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Bana

@Bana

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

#11

Exactly! Simi is the scared one who was reacting instinctly and had no real plan to tackle RB, while Abhi is usually the smart wise one who solves problems. So how come Simi hid it from him as if she is the wise one who knows how to handle this and Abhi is the immature hot-headed idiot?

To be scared and clueless is forgiveable. But to be scared yourself and treat others as idiots is unforgiveable. That is the most dislikeable trait in Simi, that she is the incompetent one but behaves as if all others are.

Secondly, as Mesimi pointed out, the worst thing for a spouse (whether husband or wife) is to be kept in the dark while the enemy knows the secret. Such a husband will feel impotent!

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Dhabu89

@Dhabu89

Rocker

Posted: 15 years ago

#12

Ginac and Bana you guys have said a mouthful....Every word is the truth! Simi should have NO MATTER WHAT trusted her husband about the little roach's proposal to her.......So far Abhi has done nothing but proven he is far more intelligent in his actions and thoughts! Simi has done nothing but proven she is incapable of making intelligent decisions............

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ramas

@ramas

Alumni

+ 5

Posted: 15 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: Bana
I agree by all means Abhi surely felt that way that he is incapable of protecting her in he worst situation. Abhi might have felt more hurt because simi always took his help from smallest stiuation and abhi always helped her. But she hid the biggest situation from him. sort of like a double standard. She always asked for his help in every small thing. but when it came to proetect her honor which is ultimately his honor she hid the fact from him.

I can understand abhi's anger and it is justified by all means.Simi had this coming for not trusting him in such major issue. But he still not have pushed her. Simi never denied she needs him and he is always there to help her and protect her.

simi also admitted whenever she tries to do something good she always messes it up. So as a big hearted person he should forgive one her major crime even though she has stabed his heart and his ego as her protector her savior.

We all know no matter how much Abhi beats RB he is not going to change.

Even after Abhi and Simi's beating he dared himslef moving next to him .

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Ganga

@Avatarana09

Dazzler

Posted: 15 years ago

#14

When one is in anger, the force with which they do things is unbelievable.

Abhi has always given Simi , a shoulder to cry on, a preotective hug and reassuring kiss each time there has been trouble for her and that too most of the times the trouble she has invited for herself.

And there is absolutely no harm in giving her that push. In fact he did not push her. In the kitchen when she came closer to hold his hand, he stopeed her saying...No, dont touch. In the dining hall in spite of that, she pulled his hand preventing him from going. he just let go of himself from her. But sadly with much force that she struggled to gather herself.

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Jenila

@Jenila

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#15

i so agree with Mesimi, you are the person who always speak of my heart.

you write all the emotions, expressions, gestures, of simbhi so beautifully, i really love your all posts.

Coming to Simbhi,

Abhi's anger was 100% valid, even when simi was explaining the reason that y she hide the truth from him, at the same time what Abhi said was breath taking " Tumne mere bhare main aur mere gusse ke bhare main socha, lekin simi tumne yeh kyun nahi socha ki main kuch galath nahn kar sakta"

What i understood from these is that he is more mature and intelligent to understand the problems and how to react in a situation, he can thing that if he will kill Bhalla then that will be affecting his Simi, so he so matured, understands how to contol his gussa.

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nirmala

@sayhi2nimi

Inactive

Posted: 15 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: ramas
I never said abhi is wrong and simi is right. But simi had her reasons at the time. Trust me I am living with a man with uncontrolable anger and know what they are capable of when they think some one is trying to hurt the person they love so much.
Abhi going after RB is very valid but he needs to use his brain and not do anything that can get him in trouble.

Abhi should not have pushed Simi and listen to her before going out to kill RB.

hi even agree with u that anger makes a person uncontrolable, but i felt that the explanation that simi gave to abhi was not satisfactory,the true words were missing for person u love,i think she should have explained how much she loved him and what is place of him in her life,i think that would have done the magic to stop abhi.as far as i know the character abhi he still treats her frist as a good friend then a wife.

