anupama is failure in everything except house work - Page 3

Originally posted by: Wanderers36

But when Anupama is meant to be a housewife, why should anyone keep great expectations from her otherwise? Women like her are brought up and raised with one motive - of having kids and caring for the husband and in-laws. They are not taught to have a life beyond that or prioritise anything else. Anupama took care of her house adeptly. Even if her children turned out to be disrespectful, her husband cheated on her and her family did not value her efforts, she fulfilled her responsibilities towards them and continues to do so.

It's pointless to expect a woman in her circumstances and at her age to suddenly become a career driven individual and have her own indvidual identity. If that was the case here, she would moved far ahead and not been caught up in their matters, even now. But such an ideal scenario rarely happens. It is beyond her capability to achieve these things and she must be adjudged from the lens of housework, as that is what truly matters to her

I agree that woman like anupama can only do house work and be house wife

But this serial shows shes super man and can do anything and inspiration without really being good at anything in life

Shes got everything on platter you see - dance academy hasmukh git, online class samar idea, job in school devika, kapadiya empire anuj gift

what has she done on own ever nothing all others gift or efforts she got like neptoism stars of bollywood

Does she desrve all this actually - especially being owner of kapadiya empire

If she was so good in work as serial claims why ankush and adhik have to take care of kapadiya empire in anuj absence why she cannot handle company? Because she has no competency

Look at many big company no business owner has made wife as head of business like anuj be it microsoft or infosys wipro etc only competent people they have done as next owner or CEO

How is anupama who is 12th pass was made kapadiya empire owner without any competency at all? Is this not nepotism that bollywood does

I see on TV young 20 year olds saying they are inspired by anupama how are they inspired?

I do not mind you being 12th pass if you are competent like bill gates or steve jobs or azim premji and had to leave study in between because of some circumstances

But anupama has no competency at all to run bisiness and is owner of such big kapadiya empire - which share holder or employee will accept to report to an person very less competent than even receptionist or peon in todays times ? Atleast this bill gates, stece jobs, azim premji all got admission in harvard etc but left college in between to run their company. Getting admission in harvard was a big thing in 70s-80s that means all 3 are capable and competent but could not finish college as they got responsibility and left study in between

But this serial tries to show anupama is better than anuj, ankush, adhik, kinjal etc everyone although they all are far better competent and highly qulaified and experienced in life

They are indirectly mocking people who have studied for 20 years 25 years and worked their ass off 25 or 30 years more than become CEO or MD or business men etc thats a concern the messaging in serial thorough anupama

This lady anupama does not even acknowledge shes incompetent for many jobs but her attitude is like i know everything i am superior than all. How will she progress in life or learn anything new if she thinks she knows all when in reality she knows hardly 5% of what kinjal, anuj, ankush, adhik, rakhi know or do in real life.

In real.iife nobody start business on his own unko kahin na kahin se financial support milta hai

Financial support mil bhi jaaye but financial support milne se business success ful ho jaaye yeh koi guarantee nahi hai

Jitendra give financial help to Ekta Kapoor so that she can make tv serial

Jitendra ne help ki Ekta ki but tv industries mein business ko aage Bhadana yeh Ekta ke haath mein tha

In same way I know in real life father gave 1 lakh to her daughter to start beauty parlor . And beauty parlor ko run karna daughter ke haath mein hai

Real life mein business start karne mein kisi ke help lete hai shuru mein financial help lene mein koi buraai nahi hai otherwise kaise business start karoge ki jub aapke pass koi saadhan nahi hai

Many people say vanraj stopped her baa stopped her etc

Ask anyone born before 2000 or so especially girls their parents would put so many restrictions on them like no going out, no learning dance or song, o playing in graden with other kids, no talking to boys in area, no tutions etc lot of restriction was there to girls born before 2000s

Yet girls study and work in big company like infosys, wipro, IBM, microsoft etc even in early 2000s and now

Did their parents truly encourage them actually no lot of restictions are there than and even now as india is patriarchal society and usally boys get more preference and encouragement by family or parents

Yet girls get more pass and ranks with limited resources in india in 10th or 12th or engineering or MBBS

This after so many restrictions no tutions no backing and also doing house work unlike men or brothers at home who only study and play

All those who are working in big big company especially infosys, wipro, IBM etc girls have not got any special preference by their parents or family yet they have worked hard despite all obtacle and gone up in life

So this idea that vanraj stopped baa stopped anupama mother stopped anuj stopped kids stopped all is bogus argument

