Trying to understand hypocrisies..

I think they are trying to deal with realistic scenario. People don’t wish to marry two sisters in the same house. When one of my cousins wished to marry in the same house another cousin sister was married, the same concerns were there in our family.. Even my elder cousin was not really happy with the sister coming in the same house.. But then it’s real life and real lives are devoid of so much drama, so eventually the marriage happened and everything got settled..

Here Kuhu already has harboured deep resentment against Mishti since childhood.. So I am not that surprised that she doesn’t wishes to see Mishti come in the same home. Moreover, she doesn’t want to jeopardise her position in the house which according to her POV can get into problem because of Mishti... Varsha’s concern about her son in law, given the temperamental nature of Kunal is also plausible .. Definitely they are not justified in what they are doing, but these are the things which we call it as duniyadaari and that happens in our duniya... Also their concerns are not that invalid.. Given Mishti’s nature, she is supposed to be someone who is not a people’s pleaser. Of course she does wants a ceasefire between her and Kunal. she wants Meenu to accept her, but for that she won’t change her stances. She might say sorry to Kunal since she feels her rejection has got him hurt, but she won’t be apologetic for calling the relationship off... she is someone who speaks, whether she takes right decisions or wrong is overall a different debate, but she is someone who does have an unconventional opinion. Not everyone is Abir and has the ability to live and respect the difference in opinions.. Not everyone gets an Abir either who would stand by you through thick and thin.. Some even if it’s due to their mistake, end up with people like Kunal who have a big fat ego. Few are like Meenakshi for whom it’s my way or highway and in situations like these people try to survive.. For many girls the’ first instinct in these situations is try to survive (Not generalising though).. Definitely it’s not the right way to go.. But it’s not something that does not happen.. After marriage, if Mishti does things that does not pleases Kunal or Meenu, there is a possibility that they would view Kuhu also with the same lens as Mishti, since she is her sister. We have seen this happen, when Kunal called Kuhu a double standard person, when she went to meet Mishti after the accident. Kuhu and Mishti’s opinion could be packaged and viewed as one, whereas in reality the sisters are very different and in some ways may be similar to each other.. Differences that someone like Abir can appreciate and sustain with it, but is something extremely difficult for Kunal.. For Kunal, Mishti and Kuhu can either be arch rivals ( where Kuhu is always expected to do his biding, no matter whether is does the same or not ) or they can be lovers... In reality, they are neither... Just like people, their relationship stands at a very grey point and if anyone genuinely wishes to resolve the issue between these two, one will have to see their relationship for what it is...

I still think Kuhu’s character has a great potential still, though her growth can only and only happen if someday she decides to buckle up and leave Kunal for her own good. Some day just realise that the relationship is not worth the efforts and move on, use her education to become someone on her own, have her own identity different from being someone’s unwanted lover or a scorned sister... (although I don’t know if it will ever happen ) Bade minimum, she at least needs to call off this marriage and not give this privilege to Kunal. Before that she will not be able appreciate the genuine good people around her.... I won’t say she is not fond of Abir bhai, but I don’t think she will easily see that she is compromising his happiness also in her quest to save her so called marriage. She is selfish in that way, but not hopeless.. Kunal sleeping on the same bed as advised by Kediya has sadly further given an impetus to her false hopes regarding the marriage.... I know tomorrow when Bade papa asks Abir about what will he do when Kuhu’s happiness will be jeopardised, when Kunal will not accept Mishti, he will give an impressive answer.. But I hope Abir fails with Kunal.. because Abir getting successful in putting sense into Kunal, means Kunal getting away with many of the things he has done in the past be it having a hand in blackmailing Mishti or betraying Kuhu in the marriage.. I wish to see him being held accountable... A lot will depend on the writers too, whether they write something substantial for her character, about whom they have not even made efforts to show a back story of her resentment, or she just remains a jealous plot device to create misunderstandings and problems for the leads..

