Today kinjal was absolutely right! - Page 2

Originally posted by: neo7

Agreed, you need to be firm in voicing your opinions.

Just wanted to know, if it doesn't sound too rude, may be I may need it in future 😜😜😜😂😂😂

My husband was like why you replied faiba? Me kidhu , last 1 week thi daily office thi avi ne hu ek j vaat sambhadu chu , tame k mummy koi amne rokta nathi atle Aj hu j boli Mara mate , kharab lagyu hoi to kal amnu favourite kaik banavi dais and sorry b kai dais but amne b samajvu padse k avi comparisons no hoi.

Rude lagyu hoi toh b I can’t help because mane b daily amni ek ni ek comparison and career ma break levani vaat rude j lagti hati.

Apda ghar ma mummy Pappa a always space api hoi, potana decisions levani space b api hoi. Sasra ma koi ek member to hoi j jene apda vati decisions leva hoi but ek level sudhi you should ignore after that you must put your point forward.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

My husband was like why you replied faiba? Me kidhu , last 1 week thi daily office thi avi ne hu ek j vaat sambhadu chu , tame k mummy koi amne rokta nathi atle Aj hu j boli Mara mate , kharab lagyu hoi to kal amnu favourite kaik banavi dais and sorry b kai dais but amne b samajvu padse k avi comparisons no hoi.

Rude lagyu hoi toh b I can’t help because mane b daily amni ek ni ek comparison and career ma break levani vaat rude j lagti hati.

Apda ghar ma mummy Pappa a always space api hoi, potana decisions levani space b api hoi. Sasra ma koi ek member to hoi j jene apda vati decisions leva hoi but ek level sudhi you should ignore after that you must put your point forward.

Sachi vaat che. Lagan thaya nai ke mota lokone ekdum obsession thai jai, baby karva paachad padi jaye.

Yaar, apdi life, apde decide karsu kyare babies karva che ke nahi, ane humesha bahu nej pressure karse, jaane ke dikraon toh ever ready hoye ne baby karva maate 😂

Hum hot toh kahi det, thik che hun mara var ne kai dau chu, job chodine babies sambhal vanu, eni mede chup thai jase 😂

Originally posted by: neo7

Sachi vaat che. Lagan thaya nai ke mota lokone ekdum obsession thai jai, baby karva paachad padi jaye.

Yaar, apdi life, apde decide karsu kyare babies karva che ke nahi, ane humesha bahu nej pressure karse, jaane ke dikraon toh ever ready hoye ne baby karva maate 😂

Hum hot toh kahi det, thik che hun mara var ne kai dau chu, job chodine babies sambhal vanu, eni mede chup thai jase 😂

Exactly yar! jaane amno dikro bav ready hoi,tya to kai j bolse nai, bas bahu ne j kevanu 🤢 Apda ghar ma apda mummy pappa a koi j divas ava force no karya hoi atle bav j ajib lage jyare marriage ne short time thayo hoi. Once after 2 years of marriage, tamne badha na nature no idea avi gayo hoi so person to person tamne deal karta avdi jai. Sometime mother in law karta bija badha relatives vadhare mathu khai.

Niyati, after getting married , you will see the difference .Apda parents a decisions levani full freedom api hoi but at in laws place, you have to react and act as per other's wishes and you can do it till certain level but not every time and reality is "j life apda mummy a aj thi 25 -30 varas pehla bahu bani ne jivi hati, a life jivvi apda mate next to impossible che"

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Exactly yar! jaane amno dikro bav ready hoi,tya to kai j bolse nai, bas bahu ne j kevanu 🤢 Apda ghar ma apda mummy pappa a koi j divas ava force no karya hoi atle bav j ajib lage jyare marriage ne short time thayo hoi. Once after 2 years of marriage, tamne badha na nature no idea avi gayo hoi so person to person tamne deal karta avdi jai. Sometime mother in law karta bija badha relatives vadhare mathu khai.

Niyati, after getting married , you will see the difference .Apda parents a decisions levani full freedom api hoi but at in laws place, you have to react and act as per other's wishes and you can do it till certain level but not every time and reality is "j life apda mummy a aj thi 25 -30 varas pehla bahu bani ne jivi hati, a life jivvi apda mate next to impossible che"

Tu mane darave che ke himmat aape che 🤣🤣🤣

Originally posted by: neo7

Tu mane darave che ke himmat aape che 🤣🤣🤣

Daravti nathi ben! Be bold! give respect and take respect rule marriage pachi follow karvano baki jalsa karvana 😆😆

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

When you feel tremendous pressure and comparison, it’s extremely difficult to stay composed and reply calmly in such situations.

My bua saas is typical lady. Let me give you example, just after one year of my marriage, she had suggested me to focus on family planning in place of focusing on career, suggested me to take break from career and had given me example of my mother in law about how they used to plan child within the couple of months of marriage. Couple of times I just smiled and brushed off topic .

During her stay of around 12 days, daily after coming to home from office, in some way or other way I was listening same comparisons again and again . After a week or so , I was fed up and at one fine day I couldn’t control myself and inform her in firm voice that I am young and we will do whatever she is saying only when we will feel right time for us and she should not compare me for such things with my mother in law.

My mother in law and husband was also seeing this daily but nobody ever stopped her so in that case I choose to be my advocate.

To talk in such a firm way is not my morals but when people push you till certain limit with doing comparisons, it is obvious you will loose your marbles . That pressure and comparison was unbearable and I was in that state of mind where I feel like how can someone do such comparisons .