If you are interested no one can stop

Many woman work in IT company 14 hours a day taking care of 2 kids husband home alone

They wake up at 4am and cook and go to office at 8am and come back at 9pm than cook etc people are day dreaming if they think only anupam adoes house work has kids husband in laws etc and those who work in big companies do not have any responsibility of in laws, hubby, kids, house work, cooking etc

People do not know reality of life if they think only anupama has husband, kids, in laws, aged parents and house work others are just enjoying going to work and sleeping at home

Indeed most career woman work in india work 3 times more than any anupama especially in corporate work 12 to 14 hours daily plus do house work and take care of kids and hubby etc or take care of anyone sick etc

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I agree that woman like anupama can only do house work and be house wife

But this serial shows shes super man and can do anything and inspiration without really being good at anything in life

Shes got everything on platter you see - dance academy hasmukh git, online class samar idea, job in school devika, kapadiya empire anuj gift

what has she done on own ever nothing all others gift or efforts she got like neptoism stars of bollywood

Does she desrve all this actually - especially being owner of kapadiya empire

If she was so good in work as serial claims why ankush and adhik have to take care of kapadiya empire in anuj absence why she cannot handle company? Because she has no competency

Look at many big company no business owner has made wife as head of business like anuj be it microsoft or infosys wipro etc only competent people they have done as next owner or CEO

How is anupama who is 12th pass was made kapadiya empire owner without any competency at all? Is this not nepotism that bollywood does

I see on TV young 20 year olds saying they are inspired by anupama how are they inspired?

I do not mind you being 12th pass if you are competent like bill gates or steve jobs or azim premji and had to leave study in between because of some circumstances

But anupama has no competency at all to run bisiness and is owner of such big kapadiya empire - which share holder or employee will accept to report to an person very less competent than even receptionist or peon in todays times ? Atleast this bill gates, stece jobs, azim premji all got admission in harvard etc but left college in between to run their company. Getting admission in harvard was a big thing in 70s-80s that means all 3 are capable and competent but could not finish college as they got responsibility and left study in between

But this serial tries to show anupama is better than anuj, ankush, adhik, kinjal etc everyone although they all are far better competent and highly qulaified and experienced in life

They are indirectly mocking people who have studied for 20 years 25 years and worked their ass off 25 or 30 years more than become CEO or MD or business men etc thats a concern the messaging in serial thorough anupama

This lady anupama does not even acknowledge shes incompetent for many jobs but her attitude is like i know everything i am superior than all. How will she progress in life or learn anything new if she thinks she knows all when in reality she knows hardly 5% of what kinjal, anuj, ankush, adhik, rakhi know or do in real life.

I agree with you ,anuj, at their wedding, transferred the signing authority of Kapadia empire to Anupama. Anupamaa wants NO part of it. Malti wants Anupama to handle the running of one of her US dance schools. Does Anupama even have the experience OR skill set for these tasks? Making her Signing authority of KE, was definitely not required as she had no experience there,

not sure how audience connect to this serial.. only few bits and pieces are good.

first of all How come one women do everything ??why makers wants to show she is a super women with utter failure. she didn't even complete anything. which she took as a challenge i will do everything.. what is this nayyi uddann every time.

all working women are fools to hold their jobs properly. working hard to mange both work and families.

now America dance academy. do they even know how strict rules here in America. i wont send my daughter just like that.

dance academies are not like restaurants.. this is not a store who can pass their contract to tom dick and harry. years of work and effort they put here i have see that. very few are established. main important thing is they have to have Dance academy degree licence certification teach kids..do Anupuma has that ??

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she failed as mother look at her kids how selfish, greddy they are?

As a wife i understand being married such a young age, you do not have much understanding and options left other than moving farward in life. so many lifes are like that.. Anupuma is not the only one..

okay god has given her second chances what she did ??not giving attention to the 26yrs of love. .always run to solve ex -in-laws house .for god sake all her kids are adults...who can handle life.. they are not in teens.

she didn't even give 1 %attention to adopted kid. what is the point of adopting// it is a biggest decision in any one life.

OMG iam sorry i can not connect with this women not even 1% of inspiration in her life .. i have seen many women started their carrier later in a life and went in to heights still managing work and families.. iam one of them i started my carrier in 30's after my kids grown up.

not sure what makers what's to show with this confused mentality women .keep on changing decisions in life out come is failure..

i still wonder how audience connect??

