PLz help:In love with a hindu! - Page 2

well first of all your name veer-zaara really goes with ur problem, since veer was a hindu....and u know, anyways apart from the jokes

whatever you do, let your parents know, they will surely give you the right advice although u may not agree with them and they will most likely disagree with this relationship

and i kinda agree with the converting matter, if your bf wants to and his family has no problem with it then let him go ahead...but make sure that this will not cause problems in the future

hope my advice helped a little

Originally posted by: universe

Hi Veer-Zara,

I couldnt stop myself from writing all this after I read your post. I am a Hindu and I liked or rather loved some1 who was a muslim. I had known him from high school, he moved to another country and like 2 years ago he contacted me, and our old relationship started again. Both of us aren't teenagers anymore, we hold college degree, with very good jobs. When we saw each other again, we forgot our religion and families, we started even planning our marriage and families..

Then after sometime we realised it's not possible..I mean its possible..but I have to choose between him and my own family. I couldnt even dare to ask my parents. He was ready to ask my parents and his parents, I stopped him. Both of us thought about our families.

I could have stayed with him...But that would have been unfair to my parents..because of my happiness I couldnt forget what they did for; they gave me life, education. And in return I couldnt give them sorrow and a bad name in the society.

I am glad both of us understood each other so well. When we were chatting; I would always say to him; if you were a hindu, I would marry you. And he would say the same thing. Our friends think that its not right, religion shoudnt be a barrier in love.. but we told them love also doesnt create barriers. Love brings people closer. For our love we wouldnt want to create drifts between our parents.

So we are still friends. I wished him all the best for his future wherever he is. And he did the same for me. I wish life doesnt cross our paths again.

I wrote all that just to pour my heart out, I am not telling you to do the same thing. If your parents agree, then go for it girl..but dnt change your religion or let your boyfriend change his religion.

ok best of luck.

Firstly very well said, and i totally agree with u.

I think u should think abt your parents and whatever u do plz don't run away with him b/c in each and every phase of our lives our parents are the ones who stand by our side and give us support, they give us practically everything in life, your parents would always think for your best and it won't be easy for them to accept that their daughter is in love with some1 of a different religion, and according to Islam a girl is not allowed to marry some with a different religion.

About him being ready to convert, it is really sweet of him and shows how much he loves u but then u should also consider his family and parents if he converts and your parents agree to get u married, still wont the boy's parents be upset abt it.

In either cases, it is the parents who will suffer, you 2 will live happily but your parents would have to face the consequences and it would even affect your siblings.

Please think abt your parents and then take a decision .

Originally posted by: #1EijazFan

wait please tell me this is not true..
you have known him for THREE months and want 2 get married already?!!
wth!! even arranged marriages people get 2 no each other 4 longer!
i know there is no right time but how can u judge if someone is ready 2 live with you for the next approximately 25 yrs of ur life with you knowing him 4 3 months?!!!
omg im in shock! 😕 ur ready 2 give ur lyf 2 sum1 you've barely known!
you cant be friends with sum1 4 3 months and call them ur best friend can you?
do u know him inside and out? how can u say he is not fake etc?
3 months is not a long time, marriage is a life-long decision. i suggest you get to know him better.

Well, I think they know each other pretty well!! And they even want to get married! So, no offence, but i dont think they should change their decisions for this post of urs! coz i wouldnt be happy, if u called the person i loved, fake!! And im pretty sure u wouldnt be happy either!

And its not impossible to love someone in 3 months is it? I mean it can take 3 hours to hate someone, so why not 3 months to love someone??

Verr-Zaara, i understand how scared u must be to tell ur parents about the guy u love, but u have to do it!there is no other way..gather some courage and just do it!
it will be easier if u can convince ur guy's parents first...so they can come talk to ur parents! but if u cant convince his parents then tell the truth to someone in ur family who u r rly close to. and then u both can go n tell ur parents. so there will be at least one person by ur side. then tell ur parents..they will get angry n all...but beg them to meet the guy at least once if they haven't already. n then.. its up to ur parents to decide!if they say yes..yayy!!if they don't then u have 3 options
- keep persuading ur parents until they give in. this would make u parents unhappy n put them n u under soo much stress, but eventually they might give in. or might not.
-hurt ur parents by converting. ..or hurt ur guy's parents by making him convert. (but that could make his parents hate u :()
- forget the guy.
sorry but thats all u can do... apart from running away..which u shouldn't!!please don't do that!

