Abhimanyu the victim......... - Page 4

i can relate to abhim more than akshara. So i am not tolerating him rather i am only enjoying his scenes.

First of all, everyone is being bashed. You feel Nav is bashed more, I feel Abhi is bashed more, and Ak is always bashed regardless of what she does. As a woman and stuff is not that important here, Abhi is not thinking from Ak's perspective but from his own. Is he being delusional there, obviously. But I don't understand what you mean by justify.

I can understand why he did what he did; is that a justification, no idea. With Ak it's hard to understand why she did what she did in a lot of cases. Does this mean I condone the action or think it's "right", nope. ITV is not my moral compass, it's entertainment. This is not real life, and these are not real people.

I can sympathize with Abhi cause his character makes more sense. He was a gray character, and his doing questionable things stays true to that. Ak was introduced as someone very different, but her actions have shown her to just be stupid and stubborn in her stupidity. I would have loved for Ak to be a gray female lead too, but they never address her issues or wrongdoings in the show. So it creates this dynamic where she is just hard to understand.

Originally posted by: Sana_a

So What I’m saying only pertains to me and how I see myself as a woman. Ppl are allowed to disagree or have different perspectives. It’s okay. It’s your life at the end of the day. But I learned this through my own experiences.

There’s NO WAY a man could treat me like that and expect a reconciliation ever! He cannot act like a toddler, violently throw things around me, degrade and disrespect me, serve divorce papers on my face, and allow his family to physically put their hands on me like that. And yes throwing things in anger, punching walls, or breaking objects is a form of abuse! It is probably not directed towards you at that moment but you could be next.

I understand that grief is different for everyone. Some ppl shut themselves and others out and some act in anger. But Even in anger and grief you CANNOT be disrespectful. All that love, prior concerns, romantic moments we spent, will start going out the window the minute you abuse me or allow someone else to physically hurt me.

I would definitely try to understand your pain, apologize if need to, and be there for you but I will not be your punching bag! If you expect me to understand your trauma, your grief, then I expect the same from you, When I’m going through a trauma of my own.

Your trauma is not bigger than mine. You cannot measure the severity of two ppls trauma! And yes that applies to both AbhiM and AK.

He could redeem himself and apologize all he wants. I would probably forgive for the sake of my own peace but there are somethings you cannot ever forget.
No matter how much I may want to go back to him, no matter how much I may have loved him, doesn’t matter if we have children, and I’m struggling to make ends meet.
We could be on cordial terms for our children, but forget that we will ever get back together. Because ppl change, but they don’t really change! Your core nature and traits will ALWAYS stay with you. You might fight to suppress it, but it will resurface from time to time. Us getting back together is not going to fix our trauma or the issues we faced in our relationship.

And I’m not talking about what AK did or what led to what. I know she had her own faults, her own shortcomings, But I’m only taking this particular scenario into consideration to decide whether I’ll stay in that relationship or not.

Like I said this is just me. You might have different perspectives and that’s fine too. I’m no one to tell anyone on how they should live their life. Or what’s wrong and what’s right. If you are someone who can forgive and let bygones be bygones for whatever reason, then I’m with you too. 🫶🏼

But I will say that just because they’re not intentionally or directly harming you, doesn’t mean that there’s no abuse in the relationship. Look out for those red flags! Don’t brush them under the carpet just for the sake of love/soulmates.

Can't put it in a better way . 💯

Originally posted by: Sana_a

So What I’m saying only pertains to me and how I see myself as a woman. Ppl are allowed to disagree or have different perspectives. It’s okay. It’s your life at the end of the day. But I learned this through my own experiences.

There’s NO WAY a man could treat me like that and expect a reconciliation ever! He cannot act like a toddler, violently throw things around me, degrade and disrespect me, serve divorce papers on my face, and allow his family to physically put their hands on me like that. And yes throwing things in anger, punching walls, or breaking objects is a form of abuse! It is probably not directed towards you at that moment but you could be next.

I understand that grief is different for everyone. Some ppl shut themselves and others out and some act in anger. But Even in anger and grief you CANNOT be disrespectful. All that love, prior concerns, romantic moments we spent, will start going out the window the minute you abuse me or allow someone else to physically hurt me.

I would definitely try to understand your pain, apologize if need to, and be there for you but I will not be your punching bag! If you expect me to understand your trauma, your grief, then I expect the same from you, When I’m going through a trauma of my own.

Your trauma is not bigger than mine. You cannot measure the severity of two ppls trauma! And yes that applies to both AbhiM and AK.

He could redeem himself and apologize all he wants. I would probably forgive for the sake of my own peace but there are somethings you cannot ever forget.
No matter how much I may want to go back to him, no matter how much I may have loved him, doesn’t matter if we have children, and I’m struggling to make ends meet.
We could be on cordial terms for our children, but forget that we will ever get back together. Because ppl change, but they don’t really change! Your core nature and traits will ALWAYS stay with you. You might fight to suppress it, but it will resurface from time to time. Us getting back together is not going to fix our trauma or the issues we faced in our relationship.

And I’m not talking about what AK did or what led to what. I know she had her own faults, her own shortcomings, But I’m only taking this particular scenario into consideration to decide whether I’ll stay in that relationship or not.

Like I said this is just me. You might have different perspectives and that’s fine too. I’m no one to tell anyone on how they should live their life. Or what’s wrong and what’s right. If you are someone who can forgive and let bygones be bygones for whatever reason, then I’m with you too. 🫶🏼

But I will say that just because they’re not intentionally or directly harming you, doesn’t mean that there’s no abuse in the relationship. Look out for those red flags! Don’t brush them under the carpet just for the sake of love/soulmates.

💯 Percent my thoughts as well. Very well written!