Narcissit and gaslighting anupama

Since many people have no idea who is a narcissit by behaviour and what is gaslighting putting below defintions

Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.

Who comes to your mind reading narcissist personality disorder? Obviously anupama first and vanraj next and baa and toshu and pakhi etc entire shah kandaan actually

But the kind of obsession anupama has for the high sense of importance she has and all the bash an she gives on various topics without any knowledge education or experience wise is only crying out narcissist personality. The way anupama pulls her choti for simple praise or doing simple things correctly that most people do randomly every day like cooking, mopping etc. I mean all of us do house work and cook and care for family or hubby or kids who thinks its an achievement actually none other than anupama.

Anupama is obsessed with people praising her and liking her for mundane things and just to get that she goes around giving bashans on things which she has zero knowledge or no experience at all. To keep her ego and not to make it sound rude all praise her to please her(or may be to avoid more bashan nonsense they do it). I mean if 5 year old kid says ryhme or sing do we not praise it yes to make it happy. Does that maen that 5 year old is expert in that field or correct not really. But anupama is so dumb she thinks people praise her really she is eintein and best in that field and starts flying in sky high. I mean normal humans know when to take a praise seriously or really or is it just to make you happy and not make you feel bad. But at 50 years anupama cannot understand all this is surprise. Again anupama gaslighted Mlavika saying i never asked anuj to recomment vanraj or kaya for job to you in kapadiya empire.

People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.

Anupama always fails to understand feeling of kapadiyas be it anuj or CA or malvika. I mean which sister in law will go and ask her daughter aged bacchi Malvika to take back her abuser ex hubby back in her company where just few months back hes done EMA to gain control of her company? No one will but anupama did it she told anuj that vanraj requires job in kapadiya empire and anuj asked malvika to give job to vanraj shah and when malvika refused shouteand threatened and demeaned her in kitchen.

Gaslighting is the action of repetitively (and often brazenly) lying to someone to manipulate, and ultimately control them and the relationship. It could be divided into four different types: outright lying, manipulation of reality, scapegoating and coercion.Signs of gaslighting insist you said or did things you know you didn't do. deny or scoff at your recollection of events. call you “too sensitive” or “crazy” when you express your needs or concerns. express doubts to others about your feelings, behavior, and state of mind. twisting or retelling events to shift blame to you.

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insist you said or did things you know you didn't do. deny or scoff at your recollection of events. - is this not what anupama is doing to aadhya She left anuj and CA when anuj said you ignore me and CA and disappeared for 5 years. Now shes lying blatantly through her teeth that she searched for CA all 5 years and missed her etc. What is this gas lighting a child to extreme? Shes trying to create bad impression of anuj and CA regarding her leaving them for 5 years in eyes of yashpal, yashdeep, beeji and others like devika. While truth is she is at fault not anuj or CA What a clever woman? And people say anupama is innocent and soft and is abused etc shes highly manipulative cunning and machievellian as far her relationship with anuj or CA or Mlavika or all kapadiyas go. Except barkha and may be malati devi to some extent shes gaslighted them all kapadiyas

I do not understand whether in serial or real world why do people start beliving some are bad or wrong in some situation only because the abuser has great victim playing ability and gaslighting over the real victims. Why are beeji, yashdeep, yashpal and hotel employees beliving anupam ais very good and innocent and soft hearted, devika etc contrary to her real behaviour

Basically none other than shahs know anupama well not even anuj or CA as they have spent very less time with her. That is why vanraj or pakhi orr toshu can easily catch her lies and wrongs as they are peas of same pod and spent 25 years with her so can easily recognize from where her behavior or words are coming from. They are also narcissist and gaslighting others from decades so can recognize another narcissist easily.

But anujj, CA, malvika, GK kaka, Ankush, Romil, adhik even MD and barkha have hardly known anupama from 2 to 3 years. So its tough for them to know when anupama is gaslighting or manipulating situation or emotions against them.

Although adhya is getting scared of anupa afor very reason thats shes terrified all this gaslighting and narcissim will start again in her life again if anupama comes back

I am not sure how a 12 year old child can catch anupama true nature so easily like her 25-35 year old kids but some have strong sixth sense or ability to guess an human nature. And its said girls can easily look at people and know who has dangerous intentions going on in mind as they have to be careful in this world to be safer.

Like a cat give it hot milk next time it wll not drink it will check thoroughly if milk is cold than only drink. May be adhya trying to do same as a cat ready fed with hot milk whose burnt her tounge before

Imagine the kind of tension family has staying with narcissit and gaslighting people for years and decades. What will happen to their mental health?

Aadhya is already showing sign of mental illness with anxiety, fear, depression and upset and anger. Its not misbehaviour as others say, this is sign of grave mental trauma and disease by aadhya. Such people in future have nager issues, depression may even attempt suicide if they are not able to stay away from people who gaslight or show narcissism trait and target them like anupam ahas done to aadhya, malvika and anuj etc People in such family are always upset or anxious and tensed and cannot study or work properly and are introverts or party a lot to forget trauma and stay away from abusers

malvika herself was depressed as she was hit and abused and raped by husband for one year after marraige. Than anuj left her alone for 10 years to roam world instead of taking care of her and being with her taking her to doctor etc. Than she was abused by vanraj shah for her wealth and business.

now adhya seems to have similar fate.

