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Malini

@Rumii

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Posted: 15 years ago

#11

NAVTOUR- First of all, u only TAUNT someone if he or she is WRONG now about MANJU, she always TAUNT Simi for no reason at all.... Isn't that contradictory in itself....😳HUH..?? Actually parents do taunt a particular kid because the parent prefers the other kid... U know,Parents are humans after all.... it's not that they're right all the time .... If Anuj has been selfish ,tell me why did Milli go to fight with her brother about taking away all the money that milli could've used to go to london..??Wasn't that selfish too????????????? How about Neetu????????????? I haven't seen Rajinder after Neetu like he's been after Anuj.... and frankly speaking if you see around ,do you see 100% perfect Sons?? I personally DID NOT SEE ANUJ TO BE SO BAD till he started getting Anita's Evil ideas........ Actually I think NEETU is also a very practical example..... Well,isn't Simmi li'l selfish nowadays?? She knows Very well that Rajinder is proceeding talks with Nakul Singh's family.... what'll happen to Rajinder's honour if Nakul comes to know later that she was just acting with him n she had an affair with His younger Cousin Abhi secretly..?? What'll Nakul's Dadi say who's even given her Bangles?? They seem to be such good people at least till date...... WHAT DID SALONI of SAAT PHERE do in such situation was RIGHT.... She liked Neel but as her parents wanted her to get married to Nahar,she followed her parents' wish n married Nahar .... Isn't it true that SIMI's RELATIONSHIP with ABHI,Who's Younger than her Younger brother is WEIRRRRD????
SUMMARY IS NOBODY IS PERFECT .... Kids are good or bad , a mixture of Good and Bad but they're kids and it's parents' job to MEND them,teach them the right ways...n Please don't say ANUJ is Not a kid anymore.... In india parents show us ways till THEY live.....

Edited by iamindian - 15 years ago

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Laila Banu

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Posted: 15 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: iamindian
NAVTOUR- First of all, u only TAUNT someone if he or she is WRONG now about MANJU, she always TAUNT Simi for no reason at all.... Isn't that contradictory in itself....😳HUH..?? Actually parents do taunt a particular kid because the parent prefers the other kid... U know,Parents are humans after all.... it's not that they're right all the time .... If Anuj has been selfish ,tell me why did Milli go to fight with her brother about taking away all the money that milli could've used to go to london..??Wasn't that selfish too????????????? How about Neetu????????????? I haven't seen Rajinder after Neetu like he's been after Anuj.... and frankly speaking if you see around ,do you see 100% perfect Sons?? I personally DID NOT SEE ANUJ TO BE SO BAD till he started getting Anita's Evil ideas........ Actually I think NEETU is also a very practical example..... Well,isn't Simmi li'l selfish nowadays?? She knows Very well that Rajinder is proceeding talks with Nakul Singh's family.... what'll happen to Rajinder's honour if Nakul comes to know later that she was just acting with him n she had an affair with His younger Cousin Abhi secretly..?? What'll Nakul's Dadi say who's even given her Bangles?? They seem to be such good people at least till date...... WHAT DID SALONI of SAAT PHERE do in such situation was RIGHT.... She liked Neel but as her parents wanted her to get married to Nahar,she followed her parents' wish n married Nahar .... Isn't it true that SIMI's RELATIONSHIP with ABHI,Who's Younger than her Younger brother is WEIRRRRD????
SUMMARY IS NOBODY IS PERFECT .... Kids are good or bad , a mixture of Good and Bad but they're kids and it's parents' job to MEND them,teach them the right ways...n Please don't say ANUJ is Not a kid anymore.... In india parents show us ways till THEY live.....

My goodness!! Milli confronted her brother for stealing money from their father. How is the victim guilty here? I am totally baffled. Anuj is an adult; he has failed to act as an adult. As a child RS loved all four of his children equally - we hear that a lot in the show when both parents talk. However, it appears that despite his efforts, the constant turning of a blind eye by Manju for Anu's wrongdoings clearly have had an impact. Consequently Anuj is a spoilt brat and his unruly, selfish behavior continues.

Also, even if Anita is of bad character, Anuj is an adult male and can stand up to her but he doesn't. Also, RS has done nothing with Neetu because so far no-one knows she's pregnant or has even done anything wrong. So this arguement is a mute point.

As for Simi - you call her selfish with regards to her family? LOL. She is selfish, but towards Abhi. Goodness, she's the Queen of Sacrifice and you still have a problem that she's not doing enough. Regarding Nukul, her father said to her it's your choice.

Granted, she shouldn't have taken the bangle, but for no other reason than she was in love with someone else and had accepted his proposal. Also, she should never have met with the family that day. Also for her to accept a rishta with someone she does not love for the sake of family honor? Give me a break. It's the woman who is supposed to spend the rest of her life with the guy and vice versa (and have sex with each other) NOT the parents. Accepting a marriage should be the choice of the girl (and guy) NOT the parents. When the parents are ready to sleep with the partner then let them pick.

And yes, Anuj is NOT a kid anymore. He's an adult and can make adult decisions. There is a point at which parents do not have an influence on their children.

Edited by Laila2009 - 15 years ago

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ReadLo

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Posted: 15 years ago

#13

Laila I agree with you, I do not judge but I am against the concept of arranged marriage I do not like you have to adapt to the person after I know what happens and not end up this separate then as was said early in Simi RB that have no relationship together and if she agrees to marry Nakhul I'll see him ill say the same thing (it will continue to see Abhi secretly?) to non-j 't believe I wonder how the sequel will be held after which it will Nakhul? may be that the they will begin their battle with the society

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Malini

@Rumii

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Posted: 15 years ago

#14

NICE POST👍🏼

Gur N Cool I like your point- I agree with you, it's a big step, and he is only isolating him further. Afterall Anuj is his son, and not a tranger, for how long can he stay away from him. He has over reacted.

