Originally posted by: LOLitaPawar
This is probably going to be a very unpopular opinion,bear with me.
May be his views are realistic,it is not entirely safe to be out of the house at 2 or 3 am.I totally get his anger when his fiancee does not even bother telling him that she is going to some other country with her friends.His mother's lecture on him being a man from the stone age was not required at all when he merely said that she could have told him before going to that conference of hers!
But what IS too headstrong and too liberal,really?He said he does not like any woman who is too headstrong or liberal,its like he has this fixed image of an ideal woman in his mind...and sexism is not only about seeing the other gender lesser than yours,it also constitutes of stereotyping.
He seems to have a problem that his mom does not cook herself,that her sister does not know how to fix a shirt,he complains that nobody(that is a woman) checks when clothes come back from laundry,but he can try to handle these things too right?At least when it comes to his clothes,its not as if his mom sits idle all day.
It seems to me that even though Zaroon respects women and does not want a weak wife who has no personality he still does not think that a wife is completely equal to a husband...the difference between the status of a husband and a wife might be less in his mind but its there IMO.He is not the biggest sexist out there but he still is one.
Originally posted by: bips
rafiya is not a headstrong woman. she is a woman who is undoubtedly strong to make the best out of a situation but she takes all kind of shit from her husband. even her marital advice to kashaf is mostly annoying
zaroons mother worked. so yes she gave him less time. but did he ever ask the same ques from his dad? why didn't you give us time. no. even today he says that he thinks that women should do all the work of the house.
this superwoman concept has damaged women more than any regressive stand. we are expected to be good at everything . men just need to go out and earn.
he has a problem with his fiance hanging out late with other guys. but he has no problem hanging out with other girls till late. are they not someone else's sister/ daughter? he says he dies not want guys to comment on his wife bec of her dress or habits. but does he not comment on kashaf in that awful scene in the librry. what had she worn / done to deserve that rubbish. also later in the serial his attitude with that Osama issue is highly stupid.
I really wish the director had sorted and closed this issue . it would have literally made this serial perfect.
I agree with both these posts above. Also in Gazala's favour, of her being a neglecting parent, because she gave priority to her career, it is bad direction which really doesn't bring it out. If she was only involved in her career, I can assure you the following would have never happened:
1)Zaroon was very well behaved and respectful. Even Rafiya commented about his upbringing.
2) When Zaroon was restless because he wanted to speak to Kashaf after Abrar broached the topic of marriage to her, he wanted to speak to his mother and was saying that 7 days were too long
3) The family had meals together.
SOrry but these are signs of a close knitted family. So in this part, Gazala was shown as a frivolous character only with dialogues in some scenes. It wasn't developed properly, and this was because of bad screenplay or poor direction.
Where Zaroon is concernced, again his being conservative, and his thoughts had no link because of poor direction.
1) He wants a woman to be homebound with cooking, sewing, no socializing, coming home early, someone who is "obedient" and listens to him.
2) He didn't know anything about Kashaf when he fell in love with her, but put her on a pedestal with qualities of being an "ideal wife" That was more of what he wanted, it seems.
3)He is so unreasonable with the Osama issue later, and at the end of it, he says that was not the issue.
4) He is a man with double standards.
Just copy pasting my reply from another post here:
[quote]He's a complete male chauvinist to me. One with double standards.
Being protective about the women he cares for, asking them to be at home at "decent" hours doesn't fall under chauvinism.
What falls under chauvinism is his belief, that he can have a good time, but wants a wife with no past.
Exactly what Kashaf said to Abrar before Zaroon came in to meet her. That why can't she also want a man with a good clean background? How come a man never gives a woman to become a better person after marriage, but the man gets that chance? (what brilliant, completely true to life, food for thought dialogues! Bravo!!!)
These are chauvinistic double standards, that he has, that makes him a total MCP.
He went out for late nights with guys and girls. Those girls were also someone's daughter and sister. Did he not think about what the "servants" (I really dislike using this word) of their houses would think when they got home?
He has a set of standards for himself, and another for others. That's what makes him a chauvinist. [/quote]
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Kashaf, again was a great character. But a result of bad direction made one feel, at the end of it that where did that strong woman go? One who believed that "a woman doesn't need a man in her life to be successful"
ZGH, at the end of it were Zaroon and Kashaf/Fawad and Sanam for me. It was them who made it absolutely fantastic. I really wish the direction was better. It was not good at all. :(
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