be true

You are saying that modern girls don’t contribute in household works so Anupama also didn’t contributed in their marriage or house in 3 years of their marriage so why Anuj is obsessed to Anupama now too.

No i did not say so, see men have girl friends who are highly educated their classmates but majority do not marry their GF but marry whom their family tells usually. The thinking that highly educated and modern woman not be fit to run a house hold or do house work is not my thinking, its what men and their family think while searching girl to marry. I have heard many boys 25-30 say the same when their family see girls for them to marry in india orUSA, they look for girl who can handle house hold and office work together. Exact word what boys use in office is gahrelu girl homely girl who can handle house work kitchen work sweeping mopping etc apart from working in a company.

If you see in Anuraj marriage all the above things were the reason of why their marriage failed.

Anuraj marriage will fail even if anupam awas not gharelu. Vanraj is a womanizer he can never be loyal to one woman in life. He had problem with gharelu anupama, he married kavya had problem with modern kavya, than had affair with malvika etc hes not a one woman man at all no matter girl is traditional gharelu or modern rich. vanraj is never satisfied with one woman or wife just like toshu. Men like vanraj and toshu can never be loyal to one wife no matter what their wife does or is. As per you anupama marriage failed because anupama was too traditional and not modern or educated so what was wrong with kavya or malvika they met modern educated criteria beautiful too so why vanraj left them too. Because hes a womanizer if given oppt he can marry or have 20 Girl friend or wife. How do we know kavya is his first GF in office before her he may have had others no. avya he married as she commit suicide and police case threat or he would move on to another GF affair in office or outside.

In Anuj case it is purely obsession where he took seriously old movie dialogues

Pyaar ek baar hi hota hai

Or pahle pyaar ko kabhi bhul nahi sakte…

There is no practical thinking in Anuj love.

Anuj is a person who is lost in his dream land of Anupama. He don’t care about anyone else. If Anupama had not left 5 years ago then Anuj would have begged Anupama for saying harsh truth but Anupama leaving left him no choice.

Anuj love is not love its junoon like SRK in darr or anjaam movie or like majnu. Love teaches us to be happy in lovers happiness. If anuj loved anupama he would not ask devika to spy for him 26 years. Bec many men have GFs in college or office if girl marries another man they never spy her or be behind her 26 years they let her be.

We can’t see Anuj love in practical world. He is rare case who destroys everyone’s life for their dream love. People’s like Anuj don’t stays in reality and messed up close one’s life like Anuj destroyed Mukku's life. He never took stand for the people who really care about him. For him only Anupama exits.

He likes shahs too and any wrong they do he is blind and never reprimads rarely

Isn't Anuj behaving like a srk Darr psycho lover . How come maan fans never questioned devika spy on anupama marriage life .

How come Gk kaka nd mukku are fine with Anuj spying on his crush marriage life??

How can devika give information to Anuj ,(who she considered as her best friend ) for giving.pirvste information on her marriage life .even anupama never questioned devika ?? But why??