MyThoughts- Epi 957

Who wrote today's epi..? Amazing job.. Not bcoz AK confessed..but for each and every part...

AbhiM, Got my answer: AbhiM is not over it. I had asked this question in yesterday's post. He has not moved on. He is still where he was 6 years back. After the incidence about AK- AbhiM marriage was discussed, it was only AbhiM who got the flashback. AK only felt uncomfortable, but did not get any flashback, just like everyone else.

Even yesterday, he forgot about AR, Ruhi while dancing. They did not exist for him. He danced only with Abhir. His new toy, new obsession, in addition to AK.

Even today, when AbhiN was concerned for AK, he asked AbhiM, do you knw where AR is. For AbhiN, AR is same to AbhiM, what AK is to him. But, AbhiM did not even hear AR (felt so bad for AR), but was so concerned for AK, telling AbhiN to try and reach out to her.

If AbhiM gets to know that AK's confession is for AbhiN, let's see how he reacts? ( I want him to think that it is for him or possibility is that AbhiM did not hear it due to headphones). He was kind of happy that AK has not moved on. He was fine with the equation that AK wants to coparent with AbhiN (rather respected her), just like he will be coparenting Ruhi with AR without any emotional involvement with their respective partners. Kind of emotional EMA. With recent whitewashed AbhiM, I am not very sure, but I expect him to go vengeance way with AK for moving on later. As I have not seen any changes in core traits of his character yet.

AbhiN: AbhiN felt uncomfortable hearing AK- AbhiM marriage incidence just like everyone else.The topic came in a flow of discussion and everyone understood the sensitivity of it. I liked how BP comforted AbhiN nonverbally. I think he has started feeling out of place after yesterday's kitchen scene between AbhiM, Abhir, AbhiMMata and AK. He felt an outsider. He has seen the AbhiMMata- AK dynamics in the past. Yesterday, suddenly it felt like nothing happened in between. The scene was picture perfect to the one watching it. What if AbhiN was not there? What if he did not exist? According to AbhiN (who gives lot of importance to blood relationships), his not being there would complete this REAL family.

In addition, AbhiM's hospital statements are still with him (AbhiM had said that even if AK denies, in hearts of her hearts she still feels she belongs to him). AK blurting out truth has given him an indication that she has not moved on completely yet. Hence, he said I will never impose this relation on you.

Still, for me, nothing major has happened for AbhiN to leave. Also, for me the days are ahead when I may hate AbhiN, if he leaves without a strong reason. AbhiM kicked out AK without asking her consent and AbhiN will leave AK without asking her consent. In both scenarios AK will get punished for no fault of hers. Either AK should make her journey alone after that just for her child or the man who wants to be in her life should undergo a strong redemption journey.

Bromance: It was so good. I liked it equally as AK's confession scene. AR, AK looked so cute. This is how it should be. No character is the lead. It is the multilayered, multicharacter story that should be the lead.

AK: Just like AbhiN, I have felt half- heartedness in all of the AK's statements regarding her and AbhiN relationship in the past. e. g., we are complete. The statement is perfect but was not with whole heart. AbhiN till date has not seen the emotion that he wants to see in her eyes. Hence, has chosen to be a lover from a distance. AK is superrelunctant to open her heart completely. It is today, when she was intoxicated, what was hidden in her subconscious came out loud. But alas, AbhiN did not witness it. I felt all the more bad for her. After overcoming so much pain of the past relationship, she is just opening up her heart to experience love again and the man is going to leave her.

Nikah movie: In Nikah movie, the FL blasts the man who thinks of withdrawing from marriage to reconcile her with her previous husband without asking her consent. However, in that movie, for me the FL was atleast partially to be blamed as her diary writing can easily make one feel that she is highly nostalgic about her past and previous husband, giving good reason for her loving 2nd husband to think that she wants to be with him.

