What is humanity ??? - Page 2

T4hahaanfan: It's already very late for me for Ihave to be up by 6 tomorrow morning but your writing always touches a specialstring in my heart - and now even more.

Thank you so much..

These words mean lot to me

As you know, I have been involved in programmes for kids (and other poor people) for ages - or so it feels. As you know,I have been involved in programmes for kids (and other poor people) for ages -or so it feels.

What are you doing for others is really commendable. I am not able to do so much bcoz, I believe, my responsibility is first of all towards my kids, their happiness, and health. I may sound selfish but I feel If parents can impart good values to their kids and instill in their minds that before a doctor and Engg, they are a good human being, it itself is a big contribution.

Smitha: I believe in the saying – "You give poor man a fish and you feed him for a day. You teach him to fish and you give him an occupation that will feed him for lifetime."

I wish I can do something to create employment for others. I have been thinking in this direction for 1-2 years but nothing has clicked yet.

Km181: These are harsh realities of life which somehow we need to accept. I only wish, these kids do get the opportunity to go school, study and help as part-time only with such jobs.

Yes, they should have desire to study or awareness about education bcoz govt..is really doing great in this direction. Here, the govt. schools have world-class infrastructure and facilities.

Myviewprem: he already had a 50 inch TV yet asked another bigger TV for aged

Its not about orphanage only, if you help someone, they start considering you as an ATM machine. Some people start expecting always something big like ph. Like its a very small amount for us. We also struggled hard; nothing comes free and we know the value of hard work. But few people want everything for free.

Strancho: Ifa couple knows that they cannot provide a decent life to a child, why bringthat new life on earth? Having and raising kid is not a child's play. Why toget married when you know you can't take the responsibility of a married life:this applies to both man and woman

I want to just repeat lines of Smitha for pompy “The clarity in your thoughts and foresight at this young age is commendable.”

I want to share a poem “ sharing is bliss” which I wrote a few months back for the school assembly for my daughter ( before starting writing in IF) . First 4 lines are copied bcoz I m not a poet; you can understand how difficult is to write a poem is not a cup of tea for everyone

It's victory over darkness

But his eyes filled with bleakness

Bursting fire crackers, light and sound

Hopeless child sitting on the ground

Pitiful child with no one to care

I pondered to share

Receiving sweets and crackers

Beamed with happiness and pleasure

Seeing his radiating face

I felt like divine grace

Realized sharing is a bliss

More blessed to give

Than to receive

Sharing is God like trait

Not about money or wealth

Generosity is the only aspect

Care,sympathy,little words of compliment

cause tremendous effect

Once you try

You will never deny

Left with little or nothing

Joy of share is everything

Resides in our heart as we live

This is a secret to bliss

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Smitha: I believe in the saying – "You give poor man a fish and you feed him for a day. You teach him to fish and you give him an occupation that will feed him for lifetime."

I wish I can do something to create employment for others. I have been thinking in this direction for 1-2 years but nothing has clicked yet.

Not everyone will be able to create employment for others. But, the least one can do when we see people showing up at the door asking for free stuff is to remind them of the reality of life.

I believe that every person has some talent or the other, that will come handy in times of dire need. If nothing else, cooking, making pickles, papad. Or gardening, weaving basket, crafts, sewing, running errands or any other household chores for that matter. Put that to use efficiently. Remind the people who show up the door about how they can put their skills to better use instead of turning into free loaders. Remind them to learn to live within means.

If they are not willing to put any effort, we must just let them be. We can only change what is in our control. We cannot change everyone around us.

That might not answer your question, but just my 2 cents.

Dear Sam, and other great contributors to this string of thoughts!

I am really impressed by the various inputs - and all as a derivative, almost, of our gathering around Anupama 😃

Unfortunately I can't write more now - for I have a plane to catch at 4.30 tomorrow - HOLIDAYS!!

So, dearies, bye for now - and carry on the good work - till I can join again in a couple of weeks !!!

