let us not all forget

Originally posted by: ramas

Simi takes care of her family with abhi's support all the time. Even abhi does the same for her family as he happnes to care great deal for simi and her family. As they are the one who have accepted him with open arms when Mr T threw him out once more.

Abhi repeatedly told simi he happens to understadn simi and why should she help her family. he does not want her to forget in few days of their marraige that she cared for this family for so many years. and feels she can not abandon them in their need.

Meaning simi is doing all this with Abhi;s approval.

She looked at him

1 when manju ask abhi to stay back

2 she asked Abhi to go back and live with sethis.

3 she asked him if he considers this is his house.

we all blame and say simi is ungrateful and does not care about Abhi's feelings. But she does. It was her love for him that made her hide such horrible truth. But she forgot one most important thing.

Abhi has nothing of his own at this moment living under sethi's roof and eating thier food but the only satisfaction that he can protect his wife and their family from anything and any one.

Simi has taken that away too by hiding such humongous horrible fact making abhi feel that he is worth nothing . Not only able to take care of his wife but even he can not protect her.

A biggest blow on any man's ego.

So simi is right in what she has been doing with Abhi's support love and care. but she was very wrong in hiding such fact and then saying all wrong things like I thought things were going ok so why bring it out. such truth?

i am sure Abhi will never say that you only care for your family or you are selfish as he does not see simi that way. though she has proven herself selfish hiding the truth and never thought about how will abhi feel when he finds it out some other way.

Originally posted by: SaNiCo

GREAT TOPIC RAMAS ....... WHY SHOULD HE OR WHY DID SHE???

Now they both are well educated and decent folks and are in love and the basis of their marriage was love (half sided anyways) to begin with.

i don't think Abhi is eating and living in their house for free and if that is the case then Anita did not do anything and lived for free. I agree in a Indian society the daughter is o.k to stay carefree in a in-laws house and do nothing but if a boy does it it is a taboo.
Abhi was looking for a job and constantly facing the other challenges of his married life but in fairness it was only three months after his marriage he was out of shelter and unemployed. What is so wrong with that in this economy where well deserving talented folks are being bankrupt and out of their livelihoods and for a much longer than this time frequency.

I for one commend the creative's for showing this scenario in a society where it is not accepted tabooed and and criticized and yes Abhi needed the job but if he never gotten it even now...... does that make him any less of a husband or a son-in-law to stay at home and take care of the house and Simi works and supports him. are we being sexiest here and discriminating against the gender and not tolerating the man not to work and live off his wife's earning....... is not it what we are hoping for the creative's to show us something different and away from the norms. And when they do the educated viewers are all against this concept of the male protagonist to be out of work.
In fairness to Abhi's character he did showed his pride and voiced it to Simi to start paying for the food and lodging and also supported her with their decision to pay and take a loan for the stay order advance.
I for one loved the scene when Abhi very innocently and with in characteristic asked Simi for money to buy the mithai because he has none. How different and absolutely appreciative of that scene was to be a real scene and probably true in some households because of the inflation.
Another scene comes to mind is when he bought the bangles and had no money to pay for the. Creative's had this scenario all along to bring this issue in today's economy where even the richest capitalistic countries are facing this dilemma.
Now our Casanova has a job so good for him but otherwise the show really should be commended for taking a huge chance for showing us something away from the norms and not to talk about the reality of today's economy.

Originally posted by: SimBhi2

That highlighted part is wrong in my opinion.....I don't think I would have a problem with that. What I want for Abhi is to live on his own with his wife and not in HIS sasural....If a husband has to live off the wife's earnings there is nothing wrong with that....But yes I don't want a man to have to live in his sasural and be the only one helping them solve their problems while forgetting ones own family. The Sethi household has a son Anuj,,,,,,,,,,,,And Abhi needs to let Anuj take the responsibility of the Sethi household....And Abhi and Simi need to save up enough money to buy or rent a place of their own...............They could have rented the neighboring house....Then this Bhalla problem would never be possible......Abhi is a very self respecting man with family values. And what was shown of him in the begining was true than he would never overstay his welcome in his sasural.............

Originally posted by: SimBhi2

My thoughts exactly......Simi needs to understand what it is like for a man to live in his sasural and not on his own...Simi sees this as her family and Abhi as an extension of that....She needs to realise that they are two different families...On one side is her family and on the other side is her husband and her future.......She is wrapped up in a cacoon of "family".....

Abhi has always supported her when she has had to take care of her family....But what he did wrong is make Simi realise that he too is part of her life....Her family is her here and now but he is their future......Abhi should have put his foot down a long time ago and let Simi decide does she want family or does she want him and his future............I think it is time Simi take a big girl pill and grow up!

Originally posted by: ramas

so true and share littlest thing with him and rely on and trust him to find solution like she always did.

This one simi has to handle very carefully as she has snatch abhi's right to protect his wife. No matter she it will be wrong but that she should have had faith in him to handle situation and she always makes mistakes trying to help every one and ends up hurting them That is why she needs him now and always and that I have learned my lesson big time.

Originally posted by: nimi2b4u

this topic is nice but i dont think ,now this is the issue,but the issue is bonding the trust b/w husband and wife that they share ,now abhi has job ,i think the creatives r very clever that they have raised this problem now ,after he got the job and and ofcourse his long waitied SR.when they r in all means together.