Discussion: Unwanted Advice

I am very sensitive about stuff when I am tensed. So, If someone came to me with unwanted advice ... I would likely tell them to go away because they are making everything worse

If it were a elder person. I would walk away myself because you have to respect elders na. Well, that's the way I was raised

Even i m Emotional person..... N turn myself in2 Voilent...I yells at dem... just as i m in bad mood. n dey r making it more complicated 4 me....

Well,if i am already tensed and sumone comes with an unwanted advice,well i'll act as though 'm not listening to him/her. Or maybe just tell 'Please,not now.Some other time'.

You're already really tensed and someone comes in with some unwanted advice, how do you react?

I prefer advice only when I ask for it or when I need it badly .. It would depend who comes with advice .. if its some1 I respect than I would listen(i have patience) .. if its some1 I can shoo off than I would politely say that I m not in the mood for this right now, plz leave me alone.

What if it's an elder person and you don't want to hurt/disrespect them, how do you deal with it?

Respected / elder person, I would listen but it would be my final decision whether I take the advice or not

Do you believe in "is kaan se suni dusre se nikaal di" meaning you just listen for the time being but don't care to remember? Does it bother you when you're already in problems and someone comes in with unwanted advice?

If some1 comes up with advice, it means they care and have concern for u .. If I have time then I listen if not then I politely say that I don't have time or not in the mood.

I listen to advice but I decide myself whether to take/follow that advice or not.

You're already really tensed and someone comes in with some unwanted advice, how do you react?

Hmm..maybe i'll tell that person politely that it's not needed or maybe listen to it n 4get about it!

You're already really tensed and someone comes in with some unwanted advice, how do you react?

this has happened to me too many times!! all i did was listen to them, faked a smile even though all i wanted to do was tell them to be quiet (😆), and then tell my dad to tell them to stop once they were gone! 😆😆 then my dad would get angry and say "beta! aise nahin bolte!!! 😡😡" 😆

When I'm tensed I try my best to remain cool and work out a solution myself.I prefer to remain alone and would kindly ask anyone with me elder/younger to leave me alone.I try my best not to yell at them and whoever it is whom I shout at shouldn't feel bad abt me.I hate to think how they feel when they are turned down and making them feel painful is the last thing I want be they younger or older. And those who give advise never intend to do so just for fun;they too will have our good in mind when they advise but for us it may seem unwanted.I don't think there are many people who would press on you with their advice until you follow them and being rude to them will disturb their minds.So I would first try to turn them down gently but if they persist would listen to their advice and tell them I would decide later.
But if I ever lost control and shouted at them I would apologize as soon as the situation clears...I can't see anyone heartbroken as a cause of me being rude to them.

tell them striaght up that you're not in a situation where you need advice.