'Another day she stayed silent and her abuser thrived in that silence'

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Is a famous dialogue from the show 'Grey's anatomy' that always stayed with me. 'He/she hit you not because you are not worthy but because no one stopped them', Period!!! Domestic violence is seeped ankle deep in our patriachal system for decades now. Marital rape and abuse never make for dinner conversations but the silence and scars of every home maker is loud enough to scream her truth in the deafening silence. Keeping the sensitivity and its significance in mind I will not use this topic as a discussion for entertainment. If there are any abuse survivors here who are reading this and all you need is to talk, I am here! You can send me a private msg or share your story, whatever feels right🤝🦸‍♀️👭💜💜


Moving to the episode, I will say it was not very triggering. The 3 min promo clip was strong, raw and nerve wrecking but makers spread out the raging instensity with the silly shahs. 🙄


Anuj and anu desperately try to reach Mukku who locks herself in the room and is having a traumatic episode. They manage to somehow get to her and Anuj's reaction was the most natural reflex any loved one would experience. He felt sick to his stomach and nauseated. I have never seen this in another show. The men are usually macho and take up the unsaid job of being someone's 'saviour' but the truth is no one is trained to react to trauma. So I applaud the writers in keeping the screenplay theatrical yet realistic.👏👏🙌


Anu finds Mukku's meds and Anuj is as shocked as she is to learn the truth of her 'Depression'. The inclusion of this mental health monster is reason enough to convey the viewers the extent of abuse and sears still fresh!😭😭 the narrative that follows from Anuj is compelling enough to make you want to strangle the person responsible for this. They say when you are hurt, you feel pain coz you have a wound and then your body makes a beautiful scar to remind you the battles you fought bravely but also whispers to you 'was it worth it?'😔😔 Anuj's scars from his guilt are as fresh and deep as Mukku's. Everytime her wounds hurt, his scars rip apart reminding him of his grave mistake in judgement. The remainder epi states many facts of domestic abuse that we already know but are we really consciously aware?? Each one of us will have to someday face this truth coz today its your neighbor, house help, teacher, friend's mom..tomorrow its our mothers, sisters and friends and one day its going to be YOU.. I was 9 years old when I threw boiling milk and hit my mom's abuser with the same pan. Strength doesnt find you in noise, it holds you by your spine in the silent whisper that says "This will not be my story" .This epi leaves you with an after taste of shame, guilt, helplessness and most imp rage!!


Precap- Can someone in their right mind explain as to why Vanraj was a witness to this? The makers obsession to shove him in every storyline is disturbing and annoying at this point. I understand its for him to use this as a trump card to play his dirty game but they could have kept him away from this track atleast and most amusing fact, he is a abuser himself. I will no longer be surprised if they use him to heal Anuj and mukku🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️


Verdict- its watchable for everyone. It may make you uncomfortable, it may make you think but will not shatter you. This was an Aneri show all the way. Rups and Gaurav were good but Aneri outshined them!! I definitely see a pakhi and anu strained relation track coming. Pakhi might be insecured in Mukku's presence but plz makers dont do the whole K adding fuel to this. Thats getting passe and stale now.🙄😏


Let me know what you guys think of today's epi🤗

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Mukku stole the show. Period. It was all aneri today. Unfortunately I did not feel much for Anuj.

And vanraj shah🤔 seriously why is he bloody everywhere? How will he help? While you guys recuperate, let me handle the business?🤔

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Thank you sunshine! 🤗

I would hate to see V take undue advantage of the situation, that be his new low!

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Posted: 3 years ago
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I am not very strong and very emotional..Still debating if I should watch today's epi or skip...precap and promo were utterly intense for me.

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Posted: 3 years ago
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I understand dear. If you are sensitive to it, you could watch little clips on insta and still get the gist on the epi or catch up on Monday🤗

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: nish_vir

Mukku stole the show. Period. It was all aneri today. Unfortunately I did not feel much for Anuj.

And vanraj shah🤔 seriously why is he bloody everywhere? How will he help? While you guys recuperate, let me handle the business?🤔


Oh shit i never thought of that.


Man I'm really tired of his character.

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: grace2021

I am not very strong and very emotional..Still debating if I should watch today's epi or skip...precap and promo were utterly intense for me.


I don't enjoy watching intense drama as well, atleast not until I know the end. So I had to actually forward through many parts of it.

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Posted: 3 years ago
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The performance of the trio was fantastic.. Aneri, Rups and GK all of them emoted perfectly and splendidly.👏👏👏



Thanks to the promo, I was able to watch it as I had gathered enough courage. Mukku’s pain as victim and Anuj’s guilt were all intense and heartbreaking 💔 for me to watch.


All the intensity of the episode turned to anger when I saw V at the Kapadia’s. Why do the makers have to shove him down our throat in every track 😡


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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: sunshine36


Precap- Can someone in their right mind explain as to why Vanraj was a witness to this? The makers obsession to shove him in every storyline is disturbing and annoying at this point. I understand its for him to use this as a trump card to play his dirty game but they could have kept him away from this track atleast and most amusing fact, he is a abuser himself. I will no longer be surprised if they use him to heal Anuj and mukku🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️



Disgusting.


Thats the one word I have for maker's.


I had my doubts since yday itself given how they have done in past...and here again they repeat themselves...


Who all were praising that this didn't happen in Shah house. This show is more about Vanraj than Anupama. They way he violated Kapadia's privacy by begin witness to such private moment shows how sensible makers are towards the cause compared to giving meaty role to there Hero.


Personally when he told Anuj he will help I felt like giving a punch. For me they didn't handle this as sensibly as needed but added there so called ITV tadka.


Oh yes, Anu's married life was bliss, she never faced any sort of domestic violence. Her husband was God, he showed her mirror for her own benefit - how her hands smell of spices, she should not think of celebrating her bday, she should stay at home not meet friends, throwing her out of house was for her learning, how she should not have stayed night out with paraya mard doesn't matter the weather condition and most importantly let him have 2 women in his life..and now this very Angel will heal muku and help Anuj get rid of his burden by taking the Kapadia business. Hats off to makers for bringing such an angelic character Vanraj to ITV.


Makers -I am diabetic so can't take this much sweetness of Vanraj. I would rather take the karela Anuj any day..


I haven't seen the episode yet, just read the updates and not keen right now to see either. I am sensitive and don't like them using this topic for their personal gains..

Needless to say all this is my personal opinion..

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Posted: 3 years ago
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I would say if you are not strong, skip when the countdown starts and the song starts playing.

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