Only likable character is sabotaged

Healing Phase

Abhira was downgraded as a responsibility and burden on Armaan, her mother's upbringing was insulted by Dadisa and Vidya so she left PH. She lived in a hostel and had a job. She was coping up and didn't bend infront of Armaan though he tried to contact her several times. Wasn't she in love at that time? Yes, she was. Did she act like a brokenhearted girl in love every single day having emotional breakdowns after every scene or bechari who would daily repeat a monologue Abhira ab nahi rona? No. Se took time to adjust to the change & was doing fine.

But she had to return to PH as her character not being in same frame with two dislikable characters out of the khichdi trio, means most of the ppl won't watch show, so she returned to mend Madhav-Vidya's relationship same Vidya who insulted her mother, one of the reasons of her leaving PH. She returned with band baja, pissed off dadisa and vidya even more. I think when Armaan saved her from getting hurt from that door, his care for her during that head injury, his close proximity, hug, holding her hand, and addressing her his wife deeply affected her. She started realizing what she lost, once divorced she would miss his care, warmth, attention, their banters everything. She realized, but then she also knew his family would never accept her after one year deal marriage truth (specifically Vidya and Dadisa two ladies worshipped by Arman). Ar & Ab both deceived Poddars but family considers her a gold-digger and thinks she is the one who was deceiving all along forgetting their son also deceived them (As Manisha chachi showed mirror to Vidya and Dadisa). She cut a deal for a not worthy to be saved relationship at the cost of staying 3 months with Armaan thinking nothing would change in 3 months. He would never choose her over his family. Fair enough.

Rebound Phase

She became a wedding planner having no other job. For the past 2 weeks, almost every single day she is dreaming, realizing it can't be a reality, having heartbreak, repeating monologues, and reprimanding herself. How many times we have to see Abhira facing humiliation because she is majboor? Her nani and her mother also faced heartbreak, accusations and distrust from the person they loved but they healed with time and moved on from the pain of heartbreak. They didn't cry rivers every two minutes seeing their love with any xyz.

The sunshine girl lost her radiance. Yes, she can't be normal seeing her ex-husband whom she loves getting remarried but who told her to witness all the rituals? Do wedding planners attend all rituals like writing a spouse's name with mehndi? There is something called self-preservation. She can excuse herself from there, Poddars won't force her to attend rituals.

They sabotaged Abhira's character completely for wedding of the century to shove Armaan-Ruhi's not-so-ruhaani wedding rituals down our throats emphasizing Ar-Ab are meant to be according to divine signs. Why don't they trust Ar-Ru alone to get them TRP why Ab has to be in every single frame dreaming, sulking, crying or cursing her fate? Abhira's character is also having memory loss and drastic change like Armaan's character. She can't get over Armaan because of his care, protectiveness and achai forgetting how Armaan pressurized her, shouted at her to sign divorce papers immediately and leave him infront of his entire khandaan, he also told her to never ever think of helping him even if he is dying. I no longer care if Armaan gets married to Ruhi or Abhira. Just get my favourite character and my reason for being an avid viewer of S4 back on track. That will only be possible by sending Abhira away from Poddars for the time being the way Naira or Akshu were sent from Udaipur to Mumbai/Goa/Kasauli where they embraced their new life with/without a support system.

I think she was coping when she was away but being in front of Armaan as wedding planner is hitting her hard making her too overwhelmed, messing her up.

I want her to get over Armaan, declare that he is not worth her love/trust and move on.

i think the important aspect is that she recognizes that she is losing her sense of rationality and logic and keeps telling herself to snap out of pyaar for him rather than giving into the emotions. she is determined to not get swayed by emotions. she is saying that she doesnt want his acchai at the cost of him simply ditching her each time. and she has been 100% honest about everything she is feeling. her confession is not out of hope for him to get back with her but just to vent her feelings. she wants to walk away and not find a way to somehow reconcile. but something or the other keeps her in his life and in front of him - I really want her to get a break from Armaan and Poddars to just be alone

Kaveri and Poddars are not letting Abhira go though. she is being forced to watch and suffer. When she was walking away today also seeing Armaan Ruhi hug, Kaveri stopped her and made her bring mehendi. isnt that something a family member can do. but she purposely did it out of spite.

Everytime she walks away these people force her to return and deliberately making her witness things which will be upsetting because they are getting sadistic pleasure out of seeing her look sad.

Since majority of the audience were not rooting for Abhira and Armaan together after divorce track so maybe writers think by making Abhira crazily and madly in love [for unknown reason] with Armaan will make audience root for them but in this process they are degrading only likeable character

Originally posted by: Rupina

Since majority of the audience were not rooting for Abhira and Armaan together after divorce track so maybe writers think by making Abhira crazily and madly in love [for unknown reason] with Armaan will make audience root for them but in this process they are degrading only likeable character

but they should know that people are rooting for Abhimaan but not for Abhira to be made to look weak. They want Armaan to man up and stop being a pushover who cant introspect.

Personally I still think Abhira has not been "degraded" but yes, she is not doing what I would have liked to see her do and what I predicted seeing her character build up.

I am still hoping that she will walk away and say she does not want to be with a man for whom she is a bojh, she doesnt want to be a compromise, she doesnt want to be with a man who cannot prioritize her. he will only like her as long as things are hunky dory. First sign of trouble he will make her punching bag and dump her to be alone. even in her confession thats what she said- that he shows acchai , makes her bewakuf and dumps her but she is unable to tell her dil to stop falling for it.

Actually I have stopped watching since Abhira started crying for Armaan nonstop , can never understand her crying And Personally I find her character degrading coz Abhira was shown to be a fighter even in her weakest moments like when her mother died, blamed for Rohit's disappearence , Yuvraj return. She would not becharify herself but nowadays all she does is crying for a person who has left her and marrying someone else .

@pinecode

She has suffered too much and stood strong but then after so many blows, she has been left hollow that a seemingly more trivial blow now compared to something like losing a parent is affecting her a lot. its not because this loss/pain is more than that one. its because she has sustained so many blows that she is losing her strength. she is losing her spirit. we can see that she has gone from being a sunshine person to a really dukhiyari aatma who is struggling to smile. she needs a break to find herself and get back to her usual self. but she keeps getting confronted with Armaan and Poddars.

she herself is not liking her bechaari lachaar state. She says it too- that she is disgusted with herself for crying over him but she is unable to control her pain and angst. she got way more heavily invested and attached to Armaan than she even realized. and watching his PDA, watching him easily move on is crushing her. it is denting everything including her confidence, her self worth.

The fact that he didnt even wait a few hours after divorce to announce shaadi to ruhi is so insensitive and thats bound to hit hard.

she had really built up castles in the air before it came tumbling. and now she is overwhelmed. she is all alone, her career hasnt even started, she is also dealing with heartbreak , basic needs ke liye bhi struggle hai- its not surprising she cant handle it. the fact that everything is happening all at once is also a factor

Originally posted by: Pinecone

Kaveri and Poddars are not letting Abhira go though. she is being forced to watch and suffer. When she was walking away today also seeing Armaan Ruhi hug, Kaveri stopped her and made her bring mehendi. isnt that something a family member can do. but she purposely did it out of spite.

Everytime she walks away these people force her to return and deliberately making her witness things which will be upsetting because they are getting sadistic pleasure out of seeing her look sad.

The Poddars are insensitive. Sanjay asked Kaveri to degrade Abheera bcoz he hated her. After knowing whatever Sanjay did with her, at least they should let her do her work and not unnecessarily pull her in Armaan and Ruhi spectacles. It is waste of time to expect decency from them.