Originally posted by: ZindagiCalling

I think they are trying to deal with realistic scenario. People don’t wish to marry two sisters in the same house. When one of my cousins wished to marry in the same house another cousin sister was married, the same concerns were there in our family.. Even my elder cousin was not really happy with the sister coming in the same house.. But then it’s real life and real lives are devoid of so much drama, so eventually the marriage happened and everything got settled..

Here Kuhu already has harboured deep resentment against Mishti since childhood.. So I am not that surprised that she doesn’t wishes to see Mishti come in the same home. Moreover, she doesn’t want to jeopardise her position in the house which according to her POV can get into problem because of Mishti... Varsha’s concern about her son in law, given the temperamental nature of Kunal is also plausible .. Definitely they are not justified in what they are doing, but these are the things which we call it as duniyadaari and that happens in our duniya... Also their concerns are not that invalid.. Given Mishti’s nature, she is supposed to be someone who is not a people’s pleaser. Of course she does wants a ceasefire between her and Kunal. she wants Meenu to accept her, but for that she won’t change her stances. She might say sorry to Kunal since she feels her rejection has got him hurt, but she won’t be apologetic for calling the relationship off... she is someone who speaks, whether she takes right decisions or wrong is overall a different debate, but she is someone who does have an unconventional opinion. Not everyone is Abir and has the ability to live and respect the difference in opinions.. Not everyone gets an Abir either who would stand by you through thick and thin.. Some even if it’s due to their mistake, end up with people like Kunal who have a big fat ego. Few are like Meenakshi for whom it’s my way or highway and in situations like these people try to survive.. For many girls the’ first instinct in these situations is try to survive (Not generalising though).. Definitely it’s not the right way to go.. But it’s not something that does not happen.. After marriage, if Mishti does things that does not pleases Kunal or Meenu, there is a possibility that they would view Kuhu also with the same lens as Mishti, since she is her sister. We have seen this happen, when Kunal called Kuhu a double standard person, when she went to meet Mishti after the accident. Kuhu and Mishti’s opinion could be packaged and viewed as one, whereas in reality the sisters are very different and in some ways may be similar to each other.. Differences that someone like Abir can appreciate and sustain with it, but is something extremely difficult for Kunal.. For Kunal, Mishti and Kuhu can either be arch rivals ( where Kuhu is always expected to do his biding, no matter whether is does the same or not ) or they can be lovers... In reality, they are neither... Just like people, their relationship stands at a very grey point and if anyone genuinely wishes to resolve the issue between these two, one will have to see their relationship for what it is...

I still think Kuhu’s character has a great potential still, though her growth can only and only happen if someday she decides to buckle up and leave Kunal for her own good. Some day just realise that the relationship is not worth the efforts and move on, use her education to become someone on her own, have her own identity different from being someone’s unwanted lover or a scorned sister... (although I don’t know if it will ever happen ) Bade minimum, she at least needs to call off this marriage and not give this privilege to Kunal. Before that she will not be able appreciate the genuine good people around her.... I won’t say she is not fond of Abir bhai, but I don’t think she will easily see that she is compromising his happiness also in her quest to save her so called marriage. She is selfish in that way, but not hopeless.. Kunal sleeping on the same bed as advised by Kediya has sadly further given an impetus to her false hopes regarding the marriage.... I know tomorrow when Bade papa asks Abir about what will he do when Kuhu’s happiness will be jeopardised, when Kunal will not accept Mishti, he will give an impressive answer.. But I hope Abir fails with Kunal.. because Abir getting successful in putting sense into Kunal, means Kunal getting away with many of the things he has done in the past be it having a hand in blackmailing Mishti or betraying Kuhu in the marriage.. I wish to see him being held accountable... A lot will depend on the writers too, whether they write something substantial for her character, about whom they have not even made efforts to show a back story of her resentment, or she just remains a jealous plot device to create misunderstandings and problems for the leads..