I agree Anuj is wrong big time but he wasn't like that always, once Anita came he got bad ideas from her. So he should be given one more chance, if that doesn't work either, then he can give all his property to his daughters.

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Nav Tour

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Posted: 15 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: iamindian
NAVTOUR- First of all, u only TAUNT someone if he or she is WRONG now about MANJU, she always TAUNT Simi for no reason at all.... Isn't that contradictory in itself....😳HUH..?? Actually parents do taunt a particular kid because the parent prefers the other kid... U know,Parents are humans after all.... it's not that they're right all the time .... If Anuj has been selfish ,tell me why did Milli go to fight with her brother about taking away all the money that milli could've used to go to london..??Wasn't that selfish too????????????? How about Neetu????????????? I haven't seen Rajinder after Neetu like he's been after Anuj.... and frankly speaking if you see around ,do you see 100% perfect Sons?? I personally DID NOT SEE ANUJ TO BE SO BAD till he started getting Anita's Evil ideas........ Actually I think NEETU is also a very practical example..... Well,isn't Simmi li'l selfish nowadays?? She knows Very well that Rajinder is proceeding talks with Nakul Singh's family.... what'll happen to Rajinder's honour if Nakul comes to know later that she was just acting with him n she had an affair with His younger Cousin Abhi secretly..?? What'll Nakul's Dadi say who's even given her Bangles?? They seem to be such good people at least till date...... WHAT DID SALONI of SAAT PHERE do in such situation was RIGHT.... She liked Neel but as her parents wanted her to get married to Nahar,she followed her parents' wish n married Nahar .... Isn't it true that SIMI's RELATIONSHIP with ABHI,Who's Younger than her Younger brother is WEIRRRRD????
SUMMARY IS NOBODY IS PERFECT .... Kids are good or bad , a mixture of Good and Bad but they're kids and it's parents' job to MEND them,teach them the right ways...n Please don't say ANUJ is Not a kid anymore.... In india parents show us ways till THEY live.....

huh?! now i am confused.
i believe u FABRICATED my post.
those were 2 SEPERATE sentences.
2 SEPERATE sentences.

lets put LOGIC on this.

for example:

anuj stole the money.
stealing is bad.
there for, anuj is BAD.

make sense?
so if somebody stole ur money,
what should u do?
PUNISH so that he/she will REPENT
and ask FORGIVENESS.

and thats what RS had done.
because ANUJ is not of those types that will learn his LESSON that EASILY.
he needs to go through a ROUGH PHASE
before he'll acknowledge his family's existence and IMPORTANCE.

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Malini

@Rumii

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Posted: 15 years ago

#16

My final words on this Topic is I Agree with GUR N COOL's post...... I do not agree to the fact that Rajinder is against Anuj's coming home.... if he expects Anuj to ask for forgiveness,he needs to let his son at least come face to face ...... I've seen such problems in lots of families but fathers DO Not handle the problem as Rajinder is doing.... ie.... Isolating n Ignoring Anuj totally..... Parents generally try to bring children back in the right path..... AND TO ME THAT'S RIGHT !!!!!

Edited by iamindian - 15 years ago

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

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Posted: 15 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: iamindian
My final words on this Topic is I Agree with GUR N COOL's post...... I do not agree to the fact that Rajinder is against Anuj's coming home.... if he expects Anuj to ask for forgiveness,he needs to let his son at least come face to face ...... I've seen such problems in lots of families but fathers DO Not handle the problem as Rajinder is doing.... ie.... Isolating n Ignoring Anuj totally..... Parents generally try to bring children back in the right path..... AND TO ME THAT'S RIGHT !!!!!

How does bringing someone home fix it? Are you seeing any effort made on Anuj's part to resolve the matter beyond trying to steal his father's house and ruin a chance for his sister to be happy?

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sur_aur_taal

@sur_aur_taal

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Posted: 15 years ago

#18

I do NOT agree with RS' decision to remove him from the will. But I don't agree only because this was an act done purely based on emotions which are high in rage at this time from what Anuj did as well as what Mr. Tanejay said about selling 12/24. And from experience of others around me, any actions done in extreme rage and done quickly without thinking later turns out to be a bad decision.

I would have liked RS to allow Anuj to come home, not to live but to ask for forgiveness. After which RS should forgive him. This doesn't mean that Anuj would get a free ticket back home. I'm a Christian so I believe that we are supposed to forgive all who do wrong against us just as God has forgiven us for all the wrong we do to him. But God doesn't say to forgive means that the person can be your best friend. It just means that the you are no longer angry or revengeful towards that person.

I agree with other members that the upbringing of these children has been done incorrectly .. with Manju always taunting/yelling at her daughters and RS always taunting/yelling at his son. That would have an affect on how the children behave later on for sure. And the fact that Manju and RS are going their own ways and not being a team also allows full freedom for the kids to go their own ways because they see this as okay. Also I don't think Simi should be hiding so many things about her siblings from her parents. I once did post that I did the same thing with my siblings but for small things. If it was something big I would convince them to tell our parents for sure. She is also hiding things from her own sister, Mili who has supported her, which she shouldn't do either.