After I firmly voiced my point, she was no more pressuring and comparing me . Kuch log aise he hote hai, jab tak aap firmly na bolo, samaj kar bhi nahi samajte.

Why r indians obsessed with babies of others...na unhe janam dena hai na unhe palna hai agar bacha bhala ya bura bhi kare unhe kaunsa prasad milna hai ya sehna hai?

Log apne kaam se kaam nahi rakh sakte.?...aur bacha kya halwa hai jo asani se ho jaye ya acha ban jaye...ajkal bacha afford karna sabki bass ki baat nahi hoti ....n unless u really want a kid because u want a baby in ur life then give birth....isliye nahi kyunki woh budhape ka sahara banega, isliye nahi ki ur biological clock is ticking ,ya phir parents zinda hai toh bache pal denge , issliye nahi ki log kya kahenge

It is so frustrating to hear people talk only about babies once a couple gets married

Aur phir aap jab aise useless praani ko back answer karo because u have reached ur limit ur family member will only say kya zaroorat hai unse bhidne ki....

Bandhu seedhi si baat hai laato ke bhoot baato se nahi mante....here it means ache se baat karo yeh apke baal pakad lenge...toh yeh issi layak hai

Maine toh apni sis ko bola hai tujhe koi force kare na in law's se ki bache birth kar...bolna hum afford nahi kar sakte so ek bache ka fund tayaar kijiye aur har mahine paise deposit kijiye taki bache ke janam lene se lekar uske education n marriage ka kharcha pura cover ho jaye..jab utna paisa collect ho jayega hum plan karlenge baby

Ps:I still not watching or reading the updates just felt like replying to ur post

Originally posted by: sushups

Why r indians obsessed with babies of others...na unhe janam dena hai na unhe palna hai agar bacha bhala ya bura bhi kare unhe kaunsa prasad milna hai ya sehna hai?

Log apne kaam se kaam nahi rakh sakte.?...aur bacha kya halwa hai jo asani se ho jaye ya acha ban jaye...ajkal bacha afford karna sabki bass ki baat nahi hoti ....n unless u really want a kid because u want a baby in ur life then give birth....isliye nahi kyunki woh budhape ka sahara banega, isliye nahi ki ur biological clock is ticking ,ya phir parents zinda hai toh bache pal denge , issliye nahi ki log kya kahenge

It is so frustrating to hear people talk only about babies once a couple gets married

Aur phir aap jab aise useless praani ko back answer karo because u have reached ur limit ur family member will only say kya zaroorat hai unse bhidne ki....

Bandhu seedhi si baat hai laato ke bhoot baato se nahi mante....here it means ache se baat karo yeh apke baal pakad lenge...toh yeh issi layak hai

Maine toh apni sis ko bola hai tujhe koi force kare na in law's se ki bache birth kar...bolna hum afford nahi kar sakte so ek bache ka fund tayaar kijiye aur har mahine paise deposit kijiye taki bache ke janam lene se lekar uske education n marriage ka kharcha pura cover ho jaye..jab utna paisa collect ho jayega hum plan karlenge baby

Ps:I still not watching or reading the updates just felt like replying to ur post

@bold red : hehehe your idea to your sister is tooo good 🤣🤣

@bold black : aap ne bilkul sahi kaha, agar ap kisi ki patience limit ko push karoge toh fir back answer ke liye bhi ready rehna padega as you said laato ke bhoot baato se nahi maante .Koi kitni bar bhidna avoid karega!! bolna bahot aasan hota hai but jis par bite wohi jane. Main to ab sikh ayi hu agar koi disrespect se baat kare toh hatho hath jawab deti hu. Maine apni friend ko bhi sikhaya hai that mummy papa ne shaddi kar k bahu banne ke liye bheja hai, poor treatment jelne ke liye nahi.

Give respect and take respect .We should always keep our head high and never encourage any poor treatment. I am glad to see kinjal is not allowing baa's poor treatment.

True! I have been cooking since 5 years and I still suck at it. My normal excuse is, most adult have been cooking for 25+ years and mine are much less.😆

It is truly an art not everyone can master. Takes time and experience.

One thing I hated the most how she kept complaining. That girl is busy as it is and you are adding additional stress, on top of that it takes away your confidence.

I am always terrified to cook for someone who criticize a lot. In the end one always ends up messing it even more despite the effort.

I agree with Rakhi when she say Kinjal will become Anupama 2, that is what Baa has been doing - comparing her with Anu.

Can someone remind her now her direct bahu is Kavya, focus a bit on her rather than pushing Kinjal.

This is same old story, bully the easy target and put down all weapons for not so easy one🤡

Totally agree with you⭐️

Some extreme valid points and summed up really well.

Baa has an annoying habit of taunting people unnecessarily without seeing the situation or other person's condition. She even keeps on insulting Kinjal's mother in front of her. That is not a very good thing. There are many other things that are problematic behavior. But no one bothers to correct her, since she ghar ke bade. And if someone dares to say something, Anupama morcha nikal deti hai with her patent dialogue don't insult my Baa-Bapuji. For once I want someone to ask Anu to shut up and stop being Baa's lawyer all the time. Other people are human beings, who sometimes loses their cool and retaliate, like Kinjal did. Anu don't need to interfere in between and take Baa's side all the time. Frankly, it is so irritating to see all of Baa's shortcomings being neglected because she is elder.