A complete failure - Page 3

Food for the old age home was a free service which she might have talked about it with the authorities who runs it.(These things are irrelevant ,so the focus was on her 'udaan').

She is still uploading videos after reaching U,S.I felt she is self motivated, She just doesn't want to reveal her identity.

My question is if her persuasion skill (read bhasans) works on everyone - from doctors, to business magnates, to school authorities, to dance panel judges to subjiwala to all the Amrikan, all and sundry, why has it failed so miserably on her actual phemily (Shahs) and her own kids?

Also while she was in India, she used to run yo Shah's House for trivial reasons like bapu Ji ko cheenk aayi sur baa ka jhula tut gaya... How have Shahs survived without her for so long now???

Originally posted by: Paru...

Her youtube channel is still running successfully.

"Samman"-respect,was the promise of their marriage .But her so called loving husband broke it several times and the breaking point was when he humiliated her publicly saying that he took a hasty decision by marrying her which was a mistake.So she had decided to make him free as he confessed her baggage suffocated him without pointing out his flaws publicly and thus keeping the promise of their marriage-"Samman".

Anuj had begged her many many many times privately to prioritise her family. She didn't. When a loved one is wrong even parents question them because they care for them. First they try privately but then they also scold publicly.

Samman is earned, it's not someone's jagir to be always there. Even the most loved one can lose respect. I love my wife but if she cheats or does something wrong she will lose my love and samman both. I am sure this is true for any husband and wife.

Marriage is an equal relationship between husband and wife, if either one becomes "unquestionable", the it's not marriage, it's slavery. What you are saying is that Anupama could do anything but can never be questioned and Anuj just needs to tolerate it. That's not how marriage works, marriage is a responsibilty.

An emotionally cheating wife who spends 90% of time at her exes house and neglects husband and child deserves no samman.

Posts like these pretend that a woman can never be questioned no matter how wrong she is. Why?

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This is exactly why when women have real issues and problems people don't believe. Because there are people who pretend that a woman can do a million wrongs bur can never be questioned and should be given samman because she is a woman? Why?

Originally posted by: Harish111

Marriage is an equal relationship between husband and wife, if either one becomes "unquestionable", the it's not marriage, it's slavery. What you are saying is that Anupama could do anything but can never be questioned and Anuj just needs to tolerate it. That's not how marriage works, marriage is a responsibilty.

An emotionally cheating wife who spends 90% of time at her exes house and neglects husband and child deserves no samman.

As per Maa and her phans, she had already laid down certain conditions (Baggage from Past) before joining this Full Time Job that is second Marriage when she already had a lot of workload (read: baggage) from her Part Time Job, that’s her First Marriage, when the FT Job started asking more time and attention as her performance was dipping, she announced that her PT Job is only her FT job and her baggage needs her more, they are paying her with Samman, Pyaar, Parivar, Rishte - so she not only decided to quit her FT Job but also chose to abscond without any notice period because how dare they question her loyalty towards them and how dare they even point out her Baggage, and how dare they not read her terms and conditions before hiring her while she had already clarified everything beforehand ke paise FT ke lungi but attention PT se bhi kam milega, take it or leave it 😂

That’s Maa a nutshell who joined a FT Job just for the sake for money and luxuries and also make her PT employer jealous so they can convert her to FT, she treats her phemily and rishte like some job and jimmedari, karna sab hai PT FT sab sab sab but kisko kitna prioritize karna hai, karna hai bhi ya nahi, wo bhi Maa decide karegi.

Jai Vanraaj baba ki.

He was a visionary. He knew what future held for Anuj and Anupama. He was always concerned for Anupama. He wasn't stopping her because he was jealous. He was stopping her because he was concerned that she will be hurt again. He was also concerned for Anuj. He knew that Anupama will make his life a hell just like she made his life a hell for 26 years.

Originally posted by: Paru...

She has never disrespected him publicly.I am accepting that he got disrespect from Sh members several times. But she has always respected him and never used harsh words against him. So this is just a mere accusation.

If he wanted to accuse her he could have done it privately. But he was quite rude with her. Suddenly he appeared to be detached from her as instead of calling her Anu, he started calling her Anupamaa(saying he rephrase the words).Anu always gave him the clear picture about her baggage.But he was always a mysterious person for her where the quantity of his baggage got increased with time.

She has cancelled her 'udaan' for these people after facing public humiliation from him and Ca.But still she was blamed and humiliated after saving life of CA. accusing her for not prioritizing Ca in saving over Pari.