Originally posted by: #1EijazFan

shows how much u take marriage seriously that u tell sum1 2 get married cos u dislyk my post?😕ur whole life dedicated 2 sum1 cos u dnt lyk my post..how very sad are you.

and how the hell can u say they know each other pretty well? do u know any of them personally? when a 15 yr old tells u dey wanna get married to sum1 and 1 of them even proposes maybe it is genuine but how can u prove it is without knowing anything about that person?😉ur saying it as if a 2 yr old says they wanna get married and it is definitely true love.

and when did i say he is fake? or 4 that matter 'the u love' lol. i said what if he is? we often dont judge sum1 correctly or do it without knowing them well enough. thats why i said because commitment is soo important! and 4 ur information i wud have no reason not 2 b happy bcos i wud neva ask 2 get married after 3 months but that is just me and i do NOT impose my views on others. cos never in my post did i say do NOT get married 2 him now did i? unless presenting ur biew is a crime of sum sort?

u can deeply fall in luv with sum1 in 3 months, hell let alone 3 months even a week! but how can u say ur ready 2 live ur life with them with the trust of 3 months? lots of ppl appear 1 thing 4rm the outisde and another 4rm the inside. the ONLY thing i tried 2 get across was to take the relationship slow and steady. i mean how many times do u hear 14 yr olds saying 'omg i cant live without him' and then ending up having around 8 boyfriends afterwards😆my opinion is my opinion and ur opinion is urs but please, dont tell sum1 2 give their life 2 sum1 else without you having no knowledge of what may happen afterwards! bcos if sum1 would get disowned(god forbid) we all know who we would hold responsible..

hey hey hey, you've turned this into an argument, i was just trying to say, that they both know each other and want to get married, so let it be, and u did say, 'how can u say he is not fake etc?' isnt that basically suspecting him for being fake? 😕 and no, i obviously don't know them well, but obviously if they love each other, they know each other 'pretty well' that doesnt mean, 'very well'. And like u said, thats ur opinion and this is mine, ur right! So i also have a right to say this too, that yes, i didn't like that post of urs!

HEY Faiza... i so totallly agree with u.. And EijazFan i know u wont agree with me if i say v know each other reaally welll but v do reaally n v r ready to marryy...
His parents are ok woth our relationship and i even spoke to his mom last week.. shezz reaaly sweet n actually likes me.. the only prolme is approaching my parents and convincing them..

Veer Zaara, my advise is to tell your parents and then take things slowly. Dont rush it immediately speak to your parents when they are calm.

Good luck in the future!

Originally posted by: Veer-Zaara

HEY Faiza... i so totallly agree with u.. And EijazFan i know u wont agree with me if i say v know each other reaally welll but v do reaally n v r ready to marryy...
His parents are ok woth our relationship and i even spoke to his mom last week.. shezz reaaly sweet n actually likes me.. the only prolme is approaching my parents and convincing them..

thanks for agreeing with me, aww thats really sweet of his mum! Now, about ur parents..!! I'll tell u something, plz pm me, when u read this post! Thanks! 😊

Originally posted by: Veer-Zaara

HEY Faiza... i so totallly agree with u.. And EijazFan i know u wont agree with me if i say v know each other reaally welll but v do reaally n v r ready to marryy...
His parents are ok woth our relationship and i even spoke to his mom last week.. shezz reaaly sweet n actually likes me.. the only prolme is approaching my parents and convincing them..

u no wut..half of ur problem is solved :D ask him n his parents to come over with like a rishta.. u won't even have to tell ur parents.. his parents will do that!!thats so much easier

Talk 2 ur parents
and inshalla they will understand and if hes ready to convert into muslim then tell ur dad and mum that he respects u!