Boundaries: People may say that one can be friends with their ex even after marriage. But that is a risky terrain. AK unfortuantely has made or may say AbhiM became her confidente in multiple recent situations. But, I still feel that AK is crossing safe boundary of the relationship. One can not run away from weaknesses of their partners. No couple handles every stressful situation perfectly. In situation, when AbhiN had got insecured abt Abhir, AK did not go to anyone. It took some time, but she told facts as it is to AbhiN on face and he got it. That was the perfect way of handling it. Even AbhiN in the past has told AK what and how he is feeling as it is ( Mei Apase Kuch Chhupaunga nahi). Again that was a good way of handling the situation. This straight talk has got lost after AbhiM coming to Kasauli. Except MK marriage situation, AK should hv been upfront with AbhiN. What so ever the consequences are. If AK makes AbhiM her confidente in handling MK situation as well, that somewhere indicates that she feels AbhiN is unfit to manage life situations. In reality, except few situations (Abhir) he has managed the stresses to best of his abilities. AbhiN is not a baby to be taken care of all the time. He is her companion who should learn to shoulder stresses of their life with her. He may not succeed every time but will learn. In the process of overtly caring for him, AK may make AbhiN question his self- worth in her life.

My statements may look mixed up, but I am writing this bcoz we are seeing everyone's POV, but each character is not. If I am in AK's shoes, I am doing nothing wrong, just protecting my ultrasensitive husband from getting hurt but if I am a friend of AK, I would hv told her to respect the boundaries for safeguarding her current relationship.

Abhi will never stop loving Ak, but he knows what he did wrong and how he lost her. I doubt he will misunderstand her or anything really. Personally I just want him to be removed from this situation. I don't want him to go through the third wheeling anymore, it's just not him either. I think Manjari might do some kaands which may lead to a proper confessing from Ak to Nav. I doubt Nav will leave on his own, otherwise it would look really bad. I think it's more likely he will die off and then Abhi has to take care of Ak. I hope Abhi dies off. He has resolved his relationships to the best of his ability and I honestly feel like there is no need for him anymore. Arohi can move on and be with someone else. Navra can be happy together and raise next gen.

If the writers still want Abhira there is no coming back from this, so it won't be the same in any situation.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

Abhi will never stop loving Ak, but he knows what he did wrong and how he lost her. I doubt he will misunderstand her or anything really. Personally I just want him to be removed from this situation. I don't want him to go through the third wheeling anymore, it's just not him either. I think Manjari might do some kaands which may lead to a proper confessing from Ak to Nav. I doubt Nav will leave on his own, otherwise it would look really bad. I think it's more likely he will die off and then Abhi has to take care of Ak. I hope Abhi dies off. He has resolved his relationships to the best of his ability and I honestly feel like there is no need for him anymore. Arohi can move on and be with someone else. Navra can be happy together and raise next gen.

If the writers still want Abhira there is no coming back from this, so it won't be the same in any situation.

I never ever wished that to happen. AbhiM had a very painful childhood, with a mother he had to almost parent and protect. I wanted him to heal. But, I do not see any signs of change in him as of now.

I have a POV (also many others feel it that way on this forum), that the change in AbhiM is not real. He has not resolved anything. After the milk scene between AK and AbhiN, he is (subconsciously) copying AbhiN.Only AR has understood his game ( non-intentional). He is doing everything in sharma house that AbhiN would do. He is giving space to AK, respecting her decisions as AbhiN would do. He still wants AK along with Abhir. Hence, becoming that what AK and Abhir like ( i. e., Sharmaji). Unfortunately, both AK and Abhir have not picked that up. AK has already started putting her guards down. AbhiN may feel weak as a person, but he is the wall between AK and AbhiM. If that falls, I anticipate to see old AbhiM back that will shock AK.

AbhiM will try his best to convince AK to reconcile with him, if not will go vengeance way to get Abhir via cutody battle.

I randomly rewatched few old epids and realized that actually BIRLA house ( specifically AbhiM) is portrayed as eclipse of what Goenkas (Paivaar is everything) represents. Going forwards, it is Abhir who wll free the Rishta world from this eclipse. Hence, Abhir is named as legacy child of both Sharma and Goenka now.

Originally posted by: MyThoughts

I never ever wished that to happen. AbhiM had a very painful childhood, with a mother he had to almost parent and protect. I wanted him to heal. But, I do not see any signs of change in him as of now.

I have a POV (also many others feel it that way on this forum), that the change in AbhiM is not real. He has not resolved anything. After the milk scene between AK and AbhiN, he is (subconsciously) copying AbhiN.Only AR has understood his game ( non-intentional). He is doing everything in sharma house that AbhiN would do. He is giving space to AK, respecting her decisions as AbhiN would do. He still wants AK along with Abhir. Hence, becoming that what AK and Abhir like ( i. e., Sharmaji). Unfortunately, both AK and Abhir have not picked that up. AK has already started putting her guards down. AbhiN may feel weak as a person, but he is the wall between AK and AbhiM. If that falls, I anticipate to see old AbhiM back that will shock AK.

