So there are two major differences in situation of anupama and anuj when they are supposedly drifting away from each other due to first choti anu and now samar.
First is that anupama very well knew CA was sacrificing for them but still choose to purposely let her go
On the other hand in case of samar anuj obviously didn't know that samar would die in the situation. Are they trying to portray that if a girl is being molested by someone then a gentleman should let it happen and not intervene ? Bcoz if we go by anupamaaaaa ka logic then yes bcoz her bakuda died so anuj shouldn't have interfered . Make it make sense
Second is that Anuj was alone then too when he choose distance from anupamaaa and now too he will be alone when maa choose distance from him. Maa has her own other 2 kids and her shah phemily even her eid ka chand family who shows up once in a while meaning kanta ben and maa ka bhai but anuj has only choti anu
Hopefully anuj has enough brain cells left to not do tandav like meri anu
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