It is not story how much wife work in a day sab ki apni apni capacity hoti Hai kaam karne ki so that is not point of serial how much one some one is doing work

This serial is about how mother don't get value of her love and care just because she is only 12th pass and cannot speak properly English

May be there are ladies who are working day and night but atleatst unki family kahin na kahin wife ko mentally emotillaly support karti hogi

And please I don't believe ki bhi working wife akele 10 ghante job bhi karle aur 10 logon ka khaana teen time please it is not possible at all

I know Most of working women if family is big they do keep khans banane Wali bartan done Wal and jhaadoo pocha msy be working women wash clothes do dusting amd marketing alone but it is not possible for working to.do each and every work all alone that too for 10 people sorry itni energy itna time kisi me pass nahi Hota

Agar inko sub khuch khud hi karna hai why they are earning

The only thing Anupama requires to improve rather inculcate in herself is saying NO!

I know many ladies specially of her age who can't say no to anyone out of fear or conditioning and create a mess around everything. Because of this habit they even create troubles for their well wishers.

You need to understand from where it's coming from.A housewife like Anupama who will be judged and termed as inefficient or useless if she doesn't care for everyone in the family and meet their needs will never be able to say things on face. As she was not generating any monetory values she was expected to take care of everything in the household and never utter a word.

That's why when finally she divorced vanraj it was indeed a big step. And that is why all house wives related to Anupama and thus TRP.

BUT after that the reality check started. Where rather on focusing her struggle as a single women making her career, with limited education , exploring the world , makers again started serving the same Shah house raitaa to us. Even Anuj could also be introduced as a financer and they could have gradually developed feelings while working together.

But No! They have to serve masala to House ladies.so all this SH drama, maaya nonsense they have to bring in. They will not graduate Anupama character. She will still be stammering and crying all the time even if she has everything someone can only dream off.

A jumbo - big - Mega - Giga bite thank you for this post. ❤️.

She learned one thing how to abuse either directly or via her param pujanio Baaa Mawali or Mistor Sha to those whom she does not care at all.....Dhuuu

She just wants to be in lime light. Is there there any unpor - politician post open over there? She can apply.

Is it a mere coincidence that everyone cheering Anupama becomes ungrateful to their own?

1. Kinjal is ungrateful to her own mother. You let her being called names? Woman, you are safe from abuse thanks to her, else you would have long been treated like a doormat. You can dare make the tall claims because you know you can always fall back on Rakhi Dave and she will protect you.

Oh, with Leela emotionally blackmailing you, she proved that she needs you at Shah House as a maid because Dimple will not take nonsense.

2. Anuj is ungrateful to his adoptive parents' inherentance (Kapadia Empire), his sister, his own Bhai-Bhabhi who apparently were very important part in his growing up years. He let his own sister be emotionally abused by Vanraj so much so that he left her to herself knowing Vanraj's intentions fully well. He let Vanraj who attempted to murder him go scott-free but made his own family apologise to everyone Shahs included. Hesitated giving a loan to his Bhai-Bhabhi and treated them badly while he distributed lakhs to Shahs. He handed over his inheritance to a naive, incompetent Anupama who neither respected it nor put in efforts nor appreciated it.

Knowing well how Choti Anu was treated, he inturn took the Entire blame on himself in an attempt to patronize Anupama's treatment (lack of it) towards his daughter.

3. Malati Devi who is a world famous dancer was ready to give her a "Visharad" without sadhana or tapasya and make her the Heir ignoring the people who have years of Sadhana and experience. This is a blatant mockery of the parishram and sadhana people put into learning the Art especially at an international level where you represent your nation 🤦🏻‍♀️

Now coming to Anupama. First, for her, her mother Kanta is only an option. If tomorrow, Leela were to ask for something, she would gladly foresake Kanta and run to Shah House.

Her treatment of Anuj and his family, what do we even tell about it.

Really, What efforts has Anupama taken for her life pr the people who care for her?

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

Everyone has acknowledged their shortcomings and put in efforts to better their lives. They have shown gratitude for the mercies life has offered them. (Excluding Leela-Hansmukh and the rest of the Shahs because 🤷🏻‍♀️)

There is only one exception to this rule, who believes she needs no change and she is the BESHT. The holier than thou attitude.

That is the end of learning and growth.

Precisely. We see defenses on both - Anupama wasn’t allowed to do anything how she’d know all this…… And ALSO Anupama knows everything don’t question her. 🤣

Maaya (till she became cuckoo for script’s demand) or Kavya’s journey are more inspirational. If they get their spinoffs, I will definitely give those a try. Maa’s journey has become meaningless where there is zero growth in her character. If anything, she’s had a good growth in becoming #1 narcissist in the show.