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Dear friends,

Before I say something; please don’t take me wrong. I am not against respecting elders or younger ones, touching elders’ feet, and taking their blessings. In fact, even after so many years of marriage, I still touch the feet of my in-laws with due respect. But my BIL never allows me to touch his feet; he treats me as his younger sister and I also respect him from my heart. One of my relatives from my in-laws' side said “if you touch my feet, I will touch your feet also”. So I don’t touch his feet.

Now my point is: According to Hindu culture, a girl is not supposed to touch her elders' feet before marriage because it is considered that girls' are some form of female GOD. But once she got married she is supposed to touch her in-law's feet and take their blessings.

There is one more theory that Women are a form of goddess Laksmi, really?? After marriage, the same girl has to touch the feet of her inlaws; seriously after marriage, my back started aching bcoz of bending again and again.. but a girl cannot touch the feet of her parents bcoz of whom she is in this world and who despite facing so many difficulties, tries to give best to her daughter; best school, the best education, best companion. I can't say about rural areas but even girls in small cities are outside for higher education.

Come to Anupama; We have not seen her touching feet of he own Maa, Kanta behn but she touches feet of baapuji and Baa. if Baapuji considers Anupama his daughter, why does she touch his feet? Have you ever seen Dolly touching the feet of Baa and Baapuji?

Makers are setting new trends every time in love, but there are many areas beliefs or customs where they can at least throw some light. But is it so??????

Few lines in my style

Anu Meri beti, meri beti

Anu Meri beti, meri beti

Aisa baapuji 10 baar

Din mei song sunate

Feet beti touch nahi karti

Aisa kya kabhi

Big mouth se keh paate!!

Baa Meri Maa meri maa

Aisa Anu roj

hymn gaati

Phir feet touch

Karne ko 24X7

Ready rehti !!

Anu aur baapu ji

dono bade wise

Kya khoob

dete advise

Apne acc kar lete

Sab kuch cutomize

Karo inka gyaan analyse

Mind ho jaayega ice

Mind ho jaayega ice!!

P S: I want right to touch my mother’s feet. Dad ke bhi kar leti but last year, I lost him in corona time; I was so unfortunate that I did not get a chance to bid him goodbye. This guilt will remain forever in my heart.

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Dear friends,

Before I say something; please don’t take me wrong. I am not against respecting elders or younger ones, touching elders’ feet, and taking their blessings. In fact, even after so many years of marriage, I still touch the feet of my in-laws with due respect. But my BIL never allows me to touch his feet; he treats me as his younger sister and I also respect him from my heart. One of my relatives from my in-laws' side said “if you touch my feet, I will touch your feet also”. So I don’t touch his feet.

Now my point is: According to Hindu culture, a girl is not supposed to touch her elders' feet before marriage because it is considered that girls' are some form of female GOD. But once she got married she is supposed to touch her in-law's feet and take their blessings.

There is one more theory that Women are a form of goddess Laksmi, really?? After marriage, the same girl has to touch the feet of her inlaws; seriously after marriage, my back started aching bcoz of bending again and again.. but a girl cannot touch the feet of her parents bcoz of whom she is in this world and who despite facing so many difficulties, tries to give best to her daughter; best school, the best education, best companion. I can't say about rural areas but even girls in small cities are outside for higher education.

Come to Anupama; We have not seen her touching feet of he own Maa, Kanta behn but she touches feet of baapuji and Baa. if Baapuji considers Anupama his daughter, why does she touch his feet? Have you ever seen Dolly touching the feet of Baa and Baapuji?

Makers are setting new trends every time in love, but there are many areas beliefs or customs where they can at least throw some light. But is it so??????

Few lines in my style

Anu Meri beti, meri beti

Anu Meri beti, meri beti

Aisa baapuji 10 baar

Din mei song sunate

Feet beti touch nahi karti

Aisa kya kabhi

Big mouth se bolte!!

Baa Meri Maa meri maa

Aisa Anu roj

hymn gaati

Phir feet touch

Karne ko 24X7

Ready rehti !!

Anu aur baapu ji

dono bade wise

Kya khoob

dete advise

Apne acc kar lete

Sab kuch cutomize

Karo inka gyaan analyse

Mind ho jaayega ice

Mind ho jaayega ice!!

