You are absolutely right about articulating the exact nature of any relationship👏 ....
Originally posted by: whynot
what i meant by never reducing love to one reality was this:
suppose i've been with someone for 4 5 years and then we broke up. as my friend, you saw the pain i underwent when the relationship ended... also from my mouth you only heard about the problems.
Say one day you discover that i want to meet that guy again... you say "why?. remember all the bad times." i say "yes i do. but there were good times too". each relationship has its own moments of intimacies, moments of laughter, shared moments that are personal only ot the two people involved, shared jokes that are funny only becuase they are related to certain times when you were together, certain things that you will never forget.
The person no matter how close to you will never know the exact detailed reason behind your feeling towards your lover .... see the "dekhane" vs. "Kehne" related problem .... you only did the "kehne" only to your friend .... but the "dekhane" part is missing...😆😆
BTW did you read my post on Kehne and dekhane in Suhaag Raat topic ?😆
Originally posted by: whynot
Now what i meant by more than one reality was that the bad times and the good dont cancel each other out... both are equally real to you, both are a part of you and of who you were in that relationship. the break up or the end is not the only reality or only meaning of that relationship, but neither are only the good times. the truth of that relationship lies somewhere between these two extremes. thats what i meant.
Yes ... very true .... see if you truly love some one .... only then you will be able to see that person beyond his/her short comings😉 .... you can't expect others to understand this fully as they are not in love with that person😉 ..(.....😉in this case we are all in love with Samay .... so no problem in understanding eath other hai na...😆)... but a true friend who knows you and trust your judgment will support you as s/he knows all thought not understood fully but there is indeed more to it😃 .... and move on with you ....👏👏
Edited by shahnaz12 - 18 years ago