Anupama is doing it AGAIN

I don't think Anupama learned anything from the Vanraj cheating fiasco at all.

All I am seeing Anupama is being selfish, ignorant and egoistic person tbh. She lacks empathy, self respect and basic semblance of the situation. She is a terrible mother. Let me explain..

So she is thinking she can make Kinjal stay with "Love". Sorry but love isn't something you can chain people with, din't she learn that from whatever happened between her and her husband. All the love she showered on him was basically nothing to him because we as humans don't only need love.

She is selfish because she is only thinking about Toshu's happiness but not Kinjal's well being at all. You think some rich girl can manage into a middle class household? especially her being OTT happy and trying to do all that kitchen drama and all. I would have been assured if she took a stand when Baa was taunting at Kinjal, but she goes and tries to normalize it. Doormat 2.0 in the making, but don't think Kinjal can take it for long.. for one, she isn't Anupama from a poor family to put up with that shit and she is infact educated and get on her feet. If Baa continues her behaviour and Anupama - Toshu doesn't really take a stand for her, she will leave. That being said, I can also see Baa favouring Toshu over Kinjal and doing the Vanraj- anupama thing all over again.

She is ignorant with her limited world view, not everything is about family and her priorities are not everyone's priorities. She doesn't understand her limits when imposing her views on others, like she emotionally manipulated Rakhi to accept Toshu-Kinjal relationship, by scaring her about their elopement and how her only daughter might abandon her.

She is egoistic about her ability to manage relationships, earlier it was husband and wife one, now it is able to keep Kinjal at her home and change Rakhi's mind into accepting them. Relationships don't work like that, It was so toxic that she was trying to make Rakhi accept this new relationship.

Anupama lacks empathy - Not once did she feel remorse or sadness over Rakhi's situation that her only daughter - only child was not only against her, hate her and think she is some manipulative bit*h who is always plotting but had the gall to stop her slap because she is now Kinjal's MIL. So, If you marry someone, your relationship with your parents become NIL or what??

I do think slapping Kinjal is not right, but who gave Anupama any right to basically throw Rakhi's rights as a mother over Kinjal just like that?

She doesn't have any idea about how life works, only because it fits your fancy fairyland view, doesn't mean it is good for others too.

Anupama lacks Self Respect, Oh god at times I felt she was some leech. Anupama can learn a thing or two from Arundhati (Marathi counterpart of Anupama), Arundhati did grovel around for her son's marriage and all but the moment it came onto her husband and her family and its values, she herself broke the alliance and Abhishek (Marathi Toshu) was heartbroken but SO MATURE ABOUT IT and accepted the decision.

Anupama is a terrible terrible mother who only mollycoddled her children and we can see that in Toshu, Samar and Pakhi. Toshu and Pakhi cannot take no as an answer, they just have to have it or they will throw a tantrum. Samar is better in this department, but his mom worship is not letting him see Anupama's flaws.

at the end, I would like to say in the last few days I felt if Anupama's family needed some light, she wouldn't think for a second to burn down the neighbourhood, as long as HER family is happy right? 🤪

Extra Note Added:

Feel free to disagree, you are entitled to your opinion and I am to mine.

And I am a regular watcher of the show also watch the Marathi version. Marathi one is more fleshed out and Character development is so good there. You are able to understand what characters do what they did. It is very realistic and Arundhati isn't a crybaby beating the drum about how she has the super power being a mom and home maker. Anupama is always crying and her actions at times baffle me.

Her son literally eloped with a girl and she is estatic about being a MIL and how great she will manage that, not about the mess they created in Rakhi's life. You cannot expect your life is all flowery, after destroying others. So instead of giving pep talk about marriage and all, I think it would be practical of her to talk to them about responsibilities and about getting a job. that said whatever Pakhi is learning for this all LOL. Remember her saying if my brothers and dad's female friends can come home, why not my male friend? what example are they setting as a family???

I just called her selfish because she wants HER family to be happy, her children to be happy and get whatever they want etc. About Kinjal, let's see how the story proceeds. Don't think any sane girl can take insults like "If the sweets from her mom are poisoned" and "her grand MIL calling her mom snake and taking her under her control etc etc"

Anupama did not ask kinjal and toshu to run swayam and get marry

Sbe was explaing to toshu but toshu cant Even wait . So if toshu cant wait and run away secretly and get marriy to kinjal so i Dont think anupama is selfish here.. I Dont think anupama is fault here

And anupama also told bhaag kur shaadi karke you both have did mistake . She Even told toshu that shaadi karte time apne parivaar ki yaad nahi aayi?

