Anuj and Choti don't deserve Anu - Page 3

The car accident blame was just her Karma for what she did. She's always made Shahs the priority. It's natural for choti to think that this lady would save the Shahs and leave her to die in that car. Cause she has never been important enough. When she was having panic attack Anupama was busy with Pari. So obviously choti will blame Anupama. She's a child, she can't think logically. Her survival instincts told her the only way she could save herself is to sit with the Shahs at the front. Even if Anupama reassured but she had broken promises before of prioritising them. She's not reliable.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Cant anuj explain to choti that 4 people can't sit at front tumhe mummy ki baat manni chahiye nahi to tumhe chot lag jaati

Ajeeb pagal panti hai ajib jid hai just because choti is not allowed to made sit In front is choti si baat ka bakheda khada kar diya that is why told vanraj and anuj mein kya difference hai agar anuj bhi aise hi jars Jara si baat pe anupama ko blame karne lage

After picnic incident there is no valid reason that every body was shouting at anupama

To mummy bhi peeche beth sakti thi with Pari in her carriage n Chotti beside her mummy..

True, both are dumb.

They don't deserve anupama.

Does anupama deserve anuj and choti??

Anupama chants nth times a day, mei maa hoon, ek maa baccho ko kaise chor sakti hai. Was this verse applicable for Shahs only. Anupama never left pakhi n toshu who are the dumbest and have their own family but left choti in a moment.that means choti uski kabhi thi hi nahi.

Even today, her dialog was - mei apna baggage khud uthaongi...means Shahs ko nahi chor sakti but Anuj aur CA ko chor sakti hai.

Exactly they don't deserve this hell of a woman...

Their characters better be cut off from the show.

She can happily dance with her exes getting abused all day while serving them cold kophi, milk, burger thepla, khichdi, kachoombar to them.

Exactly Anuj is worse than Vanraj . Asking your wife to set healthy boundaries for her own sake , letting her go to her ex house daily despite no normal man would be willing to do that, giving her respect, property, financial aid that she never got in 25 years , supporting her to the point that you even agree to celebrate her ex husbands wife baby shower for 2 nd time who destroyed your first marriage..

Above things are definitely worse than stopping her from getting educated, never taking a stand for her, leaving her alone to deal with burdens on every step, bllaming her for each and everything, often throwing her out of room at midnight and even home dare she spends even 1 minute for herself, calling her masaledaani despite eating food made by her only, not letting her grow anywhere and putting all the blames on her , mentally, emotionally and physically abusing her for 25 years.

Vanraj is a saint and definitely Anuj a devil.

How hard it is to understand that apne ghar mein time spend karna, apne family (Current) ke liye cheezein karna is normal human behavior, not a favor jise roz ginaya jaaye.

We all have a routine after getting up every morning doing normal things for self and family, chahe wo khana banana ho, exercise ho, getting ready leaving for office supervising the maid, having that morning cup of Coffee with your spouse, dropping kids to school, helping them with homework, spending time with them on weekends and holidays, planning outings - ye sab ek normal life normal family roz karti hai but ye nahi bolti aaj maine tumhare liye kapde iron kiye, subah coffee banayi thi, raat mein medicine di thi.

Apne ghar mein rehna ya bahar jaake wapas apne ghar mein aana is normal, apne ghar mein sona is normal.

Only maids run from one house to another after finishing work at one place.

Apne ex in laws ke yahan din mein 4 bar jana, majboori, jimmedari, matke, bati hui Orat ye sab words villagers bhi use nahi karte

Bachhe jab bade ho jate hain shadi kar lete hain to unhe apni life apne hisab se jeene deni chahiye, apne ex in laws ko Maa Baap bana lena aur apni real Maa ko saal mein ek ya do bar milna is not normal.

Anuj sent her to Shah house many times at important events or emergency situations that doesn’t mean wo poora din wahi rahe, unhi ki baatein kare, unhi ki problems discuss kare, apni ex sautan ke liye 2 bar 4 bar parties throw kare apne pati ke paiso se, Apna Stree Dhan apna Gold apni Ex Saas ko gift kar de, unhe saal mein 10 bar apne Current pati ke yahan le aaye rehne ko aur apni Current Saas ko chaaku dikhaye dhamkiya de ghar se nikalne ki, aadhi raat ko alne ex pati se milne bahar jaye aur apne Pati ko reason bhi na bataye?

I mean list of Anupamaa’s kaands is unending, Anuj tried being an understanding partner, mingle with her ex inlaws, taking care of them helping them in financial matters, but Anupama and Shahs ko ungli pakdayi unhone gala pakad liya?

