Originally posted by: Sanju_9
These past episodes I'm not so sure what writers r tryin to achieve? Its like they don't want to loose any audience so they're showing leads acting to move on but simultaneously showing parallels bw them to showcase their divine soulmatism 🤦🏽♀️ If Abhira is endgame then y did they have such a character sketch of Nav I can't understand. They could've gone down d easy route of showing Ak as single mother, or Ak being trapped with someone manipulative. By showing her inability to move on after meeting such sensitive, sensible n happy go lucky person (who I personally feel is like her old self in many ways) what pt. they're tryin to make is beyond me. Here they're cooking same khichdi as Anupama. She marries such a sensible, supportive guy who loves her so much in return but she keeps being doormat of her exes. Same here Ak finds such a genuine, supportive man who has wholeheartedly been in d relationship, but she stays stuck in d past. Yesterday I overheard 4 elderly ladies discussing about remarriage. They said if someone finds a good partner why not.. but then one asked isn't it unfair to one partner cos the other isn't a 'clean slate'? They all nodded to it & I pondered aren't the storylines of current slot leaders just reinforcing that - A woman can't move on from her past n will eventually destroy d peace n happiness of her new partner. So why should single good guys go for divorced women! Request makers to not show good side characters ppl can begin caring for if they're eventually to be sacrificed in name of lead milap. Give us characters like Pakhi, Arohi so nobody cares & you can easily stick d soulmatism card on our faces. 🥺
I've never watched Anupama a day in my life, but from what I have been reading (which is a lot lately on this forum), she seems ungrateful and kinda like someone who is actively seeking an abusive situation. If you got out of a relationship, you should stay out of it for good. This whole being friends with your ex thing is beyond me.
Sure, I do believe there shouldn't be any hostility. As in, why bother thinking about people who are no longer a part of your life. It's better to let them go completely, forgive them for your own sanity, and move on. If there are children involved, one only needs to maintain ties with them, not the other parent (the ex). In fact, the children should be instructed not to discuss one parent in front of the other. Their lives need not be more enmeshed than they already are.
About that "clean slate" comment, gross🤢
It's one thing for someone to wish for someone who is on the same page as them both mentally and physically (this could include a virgin for a virgin and divorced for a divorced person) so that they may understand each other better or for balance or whatever, but the reason behind that has to be justifiable. Like calling a divorced woman used or other such derogatory terms is just mean, not to mention ancient. They won't ever call a divorced guy or a widower used or dirty, would they?
I was seeking a divorced guy preferably with no kids because that was also my reality. My sister is actively seeking a divorced guy with kids because that is her reality. She won't even look at the profile of a guy who has no children because she believes the guy needs to be literate in a language her story is written in.
That said, there are people who come together while belonging to two different books entirely, but they can and do work towards making their relationship a success. The first thing any relationship requires before love even enters the equation is acceptance and respect. Okay, that's two, but you get the point, right?
Edited by neenzz - 2 years ago
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