Such an amazing, eye soothing episode...From Mimi.. To Abhir.. To Ruhi.. Everyone rocked the floor..
1. Winner to looser: AR chose to loose to MK. The person who was ready to do anything to be at the top has realized over the years that being at the top doesn't mean happiness and that is a beautiful growth of her character.
2. AK is in love: I had asked this question to myslef during withdrawal 1 track, why AK is blocking AbhiN from withdrawing? The answer I had got was she loves him.
Even now, AK is watching for signs that are warning signs. She has taken AR conversation very seriously and has become highly vigilant of AbhiN's expressions. She is sensing that something is a miss. Till today she thought it it related to marriage, but today she realized that it is far more serious than that. AK already knows that AbhiN never opens up. In withdrawal 1 track, she had said that 'Kuch bolate bhi to nahi hai'. She is trying hard and today AbhiN was almost about to tell her, but Abhir took him away. AbhiN with recent love gestures by AK, is developing the 'haq' feeling over her and now, he does not want to let her go. In withdrawal 1, he easily had said her name, like ' Aap, Bhaiji..' and only had difficulty saying Abhir's name. But, today and yesterday, we could see his angst, he said ' He, AK and Abhir are family'.
3. Beyond the binaries, an unusual male protagonist: AbhiN is unusual male protagonist. He has a feminine qualities like caring, love. His strong feminine attributes are shown in a scene where he does everything in the hospital for Abhir when he was born that a female caretaker would do. In most other itv serials, the male protagonist hv adopted/ cared for a child to get a purpose in life, to fill the void in their life ( e. g., Virat in Ghum, AbhiM in YRKK). AbhiN on the contrary, had no such thought. He already had a purpose in his life, to help others. He never saw Abhir as a way to fill the void in his life. He accepted to be Abhir's father as he felt a connection with him and deep down he never wanted Abhir to go through what he had gone thru as a child.
AbhiN for all right reasons has low self- esteem. He was rejected by his parents, was rejected by the world (nobody helped him in need), does not hv any strong material attributes like education, money, great looks (as per him).
However, his love for Abhir and AK is pure, it is not out of his need or lack of self- esteem. That is why he has enough strength to let them go if that makes them happy.
The problem with AbhiN (due to his low self- esteem) is that he can give love, but finds it difficult to accept it or hold onto it due to his feeling of unworthiness. AK has to go an extra mile to prove it him that she finds him worthy enough to love as he is.
Pre- Puja track AbhiN was strong, but after AK said that she truly want to be a family, his insecurities like loosing them, feeling unworthy of having them are playing strong on him.
AbhiN depicted beautifully the battle within himself. It is not that he doubts AK, but feels unworthy to be her partner. What if someone else who is hunk, materially well placed can give more happiness to AK and Abhir? Is he not coming between them, when the destiny, AbhiMMata's talk, AK- AbhiM cordial relations (Aap dono ki choice ek jaise hai) all are indicating in that direction?
Unfortunately, no one else can boost your self- esteem. How much ever AK telks him, that she loves him, if AbhiN does not work on his low self- esteem, a slightest gesture by AK that she is not happy about him or little more happy with someone else for a moment will make AbhiN withdraw.
AbhiN loves AK and AbhiN to the sky, and his love does not have any coonection with his low- self esteem, but his relationship with them definitely gets affecteced by it.
The future growth of AbhiN's character would be to develop the worthiness about himself to be able protect his relationship with two people he loves the most.
At the end, I am really pleased to hv a character like AbhiN, who sometimes may look like a crybaby to some ( not me), but why not? Why can't we go beyond binaries? Why a man has to be a specific way and woman the other? Why a man can't go weak or can't cry? Why he can not feel scared? Why he should not need support? Why man can't take back seat and woman protect him? Why a woman has to be always the damsell in distress, why not other way round?
Having said that, AK and AbhiN take turns to become support of each other. There are times when AK goes weak, AbhiN supports her and when AbhiN goes weak, AK boosts him. Hence, it is definitely not a one way support system relationship. It is relationship of love, mutual respect, care.. But a little higher self- esteem, a little higher ' haq' attitude is No soulwale relationship ko char chaand laga dega.. ❤️❤️❤️
