Reality check

I am often curious that how can they show Anupama so normal and going into a relationship after such painful betrayal. I believe that living under such an abuse and torture would definitely end up anyone in an asylum or even s***ide. I maybe again wrong here as the world is wider than my thinking. It's just a fictional show but i think people living under such an abuse don't get so rosy easily as like Anupama. I don't watch itv . I left it in my childhood due to the nonsense drama which still prevails. The main characters never get happiness and only meet at the end . They take so so so long to propose , then marry and yeah that special suhaag raat episode. 😆

But this particular show Anupama would have made sense if Anupama and Anuj still didn't tie the knot because of the mental effects of abuse on FL. She would be scared of loving someone after horrific betrayal. The long time taken to develop their relationship would have made sense but makers rushed and boom she is magically in love. Didn't make sense according to me . The long term abuse has serious effects. This show fails to show that.

Bolte nahi ki doodh ka jala chaach bhi fook fook ke Peeta hai...

And look at her now . She is riding jhoola ,roller coaster , boat, cycle, motorcycle , pata nahi kya kya with her abuser 🤗👏.

Because apparently she is mahan.

I kinda agree with you but honestly her Marriage with Anuj is last on my concern list of her being anywhere near normal ITV character. (ITV usually don't make realistic characters so had to mention it specifically)

My first issue with is her wokship of Shahs. If she is soo much in love with her so called lovely(abuser) family then they should have opted for open Marriage. The situation rn of her running there everyday in name of celebration or problems is just disturbing. Normalizing this situation that abused victims should forgive their abusers and should be held up for their so called responsibilities is just absurd.

Since audience complaint a lot about her running to that house - first they justify that using love and responsibilities. Now they have come up this track where Madam finally realized ohh I have a daughter and sick husband waiting for me-- ahh so many responsibilities!!!! Still nothing will change and entire Shah house will be at Anuj's place using baby as an excuse. And again rinse and repeat cycle will go on forever.

Her individual journey where she was supposed to take small steps at a time was rushed and she suddenly became a alrounder company owner. (Who obviously never works and is busy receiving her daily dose of abusive tannas oops sorry love from shahs)

She used go around saying how great of mother she is(and how Shah are greatest family ever) but whenever her any children causes trouble suddenly every child is villian - mothers are great victims. Even now Instead of using Toshu and Kinjal directly- it has come to man-woman. Why because a Shah is in concern and they were supposed to be bestest parents/family. Not Anupamaa but entire serial is full of hypocrisy.

I hate it that makers always comes up with extremely BS logic to audience's complaints and have audacity to call it progressive.

They have shown ovarian cancer and panic attack of anupama which was result of so many year abuse but only thing inhone ispe seriously jyaada focus nahi Kiya .they have taken cancer track lightly

I would say this neither is anupama great mother to her 3 kids

nor baa a great mother to vanraj

And do not put blame on vanraj or joint family

i have seen worst fathers or in laws family where mother brings up great kids

Stop victim drama by anupama

shes a failure as mother period do not push blame on varja baa bapuji joint family etc

If anupama had given few jhapads to pakhi toshu when growing up and thought them values it would not be so bad

and stopped bullying of samar by vanraj and toshu

Too much love has spoiled her kids

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I would say this neither is anupama great mother to her 3 kids

nor baa a great mother to vanraj

And do not put blame on vanraj or joint family

i have seen worst fathers or in laws family where mother brings up great kids

Stop victim drama by anupama

shes a failure as mother period do not push blame on varja baa bapuji joint family etc

If anupama had given few jhapads to pakhi toshu when growing up and thought them values it would not be so bad

and stopped bullying of samar by vanraj and toshu

Too much love has spoiled her kids

I do agree .. but would vanraj let Anu slap vanrajs favorite kids? ... He wouldn't mind if she did it to samar but if she had done to pakhi and Toshu., vanraj would have thrown her straight out of his home. She had no control in that matter I think

Vanraj and baa need to be blame because at that time when anupama was wife she does not have any power to control her children .neither she was financial independent nor she was financial strong nor husband supporting her in teaching good value to children so anupama can't give value to children unless she has power

. Pakhi and toshu has full support of Vanraj Even when both Pakhi and toshu were wrong .

Instead of giving power to anupama vanraj has given power to pakhi and toshu to abuse anupama agar vanraj ne anupama ko power di hoti to anupama able to give value to her children

So vanraj and baa need to be blame

Matlab, whatever a person learns comes all from the mother. The individual has no responsibility towards himself/herself, nor the other grown ups in his/her life has anything to do with what they learn. Even now we see Anupama pointing out and correcting their children's mistakes and Baa and Vanraj covering them up. You know I have always learnt that when someone corrects a child, other family members should not scold the one who is correcting otherwise the child doesn't learn.

I am often curious that how can they show Anupama so normal and going into a relationship after such painful betrayal. I believe that living under such an abuse and torture would definitely end up anyone in an asylum or even s***ide.

I am not contradicting with you here but not all abuse patients break down to this extent. Some can process the pain rationally and are affected less. You see there are many people who have been abused as a kid but they don't all end up feeling that low. The point is that different people react differently to the same degree of abuse.

I’m so shocked to see, how people are fine mentioning Slapping Kids..

No matter what, Parents have no right to Slap Kids

It falls under Violence

Any kind of Physical Punishment doesn’t help in correcting the Child’s Behavior..

They only feel pain, they don’t understand their mistake..

And also you are giving a msg to your children that hurting and slapping other person is OK

When adults cannot manage their emotions, how can you expect a kid to behave wise and mature?

If members in the family behave right, kids grow up well.. Children learn by watching adults, especially Parents..

Am totally against and slapping kids shouldn’t be encouraged..

Originally posted by: vivacious

I’m so shocked to see, how people are fine mentioning Slapping Kids..

No matter what, Parents have no right to Slap Kids

It falls under Violence

Any kind of Physical Punishment doesn’t help in correcting the Child’s Behavior..

They only feel pain, they don’t understand their mistake..

And also you are giving a msg to your children that hurting and slapping other person is OK

When adults cannot manage their emotions, how can you expect a kid to behave wise and mature?

If members in the family behave right, kids grow up well.. Children learn by watching adults, especially Parents..

Am totally against and slapping kids shouldn’t be encouraged..

no, sometimes slapping helps, even gold needs heat to shine and then only you can make jewels out of it, of course I am not saying that they should be beaten every time, but still, sometimes it is necessary.

I guess it is not criminal here, I mean it is not an offence here.