Kisi ki achhayi ka itna bhi faida nahi uthana chahiye ki wo apni achhayi bhul jaye aur usse sab kuch yaad dilana pade jo aaj tak kiya.
Na Anuj ne aaj tak Anupama ko Shahs se milne se roka na wahan jaane se mana kiya, healthy boundaries draw karne boli thi jiska matlab hai poora din wahan mat padi raho, baat baat pe bhaag ke mat jao, wahan khana chai nashta coffee mat banao, apne pati apni bachhi ke saath time spend karo, how difficult is it to understand simple normal behavior?

Apni izzat apne haath hoti hai, isliliye Anupamaa ka aaj na koi ghar hai na parivar. Na kisi ne usse roka, agar relations ko baggage bolna pade to wo relations rakhne nahi chahiye.
Simple things difficult to understand for abnormal people like Maa

So u want to say anupama should always carry choti anu in lap while anupama eating bathing cooking other wise choti will feel neglected and then choti will complain to anuj that mummy to bus khaana bane mein busy thi unhone mujhe khaane banate samay muhe godi mein nahi liya mummy mujhese pyaar nahi karti other wise mujhe godi lekar tub woh khana banati

No they don't. The MaAn relationship has become the most unbalanced, toxic relationship... They really should not be together.

Anupama can go back to Vanraj or stay single and live with Shahs.

Anuj can stay with CA and remarry or stay single with his never ending new relatives.

She loved the idea of being loved/rubbing it in the Shahs face that she has moved on while he loved the idea of getting married to his first crush. He should have talked to her about adoption/family before their wedding and she should have made it clear that she would always keep the Shah's life as priority. She had a baggage she was unwilling to let go and he should have known it. He should have atleast had the spine to say no to her instead of worshipping every wrong thing she did... Anyway, the marriage shouldn't have occurred and should not happen anytime again too.

Jo Ghar mein aaya aati hai log unka bhi thanks maante hai Even she is getting money

But yahan yeh kaha jaa raha hai apni family karna koi favour nahi but yeh uski duty hai ?

Sreemoye mein Leena Ganguly is baat pe mudda uthaya tha ki Maa khuch bhi kare parivar ke liye but maa koi favour nahi karti but yeh uski duty hai ?

Isi mudda pe to Sreemoye anupama serial Bana hai Matlab ek house wive khuch bhi kare to badi baat nahi yeh uski duty Hai .

So you are saying that these are only times when she gone to shah house.

No one has problem with her going for Samar’s marriage,Samar’s death or when Toshu was paralysed or for kinjal delivery but she can avoid going there for welcome ceremony or naming ceremony. Her husband was in need even if he ask her to go and enjoy.

Even if Kavya was step mother of the kids then also it was her right to sit in poojas n rituals with Vantaj. Anupama can also perform that ritual latter alone or with Anuj. These type of rituals done by only with husband n wife or alone.

We have problem when prioritise baa’s khichdi over CA functions. She could have ask Pakhi to make it then come after some time or she could have ask Baa to adjust for just one day.

There was no need for her say that baa Babuji doesn’t eat food cooked by maid when he asked her to stay away n told her that he hired a maid for household work. What was she going to do there if not going there everyday to cook n serve baa Babuji.

What was Anupama Devi’s solution for that.

You are counting everything that Anupama did for Anuj but forgot that he is her present husband.

Anuj also massage Anupama shoulder and let her sleep long when she comes tired from doing shah house hold works. He made her take rest. He also solves shah house problems so Anupama can be stress free. He do it on daily basis.

Anuj have stopped her or questioned her only three times and she give up on him two times in them. She didn’t putted or realised her mistakes for once. And one time when she didn’t leave she was always thinking about shahs so Anuj gave up that time.

Why didn’t she shown her trust in Anuj at Samar’s death track like she shown her trust in Mr shah when Anuj fell off the clip. Don’t tell me that she was in grief of Samar’s death because Anuj could have also died after falling from clip but she had all heart to defend Mr shah.

Anuj did not remember thar he stay with maaya u left anupama altogether for maaya anuj does not remember what he has done but putting whole blame on anupama ki anupama tumne yeh nahi Kiya woh nahi Kiya,blah blah

Yeh anuj khud hi involve hota hai shah house mein baad mein khud hi bolta hai anupama mujhe ignore Kar rahi hai

Mr anuj kapdia u urself stay with shah family and laughing with vanraj when anupama went for rakhi birthday when anupama even did not ask u stay with vanraj

So Mr anuj kapdia bahut baatein khud apni marji se ki hai

So t is wrong to put whole blame on anupama ki tum hamsesha shah house mein jaati ho

Ur ar himself interested in shah family

Both Mr vanraj shah and Mr anuj kapdia consoling each other many times when anupama was not even present there

Holding vanraj when vanraj about faint

Everyone has own Share of mistakes but putting whole blame on anupama is not right thing