Anupama does not creat tamasha like rakhi on road that does not mean anupama is supporting wrong thing

Anupama ki habit nahi hai baa aur rakhi ki tarah tamasha karne ki . Woh galat baat ko oppose karti hai but cool manner mein aur yeh anupama ka apna tareeka hai woh galat baat ko oppose kare

And anupama ne many time baa ko oppose kiya hai whenever baa use to taunt kinjal

Baa taunt kinjal dress , baa Dont want kinjal to come to house and anupama oppose baa , yes woh she did not shout but she oppose

It is not neccssary shout karke apni baat rakhi jaaye

And anupama support kinjal and toshu marriage just because only both love each other

But she does not support elope marriage she was again and again aayin hai to toshu to wait, give her time, let me talk to rakhi

But toshu cant wait . Even for 1 day why?

And anupama never said to kinjal ki tumhe bus ghar ka kaam karna hai. Anupama also told ki tumhaari duniya sirf kitchen nahi tumhaari duniya kitchen ke bahar bhi hai jaise tumhaari padhai

Kitchen ke chakkar mein apni padhai mut bhool jaanana, apni pasand mut bhool jaanana

And btw kinjal herself intersested learning cooking from anupama. One day she herself come to kitchen and want to help anupama and then kinjal herself took bottle gourd and start cutting without peeling it

Anupama never force kinjal to do house hold work. Yeh kinjal ki khud ki iccha hai

Anupama ne rakhi se kaha ki aap acchi maa nahi ban paayin

What about rakhi who taunt anupama many time for not knowing english, like is word ka matlab samajh aaya, ? What is ur standard. Ur standard is so low, sautan ko sehli bana leti ho paise ke liye

Anupama has many time given respect to rakhi but nobody remember that. Whenever rakhi come to . Shah house anupama always welcome whole heartly rakhi but nobody remember that?

But only anupama sayiing to rakhi ki aap achi maa nahi ban paayi is remember ?

Anupama atleast give rakhi respect many time but aajtuk rakhi ne kabhi anupama se theek se baat ki hai ?

Aur aaj bhi bahut si joint family aisi hai jahaan old people galat hote haina phir bhi. Small one unko bolne ki himmat nahin rakh paate and it is reality in many house

It's true that Anupama is not taking stand. But that doesn't mean she is selfish. She is just respecting Baa. I agree Kinjal should not bear like Anupama. And Kinjal can take stand for herself so no issue at all. Yes there is no expectation from Toshu here.

Family drama is there because it's family show only. But yes it would be more interesting if we can see Anupama's journey here.

Sorry but I don't agree that she is selfish and all.

I agree 💯 true raaki can explain her point without shout g why does she have to do it rudely she can go and tell anupmaa I want my daughter to go ahead and anupmaa will not stop kinjal coz she told her she wants her to concentrate on her studies

Originally posted by: -Anayah-

I don't think Anupama learned anything from the Vanraj cheating fiasco at all.

All I am seeing Anupama is being selfish, ignorant and egoistic person tbh. She lacks empathy, self respect and basic semblance of the situation. She is a terrible mother. Let me explain..

So she is thinking she can make Kinjal stay with "Love". Sorry but love isn't something you can chain people with, din't she learn that from whatever happened between her and her husband. All the love she showered on him was basically nothing to him because we as humans don't only need love.

She is selfish because she is only thinking about Toshu's happiness but not Kinjal's well being at all. You think some rich girl can manage into a middle class household? especially her being OTT happy and trying to do all that kitchen drama and all. I would have been assured if she took a stand when Baa was taunting at Kinjal, but she goes and tries to normalize it. Doormat 2.0 in the making, but don't think Kinjal can take it for long.. for one, she isn't Anupama from a poor family to put up with that shit and she is infact educated and get on her feet. If Baa continues her behaviour and Anupama - Toshu doesn't really take a stand for her, she will leave. That being said, I can also see Baa favouring Toshu over Kinjal and doing the Vanraj- anupama thing all over again.

She is ignorant with her limited world view, not everything is about family and her priorities are not everyone's priorities. She doesn't understand her limits when imposing her views on others, like she emotionally manipulated Rakhi to accept Toshu-Kinjal relationship, by scaring her about their elopement and how her only daughter might abandon her.

She is egoistic about her ability to manage relationships, earlier it was husband and wife one, now it is able to keep Kinjal at her home and change Rakhi's mind into accepting them. Relationships don't work like that, It was so toxic that she was trying to make Rakhi accept this new relationship.

Anupama lacks empathy - Not once did she feel remorse or sadness over Rakhi's situation that her only daughter - only child was not only against her, hate her and think she is some manipulative bit*h who is always plotting but had the gall to stop her slap because she is now Kinjal's DIL. So, If you marry someone, your relationship with your parents become NIL or what??

I do think slapping Kinjal is not right, but who gave Anupama any right to basically throw Rakhi's rights as a mother over Kinjal just like that?

She doesn't have any idea about how life works, only because it fits your fancy fairyland view, doesn't mean it is good for others too.

Anupama lacks Self Respect, Oh god at times I felt she was some leech. Anupama can learn a thing or two from Arundhati (Marathi counterpart of Anupama), Arundhati did grovel around for her son's marriage and all but the moment it came onto her husband and her family and its values, she herself broke the alliance and Abhishek (Marathi Toshu) was heartbroken but SO MATURE ABOUT IT and accepted the decision.

