should i marry him though i am not in love?

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persistence

@persistence

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Posted: 16 years ago

#11

Stay away from him; he is almost blackmailing. Besides, I think your reply above says that you don't want to be with him. And, you are only 23... life padi hai shaadi ke liye!!

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Noshin

@x.n0sh.x

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Posted: 16 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: lukkhiswami
hi nosh.. i did try yr way of working too.. he really liked dis girl in school times so i tried tellin him to b with her it wud be amazing.. but he says he doesnt lik her anymore he doesnt think of her dat way now.. i trie to tel him dat she did love him (which is true) for so long so he shud give her a chance too.. but he doesnt listen to me.. hes a nice guy he told me now he wont repeat himself another tym coz he realised dat it disturbs me.. he said hell wait for me.. till i get married to some1 else.. but til den hell wait for me.. n after dat either he wont get married.. i feel so guilty to behave d way i am behavin.. i keep feelin im going to ruin his life..

hmmmmm.... emotional blackmail....... sounds like he does love you, or he is just fake... as you said he is a nice guy.... so his love for you might be true... I think it is....

How are you going to ruin his life? Because he said that he'll wait for you, and he wont get married and blah blah? Trust me hun, he WILL get married even if you do.....

Yeah and your just 23, so still got loads of time to get married, so if he'll wait let him, you shud wait aswell for the right guy, maybe in a couple of years you might like him or even find mr. right 😉

Just chill and live life now 😊

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lukkhiswami

@lukkhiswami

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Posted: 16 years ago

#13

thanx guys.. im 23 n m gonna b gettin married in another yr now coz im a gujju n all gujjus get married early.. dats d reason im a lil freaked bout d whole thing.. but thanx to u guys i feel so much better now all less jumbled n a lot more simplified.. n a lot less guiltier!! thanx to u nosh for that.. thank u so so much.. i think il give d whole thing some time n see if i can ultimately find some1 i like.. i hope it happens soon.. thanx guys.. :)

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Noshin

@x.n0sh.x

Dazzler

Posted: 16 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: lukkhiswami
thanx guys.. im 23 n m gonna b gettin married in another yr now coz im a gujju n all gujjus get married early.. dats d reason im a lil freaked bout d whole thing.. but thanx to u guys i feel so much better now all less jumbled n a lot more simplified.. n a lot less guiltier!! thanx to u nosh for that.. thank u so so much.. i think il give d whole thing some time n see if i can ultimately find some1 i like.. i hope it happens soon.. thanx guys.. :)

Your so welcome! 😃

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radheradhe

@radheradhe

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Posted: 16 years ago

#15

dear..

Dnt get into a relationship to do a favour to a friend or out of obligation. marriage is most important decision of ur life. If u are not sure, ask ur best friend, or ask some person who really cares for you and whose decision you respect. I am just being a bit practical here, a man needs to have some characters for being good husband. Maybe you cannot see them now as your mind is all muddled up, but it is important to chk if he really is the right person to match ur needs and character and family values.

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Jia

@Jiannax143

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Posted: 16 years ago

#16

i'm 24 and im engaged and i know people in this generation feel that marriage is nothing without love but sometimes you can find happiness with people who love you. i think if you feel like you can be happy with him and he can take care of you then you should say yes to him but i dont think you should ask us because in the end its your life and you should make the final decision. its like they say, you'll be much happier with the one who loves you rather than who you love

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lukkhiswami

@lukkhiswami

Beginner

Posted: 16 years ago

#17

ya i really think yl are right i shudnt marry him just coz hes my friend i cant b unjust to him later on.. itll b really sick on my part.. iv decided dat i wont talk to him as much as before so dat he gets time to get over me.. i hope he finds love soon coz hes a nice guy.. thank u guys.. :)

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sunshine2609

@sunshine2609

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Posted: 16 years ago

#18

i don't think u shud marry him but still keep the friendship..he sounds like a good friend u probably shud keep him close!!

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bewafa

@bewafa

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Posted: 16 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: shopah0lic_xo
...much happier with the one who loves you rather than who you love

You know, I have always heard of this saying, but I am always left confused by it.

So one should marry someone who loves us...but what about that other person? If that person also believed that saying...then I suppose not a lot of people will get married. LOL! 😆