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

If they are not willing to put any effort, we must just let them be. We can only change what is in our control. We cannot change everyone around us.

That might not answer your question, but just my 2 cents.

Yep I echo your thoughts. One should know what they can do and what they can't. Not knowing what they can is still fine but knowing what they can't is very important for one's growth i believe.

Similarly, when to hold and let go. Holding on to something/someone is not a sign of courage. Letting go is.

"Those who can’t acknowledge their real selves are bound to fail.”-Uchiha Itachi (Mashashi Kishimoto)

Namaste,

Must say, we have collectively discussed a wide range of topics here. Very interesting views.

Here are my 2 cents:

I believe the institution of family and marriage are highly regarded in our culture and there is a very deep reason behind it. The family stands by its members, protects them, nurtures them. Ofcourse like everything else, nothing is ideal, it ALL comes with it's set of issues and problems.

We have heard it many times, "Humans are a social beings". Family, marriage is the fabric that binds them and society at large.

Why do people insist on marriage, family in India?

When we were younger, we believed growing up was travelling alone like say in a bus to say a friend's house, as we grew our independence was our barometer. Somewhere we forget that it is the interdependence that drives us. As we age, we yearn for companionship and there comes a time when we become dependent. This is life and it comes with various colours.

Our elders have wanted for us to cherish the best of colours that life has to offer because they understand that we need a family as much as the family needs us. As we age, we become rigid in our habits, set in our ways and thinking and that makes it may be slightly difficult to accept, adjust and adopt a new life.

Like I said, this is perhaps, broadly, why Indian families insist on raising a family and ofcourse there is no ideal age for any of this.

Coming to humanity:

I agree, we as humans are inherently compassionate. There will be 99 reasons to not trust the aide we get (especially in the world today driven by hidden interests) but there will be that 1 pure reason to trust a helping hand that will outdo the rest.

As long as our kids are sensitized to worldly issues from childhood and we as adults set the right example (of how to and how not to be), the world will take care of itself being a better, happy place.

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

Namaste,

Must say, we have collectively discussed a wide range of topics here. Very interesting views.

Here are my 2 cents:

I believe the institution of family and marriage are highly regarded in our culture and there is a very deep reason behind it. The family stands by its members, protects them, nurtures them. Ofcourse like everything else, nothing is ideal, it ALL comes with it's set of issues and problems.

We have heard it many times, "Humans are a social beings". Family, marriage is the fabric that binds them and society at large.

Why do people insist on marriage, family in India?

When we were younger, we believed growing up was travelling alone like say in a bus to say a friend's house, as we grew our independence was our barometer. Somewhere we forget that it is the interdependence that drives us. As we age, we yearn for companionship and there comes a time when we become dependent. This is life and it comes with various colours.

Our elders have wanted for us to cherish the best of colours that life has to offer because they understand that we need a family as much as the family needs us. As we age, we become rigid in our habits, set in our ways and thinking and that makes it may be slightly difficult to accept, adjust and adopt a new life.

Like I said, this is perhaps, broadly, why Indian families insist on raising a family and ofcourse there is no ideal age for any of this.

Coming to humanity:

I agree, we as humans are inherently compassionate. There will be 99 reasons to not trust the aide we get (especially in the world today driven by hidden interests) but there will be that 1 pure reason to trust a helping hand that will outdo the rest.

As long as our kids are sensitized to worldly issues from childhood and we as adults set the right example (of how to and how not to be), the world will take care of itself being a better, happy place.

Totally agree !!

When I was in college, I never liked the concept of marriage. I would think that marriage takes your freedom. I believed in "Live your life at your conditions. "

But after marriage, I realized the importance of marriage. It gives you a partner who will be beside you through good and bad. It gives you a person who would be there with you through your life struggles.

More than physical union, marriage is about emotional and mental support. Ladne , jhagdane ke liye bhi companion chahiye.😆

And as ridiculous as it may sound, sometimes all any of us needs in life for someone to hold our hand and walk next to us- James Frey

sorry for late reply!