Even I want abir to fail with Kunal... I totally agree or add krne ke liye ni hai mere paas

We don't know how many days Kuhu's marriage will last considering all the activity going on with Kunal and his lawyer. Suppose Kuhu comes back to live with the Maheshwari's anyway then what happens? It is my thought that if Kunal has decided to breakup with Kuhu then Mishti being there or not isn't going to make a difference because he still wants to divorce her.

Originally posted by: meen123

bravo yes the duniya daaru!!

Even I want abir to fail with Kunal... I totally agree or add krne ke liye ni hai mere paas

😆 😆

Originally posted by: rose2015

We don't know how many days Kuhu's marriage will last considering all the activity going on with Kunal and his lawyer. Suppose Kuhu comes back to live with the Maheshwari's anyway then what happens? It is my thought that if Kunal has decided to breakup with Kuhu then Mishti being there or not isn't going to make a difference because he still wants to divorce her.

Yes but Kuhu and Varsha don’t know it. They think they will manage by keeping Mishti away and keeping Kunal cool like Navratna tel.. 😆

Originally posted by: ZindagiCalling

I think they are trying to deal with realistic scenario. People don’t wish to marry two sisters in the same house. When one of my cousins wished to marry in the same house another cousin sister was married, the same concerns were there in our family.. Even my elder cousin was not really happy with the sister coming in the same house.. But then it’s real life and real lives are devoid of so much drama, so eventually the marriage happened and everything got settled..

Here Kuhu already has harboured deep resentment against Mishti since childhood.. So I am not that surprised that she doesn’t wishes to see Mishti come in the same home. Moreover, she doesn’t want to jeopardise her position in the house which according to her POV can get into problem because of Mishti... Varsha’s concern about her son in law, given the temperamental nature of Kunal is also plausible .. Definitely they are not justified in what they are doing, but these are the things which we call it as duniyadaari and that happens in our duniya... Also their concerns are not that invalid.. Given Mishti’s nature, she is supposed to be someone who is not a people’s pleaser. Of course she does wants a ceasefire between her and Kunal. she wants Meenu to accept her, but for that she won’t change her stances. She might say sorry to Kunal since she feels her rejection has got him hurt, but she won’t be apologetic for calling the relationship off... she is someone who speaks, whether she takes right decisions or wrong is overall a different debate, but she is someone who does have an unconventional opinion. Not everyone is Abir and has the ability to live and respect the difference in opinions.. Not everyone gets an Abir either who would stand by you through thick and thin.. Some even if it’s due to their mistake, end up with people like Kunal who have a big fat ego. Few are like Meenakshi for whom it’s my way or highway and in situations like these people try to survive.. For many girls the’ first instinct in these situations is try to survive (Not generalising though).. Definitely it’s not the right way to go.. But it’s not something that does not happen.. After marriage, if Mishti does things that does not pleases Kunal or Meenu, there is a possibility that they would view Kuhu also with the same lens as Mishti, since she is her sister. We have seen this happen, when Kunal called Kuhu a double standard person, when she went to meet Mishti after the accident. Kuhu and Mishti’s opinion could be packaged and viewed as one, whereas in reality the sisters are very different and in some ways may be similar to each other.. Differences that someone like Abir can appreciate and sustain with it, but is something extremely difficult for Kunal.. For Kunal, Mishti and Kuhu can either be arch rivals ( where Kuhu is always expected to do his biding, no matter whether is does the same or not ) or they can be lovers... In reality, they are neither... Just like people, their relationship stands at a very grey point and if anyone genuinely wishes to resolve the issue between these two, one will have to see their relationship for what it is...

