After so long making a post on my thoughts... 😆 ok after last week episodes, reading some sns thoughts on unfairness of the situations and also the discussion on how abhir was left alone to handle everything had to make this post... i'm not all all good with words still trying to express my thoughts..
here lets take a look at the fair n unfairness...
kuhu and abhir:
he fought for her when rishta exchange happened..
he went on knees to convince mah family.. took responsibility of the whole shaadi.. he was the one to suppport kuhu when she begged kunal after haldi fiasco...
when he asked kunal to come back and get married he was worried about kuhu being humiliated and also how as a girl she will be treated if left at alter...
on day of shaadi he reprimanded kunal when she asked sorry to kunal, and also while kuku entered their room he reprimanded kunal for being careless about kuhu... and also when kunal didnt go to pick up kuhu from mah house after phag phere..
In all this he gave more importance to kuhu than kunal..
but have ever kuhu saw anything from abhir's perspective.. even when she got to know mishbir love her reaction was how mishti loved abhir... she never thought about abhir's love.. and also now she showed guilty for hurting mishti but did she think of hurting abhir.... it was like he is a non existent element there..
abhir gave his maximum support to her till now.. now him saying kuku had to take care of their rishta is bcoz he can only be the external support but cant go in between them for their personal issue...
abhir and kunal:
first.. when baba left them abhir maybe was around 10-12 and kunal dont know if he was born or not.. Abhir became a father figure to kunal never let him feel that he needed father.. he gave up on everything kunal didnt like.. knowing about meenu tried to instill some good qualities and happiness in kunal..
he always scolded or argued with kunal not only for mishti but also for kuhu, when kunal disrespected parul maasi, and also when he slapped atul... he never wanted kunal to be a feminist but he wanted kunal to respect everyone, their choices bcoz they are some good qualities a human should have... he indeed tried being a father to kunal in all this...
and about abhir respecting kunal feeling..
when kuhu rishta came he wanted kunal to get some happiness so literally kidnapped him n made him understand that he had to move on...
kunal cant handle rejection.. so abhir did try pacifying him after the argument he tried explaining calmly too but never forced his decision on him.. he gave space to kunal... he didnt force kunal to accept mishti in anyway..
when he came to know about kuhu love he wanted kunal to get the love coming his way... he cared about kunal feeling after haldi fiasco suppressing his pain he consoled kunal... on shaadi day when he ran away he cared for kuhu but also he didnt want kunal to give up on his love for the hatred he has on mishti bcoz of meenu...
even when shwet came back he wanted kunal to stay away but when he wanted to know answers from her he let him go... and also after party he said you are smart and you should decide for yourself what you want not me... even about kuhu he said the same that he should decide whether he love n want kuhu or not...
he was the one to always go behind kunal after their arguments or easily forgave him for his mistake.. he was brother here and failed as a father... him giving into kunal from childhood has spoiled him that now he cant differentiate between a thing and human... but cant hold it against abhir completely.. let me tell why
if kunal was a kid who needed love and support abhir was also a kid... his father ran away, he doesnt get along with mother bcoz of their difference, he had to be a father at that age for his brother, cant talk about his father bcoz of kunal, keep the family together.... In all of this Abhir, his happiness, his need and want everything was neglected by others and himself too sometimes..
Is abhir unfair to kunal? No bcoz if today he gives into kunal tomorrow he will demand to do the same with baba too... kunal has abhir as father but abhir needs baba n his love which he is been longing for... always kunal thought he gave up things for abhir in his life but never thought of what abhir needs in his own life, where abhirs happiness lies,.. its always about him only not abhir...
On cyclone accident he was more concerned about mishti not taking calls... on ganesh pooja day he saved abhir physically but killed his soul by humiliating his love(mishti) infront of so many people and also asking him to choose between them.. mental pain is more worse than physical pain.. thats what he did to abhir..
Abhir and other:
he was needed by ketki during her shaadi talk n after it broke to console her.. Parul maasi needed him when its about kunal life.. Nanu supports him but always keep quiet when brothers argue even meenu scolds kunal for disrespecting his elder brother... Meenu ufff no words for the mother.. Everyone says they love him but never once prioritize or even thought of abhir and his happiness..
he was left alone to deal with his emotions and needs... even for his rishta he went alone to face the girls family... isnt everyone being unfair to abhir...
Abhir and mishti:
lets put abhir in others place and mishti in abhir...
Mishti got angry on him when he went to jail.. bcoz she cared for him
she went out late at night to find abhir bcoz she knew he needs a friend when ketki shaadi broke...
She saved the painting jus bcoz it was important for him risking her life..
She risked her life in champaner so that abhir gets to fulfill his fathers wish as she knew how important its for him..
She let go of her self respect and asked sorry to meenu without her mistake only for abhir.. she didnt want him to go through the pain of always standing up for her against everyone..
She encouraged abhir to talk about baba which no one had done till date... she is someone to whom he can share everything in heart without any filter...
She gave him the support to do the biggest thing in life.. searching his baba.. she wanted to give this kid the father he is longing for...
She is fighting for their relationship not only bcoz she loves him but also bcoz Abhir loves her.. she respects abhirs love over her...
Like till day abhir did everything for kunal, mishti is doing everything for him without even him asking... the "kuch din pehle aaye hui mishti" gave him everything, understands him, prioritizes him, his happiness, needs and wants before her own....
More than mishti needing him... Abhir is the one who needs mishti ....
and he will be affected if this relationship breaks.... but everyone meenu, kuhu, kunal, varsha, jas, even BP,BM everyones concern is mishti... no one thought from abhir's perspective.. why????? relationship are always two sided but why no one is being fair enough to abhir...
This boy is the one who needs all the love, happiness, support everything... I want mish to express the amount of love she has for abhir like abhir did on friday.. she is always good in showing her love.. but a heart to heart convo on abhir by mish is what i want...
dont know if i made sense.. still wanted to rant on this.. finally done... please do say if i've been fair..