Childhood trauma.. how and till when?

In real life, if how could a person like Abhimanyu cure his trauma? Not everyone can get soul wala love.

Is love really a solution.

And what actions and behaviors can be excused under childhood trauma

Interesting, I have tried not to discuss Abhi wrt real life cause he really makes no sense. But if someone like him ( as he was introduced ) did exist, I think he would need a lot of therapy, especially with his parents.

Positive development :

I think he would have moved out the first chance he got and then tried to convince his mom to move out with him. After being away from his family and hopefully developing a community of friends, he might have gotten therapy and slowly but surely healed. Might have even started to question his mom's behavior and would definitely have gotten his anger and impulses under control.

Negative development :

Gotten more and more frustrated with his life. I doubt he would have fallen in love. Definitely would have had a lot of failed relationships and slowly learned from them or become exactly like his father and then go to jail for DM.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

Interesting, I have tried not to discuss Abhi wrt real life cause he really makes no sense. But if someone like him ( as he was introduced ) did exist, I think he would need a lot of therapy, especially with his parents.

Positive development :

I think he would have moved out the first chance he got and then tried to convince his mom to move out with him. After being away from his family and hopefully developing a community of friends, he might have gotten therapy and slowly but surely healed. Might have even started to question his mom's behavior and would definitely have gotten his anger and impulses under control.

Negative development :

Gotten more and more frustrated with his life. I doubt he would have fallen in love. Definitely would have had a lot of failed relationships and slowly learned from them or become exactly like his father and then go to jail for DM.

The abused becoming the abuser is such a real phenomenon. If Abhimanyu was a real person, he would definitely have a lot of failed relationships and may even be a emotionally abusive and temperamental partner who deep down may even resent his mother for putting up with her husband's abuse. The latter does happen surprisingly, where in some cases a son grows up to be overtly protective towards his mother like abhimanyu, but in some rarer cases a son may hate his mother for not fending off the abuse of her husband and tolerating it instead, especially in the cases where the victims of abuse are not just the wife but children too in the household and often the son grows up feeling his mother didn't protect him against the abuse and resent the mother too.

Even though the abuse was not physical, abhimanyu endured a lot of emotional-distress having to watch his mother go through emotional and verbal abuse and frustration at his mother quietly tolerating it, indirectly making him a victim of the abuse too due to the trauma caused by this distress and frustration.

Yeah exactly. If you delete the soul love stuff, this is exactly who Abhi is. He fails at all of his relationships and has become an abuser himself. But the only real difference is, that I think real people have a lot more introspection. Abhi is a character and does what the script demands. I think for a real person, even if he fell in love, the relationship would never go so far to get to marriage. He himself might even be scared of getting married because of his own parents relationship.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

Yeah exactly. If you delete the soul love stuff, this is exactly who Abhi is. He fails at all of his relationships and has become an abuser himself. But the only real difference is, that I think real people have a lot more introspection. Abhi is a character and does what the script demands. I think for a real person, even if he fell in love, the relationship would never go so far to get to marriage. He himself might even be scared of getting married because of his own parents relationship.

We saw a slight inkling of that in the very start of abhira post-marriage episodes. Abhi was very controlling and particular of what he expected out of akshara, laid down conditions and expectations from her out of fear and paranoia that their marriage would be negatively impacted if she got too involved with his family, but time and again it was proven that more than his family, it is his own anger that effected their marriage.

I guess so, initially it did feel like he was trying to keep Ak safe from his family, but that transitioned very quickly to just don't interfere. Which I don't understand cause he didn't like his family anyways.