I still think Kuhu’s character has a great potential still, though her growth can only and only happen if someday she decides to buckle up and leave Kunal for her own good. Some day just realise that the relationship is not worth the efforts and move on, use her education to become someone on her own, have her own identity different from being someone’s unwanted lover or a scorned sister... (although I don’t know if it will ever happen ) Bade minimum, she at least needs to call off this marriage and not give this privilege to Kunal. Before that she will not be able appreciate the genuine good people around her.... I won’t say she is not fond of Abir bhai, but I don’t think she will easily see that she is compromising his happiness also in her quest to save her so called marriage. She is selfish in that way, but not hopeless.. Kunal sleeping on the same bed as advised by Kediya has sadly further given an impetus to her false hopes regarding the marriage.... I know tomorrow when Bade papa asks Abir about what will he do when Kuhu’s happiness will be jeopardised, when Kunal will not accept Mishti, he will give an impressive answer.. But I hope Abir fails with Kunal.. because Abir getting successful in putting sense into Kunal, means Kunal getting away with many of the things he has done in the past be it having a hand in blackmailing Mishti or betraying Kuhu in the marriage.. I wish to see him being held accountable... A lot will depend on the writers too, whether they write something substantial for her character, about whom they have not even made efforts to show a back story of her resentment, or she just remains a jealous plot device to create misunderstandings and problems for the leads..

Kunal is a selfish ass just like meenu .. meenu was the one who made sure that mishti Kunal relationship gets broken .. and thank god it did .. but the way he was wilfully leading kuhu on .. to leave her at Mandan is justifiable to mishti breKing the engagement..

Meenu calls mishti a child from broken marriage what about her own 2 kids .. mishti atleast has seen her biological dad and has a superb adoptive father .. does Kunal and abir even know the name of their dad

All these questions should be asked to Rajvansh

I am waiting For Mehul bhai to arrive and reveal that Kunal is not his Son .. ( I hope that is the case or at least claim that he and minu were not intimate in the last 1 year of marriage so Kunal cannot be theirs ..

Let minu and Kunal stew in this then they can call mishti names .

I think even maheshwari will be shocked with this Parul Kunal truth .. they should ask Rajvansh .. how dare they behave so high hAndedly with them in both the cases ..

During mishti engagement hue and cry about naman and with kuhu illegitimacy was similar to Kunal relationship they should have revealed their problem too but they wanted to humiliate the maheshwari

I think BP and BM are justified for saying no to Mishbir because they realise abirs mom and Brother hate mishti and they were superbly cruel to her .. that is why better to stay away from such a family

If "nailed it" had a face ...it has to be yours, zindagi caller 😎😃

I always look forward to your posts..I am aware about the duniya daaru as meen says 😆..and I completely agree with you !👍🏼

Originally posted by: ZindagiCalling

I think they are trying to deal with realistic scenario. People don’t wish to marry two sisters in the same house. When one of my cousins wished to marry in the same house another cousin sister was married, the same concerns were there in our family.. Even my elder cousin was not really happy with the sister coming in the same house.. But then it’s real life and real lives are devoid of so much drama, so eventually the marriage happened and everything got settled..