P S: I want right to touch my mother’s feet. Dad ke bhi kar leti but last year, I lost him in corona time; I was so unfortunate that I did not get a chance to bid him goodbye. This guilt will remain forever in my heart.

Hi Smitha!

I have added English words to my rhyme for you ; I think you will understand my point of view.

To be honest taking blessings by touching someone's feet is beyond my understanding. According to my dear mummy, when you touch the feet of an elder person, you are in turn blessed with knowledge, intellect, strength and fame. But when I and my younger brother sometimes fight and I will just kick him playfully, my mom would be like "Hawwww, you are kicking your brother, you should not do that to any male" and then I ask why does he have to touch my feet to take blessings then? Just consider it as I am giving him blessing..

From then on I don't touch anyone's feet. Be it my parents or anyone. Nor do I let anyone touch my feet. Am not against that, just I am not convinced of the meaning and the contradicting beliefs behind them

Btw.. Anu did touch her mom's feet Ig..

Anyways.. mujhe sachi ye nahi samajh aata.. ki girls won't touch feet of their parents.. mere parents ne bhi kabhi allow nahi kiya mujhe.. and dad toh accidentally touch hojaye woh bhi nahi pasand unko...

I feel touching someone's feet to ask for blessings..ye compulsion ya obligation nahi hona chahiye.. also I stongly disagree with the notion ki all elders should be respected.. I mean main nahi bol rahi ki disrespect karo..every person should be respected but bado ke pair chuna shouldn't be a norm.. haan kisika khud mann kare to do it as a token of respect.. toh bilkul karo.. but not like sab bade hain toh zabardasti karo.. I have never been asked to do it by my parents toh I'm fortunate here.. maine sirf apne kuch teachers ki blessings li hogi aise feet touch karke..

And ladke kare ladkiyan na kare is something I don't understand too.. so yeah...

Kiyu.. I have already taken the liberty to call you so, Kiyu.. first of all.. big tight squishy hug to you. Losing a parent is never never easy.. i know because I lost my dad 4 years back. It just leaves a void in life. No matter what.. so just know.. you are not alone. And your Dad is looking after you. 🤗❤❤❤

Coming on topic, i think it it defers according to different castes. In maharashtrians, we touch every elder feet. Be it parents or in laws and be it a boy or a girl. It never depends on the gender..

While a family i know, who is Kachhi gujarati, they dont let their daughters touch their feet., north mein bhi they dont let daughters to touch feet, so i think it depends on the caste and culture..

For me personally, i love taking blessings from elders. So again, i feel its an individual thinking and choice ke ashirwaad lena hain yaa nahi. Like in my fam, right from my great grandfather generations,, there is no such compulsion, my bhabhi is not forced to touch feet of my parents. She does so on festivals.. but har baar milne par nahi karti. Its solely her choice.

As for the show.. bro..we are all at a stage where we have thrown logic in sabarmati nadi the poetry is on point.. kaise kar leti hain aap 🤗❤

Sam ❤️❤️❤️ Losing a parent is never easy. Having gone through the same, it never gets easier either. We just learn to live with that void.

I agree with you. I don’t understand this blessing business. You can bless without the feet touching thing too no? Baat toh blessing ki hoti hai. Shayad pehle Hota hoga Kuch lekin world has moved no, toh thoda sab Kuch dheere dheere change hona chahiye is what I feel.

Respect bhi age ke saath kyun hoti hai? Respect comes from within. You can respect a 2 yo or 70 yo. Mujhe bhi nahi aata samjh.

Anupama serial ka toh Kya hi kehna. Inka logic Kya hai woh toh shayad makers ko bhi nahi pata. 🤧

Originally posted by: ektag06

Sam ❤️❤️❤️ Losing a parent is never easy. Having gone through the same, it never gets easier either. We just learn to live with that void.

I agree with you. I don’t understand this blessing business. You can bless without the feet touching thing too no? Baat toh blessing ki hoti hai. Shayad pehle Hota hoga Kuch lekin world has moved no, toh thoda sab Kuch dheere dheere change hona chahiye is what I feel.

Respect bhi age ke saath kyun hoti hai? Respect comes from within. You can respect a 2 yo or 70 yo. Mujhe bhi nahi aata samjh.

