Originally posted by: shahi10
I have a little bit of a different take on this. Ruhi’s trauma doesn’t justify her behaviors but her trauma definitely gives us more understanding to her attachment styles and her view on the world which makes it easier for us to understand where she’s coming from.
The entire thing with Akshara, first of all, it seems as if nobody’s sat down with her to tell her that Akshara WAS NOT the reason behind her matashree and dad’s death. Even Manish at the time was like forgive Akshara now… not like Akshara is not guilty. It’s Akshara’s fault to for never clearing that up too tho. At least she could’ve told the truth to the adults. So it’s not really Ruhi’s fault for hating Akshara. If I was in her situation, I’d hate her too just like Ruhi is. Who would want to even slightly forgive the person who made them an orphan this young? And then when she sees the three adults she trusts go behind her back supporting Akshara, she’s obviously gonna be hurt like how can you love those who took away those two people who I need the most. And with that, Poppy and Abhir went away with Akshara too - the two people Ruhi probably loved the most. Baby Roo just saw the people she loved the most leave her one by one because of only one person, Akshara. And to top that off, Swarna was probably the ghee in the aag by constantly blaming everything on Akshara so that mindset is so rigid in Ruhi. They never explained anything to her.
And that’s why she’s so incredibly possessive. We always saw that Ruhi was a little bit of a possessive child because she was spoiled and we saw that dynamic with her and Abhir. Abhimanyu was great in balancing that out and managing both of them. Then he forgot all about her and went off with Akshara and Abhir. That probably really hit her hard. She was grieving the death of her matashree and didn’t have her poppy to support her. Her obsession with Armaan is nothing but the root of her possession. Her behaviors now are wrong, and she needs to wake up and have a reality check and genuinely go with someone who cares about her so much and puts her at a priority. She really deserves that. For Armaan, she found someone that cares and claims that he “loves” her and she’s pining behind that. She’s idolized Armaan into something he most definitely not. Her attachment feeds into her delusions and she’s not able to break apart from it. She’s not ill-intentioned, she just wants Armaan to herself which is wrong now and she needs to take the “kadwi dawai” and accept that Armaan is not hers. She’s gone negative because for her it’s desperation. She’s desperate to get to Armaan and will go to all heights to get him.
I feel bad for Ruhi, like genuinely pity her. She needs to get better and do well at life. Someone needs to sit down and give her a huge life check.