Here Kuhu already has harboured deep resentment against Mishti since childhood.. So I am not that surprised that she doesn’t wishes to see Mishti come in the same home. Moreover, she doesn’t want to jeopardise her position in the house which according to her POV can get into problem because of Mishti... Varsha’s concern about her son in law, given the temperamental nature of Kunal is also plausible .. Definitely they are not justified in what they are doing, but these are the things which we call it as duniyadaari and that happens in our duniya... Also their concerns are not that invalid.. Given Mishti’s nature, she is supposed to be someone who is not a people’s pleaser. Of course she does wants a ceasefire between her and Kunal. she wants Meenu to accept her, but for that she won’t change her stances. She might say sorry to Kunal since she feels her rejection has got him hurt, but she won’t be apologetic for calling the relationship off... she is someone who speaks, whether she takes right decisions or wrong is overall a different debate, but she is someone who does have an unconventional opinion. Not everyone is Abir and has the ability to live and respect the difference in opinions.. Not everyone gets an Abir either who would stand by you through thick and thin.. Some even if it’s due to their mistake, end up with people like Kunal who have a big fat ego. Few are like Meenakshi for whom it’s my way or highway and in situations like these people try to survive.. For many girls the’ first instinct in these situations is try to survive (Not generalising though).. Definitely it’s not the right way to go.. But it’s not something that does not happen.. After marriage, if Mishti does things that does not pleases Kunal or Meenu, there is a possibility that they would view Kuhu also with the same lens as Mishti, since she is her sister. We have seen this happen, when Kunal called Kuhu a double standard person, when she went to meet Mishti after the accident. Kuhu and Mishti’s opinion could be packaged and viewed as one, whereas in reality the sisters are very different and in some ways may be similar to each other.. Differences that someone like Abir can appreciate and sustain with it, but is something extremely difficult for Kunal.. For Kunal, Mishti and Kuhu can either be arch rivals ( where Kuhu is always expected to do his biding, no matter whether is does the same or not ) or they can be lovers... In reality, they are neither... Just like people, their relationship stands at a very grey point and if anyone genuinely wishes to resolve the issue between these two, one will have to see their relationship for what it is...

I still think Kuhu’s character has a great potential still, though her growth can only and only happen if someday she decides to buckle up and leave Kunal for her own good. Some day just realise that the relationship is not worth the efforts and move on, use her education to become someone on her own, have her own identity different from being someone’s unwanted lover or a scorned sister... (although I don’t know if it will ever happen ) Bade minimum, she at least needs to call off this marriage and not give this privilege to Kunal. Before that she will not be able appreciate the genuine good people around her.... I won’t say she is not fond of Abir bhai, but I don’t think she will easily see that she is compromising his happiness also in her quest to save her so called marriage. She is selfish in that way, but not hopeless.. Kunal sleeping on the same bed as advised by Kediya has sadly further given an impetus to her false hopes regarding the marriage.... I know tomorrow when Bade papa asks Abir about what will he do when Kuhu’s happiness will be jeopardised, when Kunal will not accept Mishti, he will give an impressive answer.. But I hope Abir fails with Kunal.. because Abir getting successful in putting sense into Kunal, means Kunal getting away with many of the things he has done in the past be it having a hand in blackmailing Mishti or betraying Kuhu in the marriage.. I wish to see him being held accountable... A lot will depend on the writers too, whether they write something substantial for her character, about whom they have not even made efforts to show a back story of her resentment, or she just remains a jealous plot device to create misunderstandings and problems for the leads..

Really waiting for, too:

"I am waiting For Mehul bhai to arrive and reveal that Kunal is not his Son .. ( I hope that is the case or at least claim that he and minu were not intimate in the last 1 year of marriage so Kunal cannot be theirs .. "

I hope.... that is the truth - I don't want Kunal to be Mehul's biological son with Parul - that will make him lose misbir respect a bit (may be more).

I do not want abir to suspect/dis-respect/question his dad like that.

Wonderful post. The problem is that I get the dunya dari argument it's just that they haven't presented it in a convincing way. The writers have failed when it comes to Kuhu's character. If you think about it logically having Mishbir in the same house can actually help Kuhu. Because they both will ensure that Kuhu is never mistreated since they both take a stand for what's right. What would have worked for Kuhu's character is like you said is that she should realize her own worth. She needs to acknowledge her short comings realize that Kunal is not worthy of her love and try to grow as a person. I know it's easier said than done but teaching young girls to resort to any means to save a sham marriage is so wrong. This is my main issue with Kuhu and Kuku. Also her disregard for Abir's feelings in her desperation to save her own marriage she is destroying two people's happiness. Think about is hypothetically if Abir doesn't marry Mish he will be prone to leave the house again and Kuhu would have no one to balance out Kunal's toxicity. Dunya dari nibanaha buri baat nahi hain par uss chakar main masoom logo ki khusiyan tabah karna buri baat hain.