If you are family you do not stand and watch as others humiliate your family or grab his collar

If someone catch vanraj collar or abuse him will anupam abe quiet how she threw rakhi out for speaking truth

Anupama was quiet when vanraj threw him out of samar funeral in front of her eyes and also told him she sees samar face when he comes in front means hes murder accused in samar case or what?

Originally posted by: Jefen

Jai Vanraaj baba ki.

He was a visionary. He knew what future held for Anuj and Anupama. He was always concerned for Anupama. He wasn't stopping her because he was jealous. He was stopping her because he was concerned that she will be hurt again. He was also concerned for Anuj. He knew that Anupama will make his life a hell just like she made his life a hell for 26 years.

I still wonder why anupama never behaved with vanraj the way she did with anuj kapadiya after all both are husbands

and how come she dare not show knife to baa 26 years although in 2 months she showed one to malati

was she putting some face mask of innocent bechari at shah house for 26 years

You never know some manipulative women are there, they cat goody goody innocent bichari in front of public and inside four walls are manipulative scheming etc may be vanraj understood how she truly was as living with someone 26 years can make you aware of their true natures. I have seen both men and woman who wear masks in real life both at home and office and pretend to be nice while they are not really but they know how to fool large public and even relatives or family easily and not let their true nature out till many years

May be anupama was hiding her true nature in shah house because suddenly an human cannot undergo 360 degree change that anupama did after marrying anuj akpadiya Or was it all that wealth and power in her name that she changed so much

Originally posted by: Paru...

Food for the old age home was a free service which she might have talked about it with the authorities who runs it.(These things are irrelevant ,so the focus was on her 'udaan').

She is still uploading videos after reaching U,S.I felt she is self motivated, She just doesn't want to reveal her identity.

Free service is still a service, a commitment. If she had informed authorities, the delivery boy wouldn't have come to pick the order the following day. She promised a cake for an aged inmate and Anupama conveniently left giving a box of imli toffees to the boy.

We can only speak for what is shown.

Udaan comes with commitment. To fulfill promises made.

The udaan itself is irrelevant because it has NO EFFORT whatsoever from Anupama's side. It is a favour by a friend.

She stopped uploading upon reaching US. It was Vikram who recognised "Joshi Ben" as Anupama and convinced her, her other colleagues even recorded for her.

Still also not realizing her mistake, thinks Anuj is wrong as he has given her a reality check. Now also she is thinking she has not done any mistake. If husband told something and she got angry, how can she live that 7 years old daughter and leave, even we cannot leave even dog like this as if Choti is not belongs to her, it is only Anuj's responsibility, even we don't accept this type of actions in serials also.

Originally posted by: Harish111

Anuj had begged her many many many times privately to prioritise her family. She didn't. When a loved one is wrong even parents question them because they care for them. First they try privately but then they also scold publicly.

Yes he has and it was before Maya track.But after their reunion he was the one who initiated in conducting functions including Shahs and frequently joined Anu in visiting SH.But after the accident incident he suddenly changed his color saying he has been suffocating with her baggage ,accusing her for infidility and confessing marraige with her was a hasty decision.These accusations are not mere scolding which parents do,here he was humilaiting his wife infront of the whole family and those words were not slip of the tongue as Ankush tried to stop him Ak asked him not to interfere.

Samman is earned, it's not someone's jagir to be always there. Even the most loved one can lose respect. I love my wife but if she cheats or does something wrong she will lose my love and samman both. I am sure this is true for any husband and wife.

Yes ,I Agree. That could be the reason she had decided to end the relationship as there was no respect remaining in their relationship saying that "expiry date of our relationship has reached".But here she lost respect because of misunderstanding and not because of cheating,

Marriage is an equal relationship between husband and wife, if either one becomes "unquestionable", the it's not marriage, it's slavery. What you are saying is that Anupama could do anything but can never be questioned and Anuj just needs to tolerate it. That's not how marriage works, marriage is a responsibilty.

She has never treated him like a slave .If he has disagreement with her actions they were definitely questionable.But here he was accusing and humiliating her.

An emotionally cheating wife who spends 90% of time at her exes house and neglects husband and child deserves no samman.

U r overexaggerating things and figures. Whether she deserved it or not she was humiliated after saving everyone's life and her loving husband didn't bother to enquire about her health eventhough her life was also in danger.

Posts like these pretend that a woman can never be questioned no matter how wrong she is. Why?

posts like urs pretend that only women are questionable and are always at fault.

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This is exactly why when women have real issues and problems people don't believe. Because there are people who pretend that a woman can do a million wrongs bur can never be questioned and should be given samman because she is a woman? Why?

Just because Anu didn't pin point Ak's fault doesn't make him a perfect person. I am glad she left him and Km gracefully as there was nothing she could give more.