Anupama is a terrible terrible mother who only mollycoddled her children and we can see that in Toshu, Samar and Pakhi. Toshu and Pakhi cannot take no as an answer, they just have to have it or they will throw a tantrum. Samar is better in this department, but his mom worship is not letting him see Anupama's flaws.

at the end, I would like to say in the last few days I felt if Anupama's family needed some light, she wouldn't think for a second to burn down the neighbourhood, as long as HER family is happy right? 🤪

on basis of what ur saying Anupama is selfish ? no she is thinking about both and what you said how rich girl manage in poor household ? kyun rich girl ko pata nahin thaa about the guy he is marrying is not rich like her ? ofcourse she knew everything sorry to say you cant blame anupama here

it was conscious decision by kinjal soo blame her here if she cant able to survive in shah family and what u said its so toxic to convince rakhi dave to accept their relationship iss mein toxic kya han she trying to make things better

ur fan of show ? i mean regular watcher i doubt because by saying anupama terrible is something first time i heard by anupama fans

i wish i have dislike option i give it big dislike to this post totally disagree

Well I don't agree with the selfish part. She is not being selfish she is supporting Toshu and Kinjal's love and she told them that they did wrong when they came home after marrying secretly. But shouting at them or creating drama can not solve or change anything now. They are married now and she can't change that. She is just trying to handle the situation peacefully cause if everyone starts fighting then how will they understand their mistakes. Someone has to be cool right...

And the rich girl can't adjust in middle class household is a very wrong perception. There can be people like Baa in rich households too. Then she accordingly Kinjal will not able to adjust in that rich household too.

Anupama is not telling Kinjal to not stand up for herself but just trying to make her understand the nature of family members so that Kinjal don't take the taunts and all at heart. Offcourse Kinjal should stand up for herself if Baa says something really wrong but she can do that calmly and make Baa understand her point of view and clear her part peacefully without any fights and drama.

Anupama not only thinking about her toshu and her family but also thinking about kinjal happines also

And it is clearly shown kinjal happines lies in in marrying to shah family as kinjal herself willing to marry shah family

She has no problem

When anupama support that thing what ever kinjal herself want then how anupama is not thinking about kinjal happines

But yes anupama want happines with correct and systamatic approach not wrong and random

approach

And it is anupama who told kinjal to apologise to her mother rakhi so defintely anupama is understanding other mother heart so . Surely Anupama is not ignorant neither she is selfish nor she is Egoistic and also she is not supporting wrong thing

I wont call her with adjectives like selfish as everyone knows she isnt. Infact she is the opposite of selfish ignorant and egoistic 😆 extremely naive ,kind, non ignorant and non egoistic , which is the problem here ..for this kind of family she needs to be a little of everything to survive . Nvm

.I dont think thy r planning to change her anytime soon . Bec then there wont be a story left. Its bec of her passive approach that she suffered setbacks with her children and husband. That doesnt mean of course, that she is responsible for her husbands ema. This family does NOT deserve the kind of dedication and service which Anupama provides them. They dont value her . Her kids turned out to be like vanraj , they dont go by her morals (except samar), that's nothing to be proud of. Its bec of her approach ,she let ba and vanraj take over her life.

She is nowhere responsible for what toshu and kinjal did yet she took it upon herself . Why does rakhi want to take revenge from "anupama" ..laughable. anupama should have kicked them out n asked them to live an independent life and see how it is. Easier to marry and go on forever honeymoon but it's tough to take up responsibilities.

why does she have to take it upon herself ? The family responsibilities, the kitchen, what her spoilt rotten freeloader kids do ,what her husband does , what ba does ? I was kinda happy when she let vanraj pay money for pakhi. Like..its not an ego issue. He IS responsible towards them in every way till death . By law even if Anupama takes divorce , the earning member that's vanraj , has to pay for his family (wife plus kids ) expenses as alimony. Anupama def needs to stand on her two feet and learn how imp it is to do so but for her own development , not bec she wants to prove it to vanraj that she can support this family financially...what exactly can be proven with it ? why cant the grown up kids earn for themselves? N till the time they are not adults , their father can pay for them , and his parents. It's his responsibility. Continuously being a doormat to them and still being insulted is all that she got until now. This has to change.

I can totally get behind what you are saying! I don't know why some people are basically attacking me as If Anupama is a real person and I am bullying her?

I just want the character to show some development, and a logical and organic growth. I feel she is yet to realize she is just a human and cannot do everything. It was her blind trust on her husband that gave her a shake off but she is still on the same path.

and for people who are talking about talking respectfully and peacefully, isn't that what Anupama did for like past 25 years? and her MIL is still mean to her and now pretty much insensitive with Vanraj coming and going like nothing is wrong and her asking Anupama to cook for him..

I better not talk about Toshu and Pakhi atm.. I can only hope it is building up to a bigger thing where they realize how terribly they behaved with their mom.