I can understand your moralistic stand. But you also must admit, falling in love with someone just happens - rightly or wrongly. You don't choose to fall in love. You cannot pick someone and say, right this person as all the qualities i am looking for and i am now going to fall in love with this person. How many of us love someone despite
knowing the flaws - and some flaws can be really bad - but still you love.
As for Lali and Shekhar: Don't forget that Lali did not fall in love with Shekhar the married man - she fell in love with Ganesiya, her husband. Don't forget that Lali never thought of displacing Siddheswari - she upheld their union. It was she who got Siddheswari to have meals with the family. Lali is a simple-minded person who knows her place in society - and that is - she is a slave bought by money and told to specifically produce an heir. IN fact, Siddheswari even encouraged her to "do her job just as any other servant" - that is, to produce an heir for the family.
Shekhar lives in a world of his own : his emotions were not torn apart, he lived in this world of apathy, indulging in art and poetry and flying kites. He respects the sanctity of marriage - he still does till now. BUT in recent times, his feelings are changing not because he wants to but because he is changing. He is realising the importance of responsibility and self respect. He, against his will, is beginning to develop feelings for Lali because of circumstances, not the least of which is Siddheswari's own conduct. I grant that Siddheswari has an overly unbelievable innocent behaviour - but then again, she may be a totally selfish person who only cares for her own happiness which is derived by material values. She does not care for Shekhar - to her, he is just one of the milestonesin her life. She has no respect for Shekhar as her husband nor does she worry about him. I know of people like that in real life.
I think i like this show, it is thought provoking and makes you think outside the box. Perhaps you should watch it more and listen to the dialogues of Shekhar and Lali and perhaps you will start thinking outside the box too.
Please don't misunderstand me : i do not condone extra marital affairs etc But i do not condemn all such relationships: usually there is more than meets the eye and we should not judge people based on traditions, perceptions and circumstances.
My two cents worth for the moment. Need to get back to work.
Jodha Akbar
Anupamaa