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Bun Maska

@bunmaska

Dazzler

Posted: 15 years ago

#17

Raksha....I can understand your pov and hats off to you as I can understand where you are coming from and I have seen people keeping their cool have won lots of battles in their life.....but as much as I try I cannot control my anger....though I regret later for all the anger and what all I have told in my anger as people with anger do not have the capacity to think straight in the end it does not solve any problem at all....so I can say Abhi is fully justified in showing out his anger as he had been pushed so far.........though I really hate the way Simi takes him for granted and keeps calling him baccha and unselfishly whenever she wishes takes his help but then RBs challeneg was the heights of any woman's self respect to be tolerated...........and with husband and wife its not the question of who is the sensible one and who is not.......when simi did not tell Abhi the first time...it was the need of the hour....if she had he would in his anger gone to hit him...but later hiding it from him for days together was not at all required...and she was heading for more trouble when she kept the note in her purse instead of destroying it....but i agree that the explanation she gives later was totally wrong...and there are some things best left untold to husbands.....😉......believe it or not............and first of all do men like Abhi exist....😔............sigh...its only in dreamland 😳

Edited by Lata - 15 years ago

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gaayika

@gaayika

Navigator

Posted: 15 years ago

#18

Lata

men Like Abhi do exist . I know one . However situations and circumstances in the relationship can alter the nature of any person. How a person then handles the situation is the name of the game .

Time and again if his efforts are classified as bachpana and mazak , it does get to a point where he would lash out . But the fact that he loves her to death brings him back to forgiving her every single time , although it has been taking longer each time now for him to forgive her . This was the last straw , will take longer for him to get over teh fact that he was kept in the dark when RB knew that she was hiding it from him all along. That was pure mockery.I would have felt the same .

Yes , people can do irrational things in a fit of anger and so I am hopeful that nothing untowrd comes out of Abhi and RB's fight.

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ramas

@ramas

Alumni

+ 5

Posted: 15 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: Lata

Raksha....I can understand your pov and hats off to you as I can understand where you are coming from and I have seen people keeping their cool have won lots of battles in their life.....but as much as I try I cannot control my anger....though I regret later for all the anger and what all I have told in my anger as people with anger do not have the capacity to think straight in the end it does not solve any problem at all....so I can say Abhi is fully justified in showing out his anger as he had been pushed so far.........though I really hate the way Simi takes him for granted and keeps calling him baccha and unselfishly whenever she wishes takes his help but then RBs challeneg was the heights of any woman's self respect to be tolerated...........and with husband and wife its not the question of who is the sensible one and who is not.......when simi did not tell Abhi the first time...it was the need of the hour....if she had he would in his anger gone to hit him...but later hiding it from him for days together was not at all required...and she was heading for more trouble when she kept the note in her purse instead of destroying it....but i agree that the explanation she gives later was totally wrong...and there are some things best left untold to husbands.....😉......believe it or not............and first of all do men like Abhi exist....😔............sigh...its only in dreamland 😳

Lata husbands like abhi and men like Abhi do exist. Some times we pay attention to minor things or day today things and ignore major things and overlook the best qualities of the person we live with and misjudge their protectiveness as their control. I know this from experience and it took me years. to reaize this, And I have seen 4 men in my own family who you can be called ideal husbands and will do anything for their wives.and some of my friend;s hubies as well. .So it is not in dreamland my friend.

So true Simi should have destroyed the note. But she can say: I kept it. to show you. I was looking for the right time. as I could not hide this from you . If I had no intention of showing you than I could have destroyed. When I told you I was scared. How can I hide from you now when I did not hide anything before.

Tumhare siva mai kahan jaoungi. Tumhi to ho mere sab kuch. He may not buy this. But he at least will realize simi kept it. and she had no intention of hiding it and would have told me one day.

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Rumi007

@Rumi007

Sparkler

+ 5

Posted: 15 years ago

#20

Abhi's anger is valid but he shouldn't push Simi away.Its not acting like a wise man.Even he didn't listen to Simi properly.May she told him about RB's shifting but Abhi didn't gave her a chance to say this.

If he harm RB badly and go to jail then RB will take the advantage of that.Abhi should understand this well.

But Simi need to learn a lesson.She always ignore Abhi when there are two options between Abhi and her family.

Edited by rumi005 - 15 years ago