Im really lonely please help =D

Hey guys...

well I just moved countries... From New Zealand to Australia... and Im going to a new school... i absolutley hate... I have made a few Indian friends... they are gujju girls we are 5... The other one is from Delhi... All the gujju girls talk in Gujju... and the delhi one understands... and im the only one who feels left out... I have told them soo many times still they don't listen. 😭 I sometimes feel like crying... i dont have anyone there even in all the classes I sit alone... No one wants to be friends with me 😭 Soo i sit all by myself.. i try to say to myself just concentrate on studies... But my mind comes back to saying I have no friends... What should I do to get myself out of this?

I can totally understand where u getting at, but u dont need friendS, you need just one friend. If they dont come and talk to you then you go ahead and mingle with them, dont just jump to conclusion that they dont want to be your friend because they dont talk to you.

Always remember you are new you are the one that has to approach them, it does not have to be people from your community. It can be ANYONE from ANYWHERE. Try to find someone that has the same interest, join a group or something else in the college where you can share the same stuff and talk about.

I would simply go to them and tell them 'Hi i am new around, was wondering if you could show me around or help me with something, it could a problem with classwork or homework'. Thats how you would start to know people, and make friends. Just take it slowly, your new and it takes time to buid up friendship. Just try to talk to everyone and not the only one that is from your own community.

Hope this helps
Take kare...

Oh dear - i'm so sad to hear that ---

Hey Guys Thanks soo much for the wonderful suggestions... Well I don't know if this is a problem or not but i told them that i didn't want to hang out with them today and i found these other girls from my class to hang out with.. I told her about the situation im in and if i could hang out with ther she was kind and told me I could hang out with her anytime i told her that i will talk to girls and see... Soo I told the gujju girls I'm not going to hang out with them anymore because i feel lonely and I didn't want to be an extra in their group... THey said Ok its ur wish if you want to go... I felt completley bad thinking they don't enjoy my company and walked off crying... The white girl( from my class who said i could hang out with her) saw me and she saw me crying and she asked what had happened and i told her that they didn't even care if i left them.. Soo that girl quickly ran to the girls even before i yelled out don't go she went and told them that I didn't want to hang out with them... bascially she explained it clearly that I didn't understand Gujrati soo please speak in English, one of the girls said its our wish what we want to speak... It turned out very ugly i didn't expect it to turn out this way... i don't know what to do... Please some tell me

Let things calm down - the white girl is kind to you --- hang out with her and don't worry about the other girls - don't waste your time with people who don't matter - trace your own path and act the way you are --

Thank you soo much laxlli.. I was waiting for a reply as im in school at the moment.. and I have a study period it just happened... It was kind enough of you to reply... I was thinking i should go talk to them after school and talk to them... Do you think I should ignore them and wait for sometime and then talk?

Wait some time - and plz don't be worried about them - stay focused on positive things otherwise y'd be tense and sad - try to enjoy your new frienships --- and avoid the other girls for your sake - it seems to me that they were talking their own language so that you could feel a bit unwanted otherwise they would have included by speaking english....

Well Its that they are all recently come from India and those girls just have come from the same school to this school im in... I think they are just use to it? but I told them Im from New Zealand and My hindi isn't soo good.. but i manage... when we were playing some stupid hand games i suggested they didn't include me when playing instead i had to watch when i said ok I'll play they avoided me went ahead and played...