In a closed society like india or entire asia its tough to speak against family or elders or parents what abuse they are doing easily. No one will listen against family or parents even if they know what others saying is right. So there is no much scope of adhya being safegaurded agianst abuse by anupam aor shahs in future too. Like samar suffered abuse at hands of vanraj and toshu/pakhi bullying and died young, adhya has similar fate. Malvika is one more who had similar fate as samr and adhya but hopefully has better life now away from anuj and anupama and shahs. Sometimes its better to live alone away from family so caling loving parents, siblings, spouse etc to regain sanity and health mental or physical.

Nowadays diabeti, bp, heart etc is high compared to 1960s or 1980s why? Because one is chemical in food. But nore than that there is lot of abuse going on both inside and outside house in family in school in college or office. That leads to lot of health issues even so called diseases like acidity, diabetes, bp, heart attack etc its proved in study

People in forum and even Sma rea making out jokes on aadhya anger issues and panic attacks acting etc but this is not so simple as a kid being rude to parents. Usually its sign of mental disease or even health issue like thyroid, bp, diabetes etc or phsychology disorder. A persobn cannot constanty live with people who do not treat them nicely be it shahs or anupma and have good health they will have lot of health issues actually. Its best malvika adopts adhya if anuj want to stay with anupama at nay cost she will be better health and safe without anupam aor shahs with her around her. Or anuj may regret one day as adhya may attempt suicide etc

Anuj had bp used to take tablets before marrying anupama. What happened there?

What adhya is undergoing is no joking matter or kid being ungreatful to adopted paents its serious issue. In USA parent can get arrested for ill treating kids or kids can be taken away by child care

Her "gaslighting" trance was broken when she found out about VanYa affair. It was her "need to be needed" that made her keep going back to the Shahs. Just listen to how she gives credit to her motherhood for her cooking skills. I know enough mothers who don't cook well and great cooks who are not mothers (or women for that matter)

If we see Vanraj, his current behavior is almost the same. He wants people to be around him so that he feels needed, feels insecure at the slightest chance of someone else being instrumental in being able to fulfill his family's needs. The difference is only that he uses anger to hold them back.

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Kapadias were nice and accepted Anupama even though upma was never there level .Anuj is educated classy, handsome and rich guy ,upma was no match for Anuj and the kapadias. She has regressive mind and unpaid maid to shah family.

Despite having lovely family like Kanta and bhavesh she still choose to suffer and I blamed kanta maa for ignoring this.

And yes shah family knows upma more then kapadias since she spend 25 years with them .which is sad since she don't deserve the 25 years of suffering but now i believe she deserve it because she was emotional manipulated by shah family which kapadias never did

Originally posted by: Historia

Kapadias were nice and accepted Anupama even though upma was never there level .Anuj is educated classy, handsome and rich guy ,upma was no match for Anuj and the kapadias. She has regressive mind and unpaid maid to shah family.

Despite having lovely family like Kanta and bhavesh she still choose to suffer and I blamed kanta maa for ignoring this.

And yes shah family knows upma more then kapadias since she spend 25 years with them .which is sad since she don't deserve the 25 years of suffering but now i believe she deserve it because she was emotional manipulated by shah family which kapadias never did

anupama is not so innocent as audience thinks actually

she has abused others who have helped her only because she has power over them. Like rakhi daughter kinjal is her daughter in law so abuse rakhi, abuse malati devi because anuj hates his mom, abuse barkha bhabhi as anuj hates her, threaten adhik as anuj will support her not adhik his relatives, slap dimpy as she has no family neither rich like kinjal beautiful.

she has allowed pakhi to use anuj money, she has allowed vanraj, baa, toshu and pahi to abuse ca and shahs to hit and abuse anuj kapadiya in front of her only yet shamelessly uses his money for same shahs. you tell me which wife will give money to her hubby abusers?

she saw vanraj trapping malvika adepression patient in EMA yet kept quiet as through EMA vanraj will gain control of kapadiya empire and it will benefit her shahs

she even kept quiet at bhavesh and kanta humilation by vanrja and baa and samar abuse by vanraj toshu and pakhi because she wanted to remain in good books of them

she is now acting as if anuj and ca have done wrong not her to leave them and walk off putting all blame on their happiness etc

i can go one about what all shes done but let me stop

anupam always betrays those who are nice to her or support her in tough times actually like anuj, ca, malvika, gk kaka, kanta, bhavesh, ankush, devika, malati devi etc

shes not at all a role model for women empowerment or for a good human or mother

yes 25 ywears vanraj and his parents and her 2 kids abused her but she has done same to anuj ca malvika malati kanta etc what vanraj and baa and hasmukh etc did to her

S9 anupama should bow down false allegation and should listen qutitely to falsr allegation at anupama is not narascastic