Originally posted by: Rohil.ban12
I agree with your points on Kavya… itne understanding dikhaye the starting main agar vaisa character sketch rakhte toh Anupama aur Kavya dono ko Vanraj ko chod dena chaiye tha sensibly and Kavya ko Aniruddh ke pass chale jana chaiye tha jo itna hone ke baad usko accept karne ko ready tha…:
But regarding Anupama as per most of the person she is shown as a Mahan character otherwise koi apne sautan ko itne events main na ane deta hai na invite karta hai na help karta hai na promise… bolne waqt toh bolte hai I don’t care but karne waqt promise tak kiya hai, bimar sautan ka dhyan tak rakha hai writers ne mahan dikhane ke chakkar main….
You are saying that she has her own kids… Uss case main it’s just Samar… Pakhi and toshu are never really with her… Abhi bhi jahan father ya mother ki happiness ki baat aate hai they run for their and their fathers happiness not for Anupamas aur Samar toh vaise bhi Anupama ke saath ja raha tha….
Rest of the family main toh Baa Dolly and all hai who all are selfish…. Unke man main koi affection nahi hai and it doesn’t make sense to stop for them…. Bapuji and kinjal can very well take care of themselves… no need of Anupama for them….
And agar bapuji truely Anupama ki khushi chahte toh usko jane dete because family main voh sahi nahi rahega har roz V aur uske Kavya, Baa, Pakhi and toshu new tensions create karenge apne ladaiyon main which Bapuji very well knows…
And Anupama ka mother love kuch zyada hi hai jisne Pakhi aur Toshu jaise spoilt Brats bana rakhe hai… Rakhi ko writers negative portray karne ka koshish karte hai in front of Anupama but see Kinjal who is really sorted and knows all the values jabki Vanraj aur Anupama ke bache uske samne kuch nahi hai….
Mother love hona chaiye but itna nahi ki bache galti kare aur aap unko karne de kai baar Thapad ki aur dant ki bhi zaroorat hote hai and door jane ki so that they realise your value….
Mom's love is very complicated one we can't say u love this person less or this person more it all depends on the mother.some mother donot raise hands on their kids n some will kick them hit them n later cry in guilt.there is lot more to mother's love they can be wierd ,cute ,loving, not available or even abusive .I will get tired if I have to explain mother psychology
U also need to see Anupama belonged to a joined family as bahu were moral policing a kid is not that easy ...the dangerous thing were kids get spoilt is when someone scolds the kid but immediately without letting the kid self reflect someone pampers the kid.n that is the case with anu's kids...have u seen how they r pampered for example pakhis birthday.who gives a kid such an expensive gift in middle class family ,vanraj did it to win without thinking how will it affect the child .
U said that only samar is her kid not the other two then u have misunderstood one thing.....samar loves his mother doesn't mean he will only get his mother's love... irrespective of how she is been treated by other two kids she did give birth to them n love them to death. N regarding all othe people she loves agar itna calculate karti ki isne pyaar ki toh hi badle mein mein pyaar dungi then by that logic she would have left vanraj way back because he never showered her with love....it was always her love
Regarding her inviting her sautan everytime...she never invited her sautan but she invited kavya in her house as friend who later back stabbed her .post the deceits reveal she has not invited her to any function Yes she did bring her to care for her with the eyes of a woman who she thought was molested, n paray logo se kya shikayat karna jab uske apne pati ne dhoka diya in return of all the love n affection she showered at him
rahi baat Kinjal ki she never had her mom with her she was always alone, with gods grace she turned out fine. She valued anu's love n affection because jisne mom ka pyaar mehsoos na kiya ho woh hi uss pyaar ki kimat samajh sakta hai...rakhi loves her daughter no doubt in that but Kinjal never felt or recieved that love n affection from her
N babuji he is selfish too...he wants to see n be with his daughter so he stopped her.
Though I understand the charachter of everyone I do have problems with them
I have a lot of problem with vanraj as he is typical example of male chauvinist pig
Baa she keeps vanraj on her head
N Anupama she has love for everyone but herself n I hate that
Ps:I might not be able to next post this big msg next time as I m down with covid n i m very tired to type so much.so plz don't mind
Edited by sushups - 4 years ago