Anupama serial ka toh Kya hi kehna. Inka logic Kya hai woh toh shayad makers ko bhi nahi pata. 🤧

I totally agree. There is no connection of respect with age. Just because someone is elder, that doesn't mean if they give me poison I will consume it. Not saying we should insult them, just don't give that importance to them. Importance, time, love, care should not be wasted on someone who does not understand/care for you.

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Hi Smitha!

I have added English words to my rhyme for you ; I think you will understand my point of view.

Thank you Sam! 🤗 Sorry to hear about your father. I can, to some extent understand how it feels to not be able to bid final goodbye. What can you do of things that you cannot control? Sharing the grief ,venting helps get it off your chest, I'm glad you shared it with virtual friends here. Hugs to you🤗🤗

Poem is spot on as usual, esp the last stanza 🤣

Random thoughts on touching feet & practices in general:

Elders of our prev generation upheld these age-old customs like it was an entitlement. Like it or not, our generation follow them. Some of us try to analyze these customs to see if it still makes sense and applicable in current days. Despite that, we still follow them, just to make the elders of the family happy.

Like Rups mentioned, practices may vary across regions. Although, I don’t hesitate to prostrate at elders’ feet (related to me or not), I do not let others touch my feet, because I feel that their place is in my heart and not at my feet. I replace it with a tight hug.❤️🤗

My hope is that our generation will bring the necessary changes to such customs. Major amends to age old practices happen very slowly. We are all a part of it. The first step is to acknowledge. Question them, stop following if it does not make sense, but not at the cost of hurting other’s and their beliefs.

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Added later: Yikes! re-reading my long posts make me feel like Anupama's bhashan. Sammelan ka asar!

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

Thank you Sam! 🤗 Sorry to hear about your father. I can, to some extent understand how it feels to not be able to bid final goodbye. What can you do of things that you cannot control? Sharing the grief ,venting helps get it off your chest, I'm glad you shared it with virtual friends here. Hugs to you🤗🤗

Poem is spot on as usual, esp the last stanza 🤣

Random thoughts on touching feet & practices in general:

Elders of our prev generation upheld these age-old customs like it was an entitlement. Like it or not, our generation follow them. Some of us try to analyze these customs to see if it still makes sense and applicable in current days. Despite that, we still follow them, just to make the elders of the family happy.

Like Rups mentioned, practices may vary across regions. Although, I don’t hesitate to prostrate at elders’ feet (related to me or not), I do not let others touch my feet, because I feel that their place is in my heart and not at my feet. I replace it with a tight hug.❤️🤗

My hope is that our generation will bring the necessary changes to such customs. Major amends to age old practices happen very slowly. We are all a part of it. The first step is to acknowledge. Question them, stop following if it does not make sense, but not at the cost of hurting other’s and their beliefs.

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Added later: Yikes! re-reading my long posts make me feel like Anupama's bhashan. Sammelan ka asar!

I will be happy to read your bhaashans rather than hearing Anupama's ❤️

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

Thank you Sam! 🤗 Sorry to hear about your father. I can, to some extent understand how it feels to not be able to bid final goodbye. What can you do of things that you cannot control? Sharing the grief ,venting helps get it off your chest, I'm glad you shared it with virtual friends here. Hugs to you🤗🤗

Poem is spot on as usual, esp the last stanza 🤣

Random thoughts on touching feet & practices in general:

Elders of our prev generation upheld these age-old customs like it was an entitlement. Like it or not, our generation follow them. Some of us try to analyze these customs to see if it still makes sense and applicable in current days. Despite that, we still follow them, just to make the elders of the family happy.

Like Rups mentioned, practices may vary across regions. Although, I don’t hesitate to prostrate at elders’ feet (related to me or not), I do not let others touch my feet, because I feel that their place is in my heart and not at my feet. I replace it with a tight hug.❤️🤗

My hope is that our generation will bring the necessary changes to such customs. Major amends to age old practices happen very slowly. We are all a part of it. The first step is to acknowledge. Question them, stop following if it does not make sense, but not at the cost of hurting other’s and their beliefs.

---

Added later: Yikes! re-reading my long posts make me feel like Anupama's bhashan. Sammelan ka asar!

Bold 1 - Smiii.. samee... i hug tightly. Not comfortable anyone touching my feet.. blessings are given dil se..

Bold 2 - from being a silent reader to talking nonstop here with y'all .. i have come a long way myself