AbhiM will try his best to convince AK to reconcile with him, if not will go vengeance way to get Abhir via cutody battle.

I randomly rewatched few old epids and realized that actually BIRLA house ( specifically AbhiM) is portrayed as eclipse of what Goenkas (Paivaar is everything) represents. Going forwards, it is Abhir who wll free the Rishta world from this eclipse. Hence, Abhir is named as legacy child of both Sharma and Goenka now.

Even if Abhi is trying to be better it's seen in a bad light. But let's forget that and just talk about OG Abhi. Abhi didn't know Ak hasn't moved on all this time. He even confessed again and she rejected. If he were to go for vengeance he would have gone then. If he was really that sort of person, he would have shown jealousy towards Nav. But instead they are friends. There is nothing to suggest he is only "changed" to convince Ak he is good even subconsciously. And I really don't think Abhi as a character is capable of that much complexity. He has a pretty simple mindset and usually shows us exactly what he is thinking and feeling. Arohi said whatever she said from her own perspective and insecurities. None of this means Abhi has moved on from Ak. He tried for 6 years and failed. I don't think he is even thinking about all of that anymore. He just wants to resolve all his relationships and most important his relationship with Abhir. So he is being patient and understanding cause he knows the ball is in Ak's court. If he does anything he will be blamed. If he tries anything Abhir might also hate him. Apart from his mom, there is not one person to defend him or even consider his perspective. He hasn't really tried to come between Akshnav or sabotage their relationship in any way. And the fact that Ak doesn't love Nav wasn't something he even thought of until much later.

And Abhi has been called many things. He has also been called Kartik by BP. It doesn't mean anything.

I actually agree with them killing off Abhi, but I want that happen while saving the Sharmas. Hear me out, Abhi is never gonna move on from Akshara, for him, she was the first person he felt peace with, whether her voice or whatever but for someone with troubled childhood, she was the breath of fresh air. Akshara and him always resolved their differences by putting them aside instead of solving them, and hence they kept festering. I want to judge Abhi for the white day but the truth is, when you go through something traumatic, you lose all sense of right and wrong, and whatever sticks, you make that your reality. Abhi did that, he did wrong by kicking Akshara out and because she wasn't there when he started walking again, he made that his reality and never tried to look for her. Not justifying him, but I can understand to an extent. He was still traumatized when the man who had been his father figure told him that his daughter and him were a bad match, further cementing in his head that the wrong saved them both.

Abhir and him had a connection even before he found out Abhir was Akshara's kid, forget his own. And like any parent, he wanted his kid, but he prioritized his son's health over everything. Akshara again taking him and leaving is what made him run behind because Abhir is the only thing he can call his own, even in his head, as his connection with Akshara, his true and only love.

He is thankful to Abhinav, but unlike everyone else, he only gives credit to Akshara for bringing up Abhir because for him, it is the mother figure and not father figure, and he always wanted to be a better father than his father. So him annoyed with Abhir being called Sharmaji son and Abhinav being credited was not okay, if Akshara had been, I don't think he would have minded.

Which is why the best ending for him would be to save his family and die with peace. Keeping him in the story also makes no sense now. Akshara has moved on, Abhir wants to be with his this father, both things correct but remove him from the equation. Kartik and Naira made sense after 5 years also because neither fell in love with anyone else, here Akshara has, so what's the point of Abhimanyu now? Even if Abhinav dies, Akshara would be with him for her son, not because she wants to, he would only be a replacement father to Abhir and nobody deserves that. And killing both Akshara and Abhinav and giving their child also to Abhimanyu is just again plain stupid. Why would Sharma and Goenka child live with Birla?

I agree, Abhi has tried a lot to change but somehow still ends up making the same mistakes. I think a lot of people connect to him because of that, cause he is a flawed person but he has tried really hard to change and that matters at least when you are just a viewer and not the person having to live with them.

And I think today's episode proved that Abhi hasn't moved on, but he is also not trying to get Ak back or anything even subconsciously. I think he is genuinely just trying to get through stuff without more issues. That is his priority right now. I don't think he has changed or become like Nav and I would personally hate if that happened. He is focused on having a relationship with his son and resolving his issues with Ak. In that they can get to friendship so quickly and easily itself is surprising to me. But Abhi is trying to give her the same respect/space he has been giving Arohi with Ruhi.