abhimaniyu is a great son but horrible husband - Page 2

Originally posted by: borntorule12

True their relation is toxic on so many levels because akshara is not allowed to make mistakes. The reason he fell for akshara is that he wanted someone to love him like crazy. Such men expect women to constantly do pati jaap and care for them like crazy but they can't do the same. Healthy relationships ain't built like that when you expect other person to love you like crazy. Relationships are built when you see people as humans.

Originally posted by: harshadishotttt

The problem with Abhimaniyu is that he never realizes how his actions impact Akshara. Even during the jija track, he never once apologized to Akshara for how he treated her. he will come out of this and they can emerge stronger, but what is going to happen the next time things get hard? No one can deny that this show is running in a cycle of something going wrong, Abhimaniyu blaming Akshara, Akshara chasing after him, and repeat. This is just a ticking time bomb before Akshara breaks. She is also a human being. She is not his punching bag.

Originally posted by: harshadishotttt

This is really an amazing post. You have read my mind. Abhimaniyu is taking Akshara for granted entirely. It is really impossible to believe that he is the same man he was before marriage. He was a great lover, but he is a horrible husband. He was running after her for months and the second he got her, it seems he has forgotten her value. And it is not just about his track and how horribly he is treating her. Every single day since shaadi, he has gotten mad at her for no reason and she has had to chase after him. He got mad at her for wanting to work at the charity hospital and stormed out without finishing the conversation. That is not how marriage works. Akshara was trying to talk to him after the anniversary thing and he turned his back and ignored her. That is also not how marriage works. Then the Parth thing too. He blamed her for jumping in when he did not even know what actually happened. There are so many examples.

Originally posted by: harshadishotttt

The only depth Abhira have comes from Akshara. I am not sorry to say this. Abhimaniyu lacks all emotional maturity. If it were not for Akshara, Abhira would not even be together right now. This girl's patience is something else. Abhimaniyu is acting like a 5 year old child. Everyone thinks he is the ideal husband, but in reality, no one would want to be married to someone who shuts down and shoves you to the side the second things get hard. When things get hard is when you need to stick together more than anything else. If Abhimaniyu is mad, why is he not mad at everyone? If his anger is his hurt, why is it only coming out on Akshara? He is talking respectfully with everyone except her. He is behaving like she is the one who had EMA. And if he needs proof to trust her, then he does not deserve to be with her in the first place.

Nobody is ideal anything ..everyone is a good deal or a bad deal or a mixed deal ..abhimanyu isn't an ideal son , he may look like that to many at this moment . Trust me it's only for this moment . Akshu won't be an ideal wife either ..manjari isn't an ideal mil, wife or mother.

I agree with the bolded part . It's wrong to treat akshu like this . Even if akshu does a mistake , he can be the bigger person , forgive , forget and move on. Here it's not her mistake and she failed to explain it to him , he is not ready to give her a benefit of doubt 🤔

Abhimanyu is not being nice to anyone at this point not even manjari...he is being distant with Neil and not understanding him..he has started hating harshvardhan more after finding out about his affair..he has started questioning and rebelling against Anand and mahima too..and he has emotionally shut himself off and not even opening up to his wife akshara..AND ABOVE ALL he is not even considering manjari's fear or her feelings..he's just adamant and forcing manjari to divorce Harsh

You can't say that abhimanyu is a terrible husband only becoz right now he isn't justifying any of his relationship..he is neither a good husband, nor a good brother or a son..BUT IT IS NOT HIS FAULT..

Abhimanyu is losing himself and his identity in this mess..it is probably the darkest phase of his life..this truth revelation has shaken up his entire world and he is desperately trying to find a way out of it..its not just about protecting manjari..abhimanyu himself is traumatized becoz of his parents abusive and toxic marriage and hence he wants his parents to Divorce each other..this track is about his childhood pain and trauma..

He loves akshara but is not comfortable enough to share his worries with her..he is not hugging her or going close to her becoz he is extremely preoccupied with all the negativity that is happening around him..akshara on the other hand is trying to pacify her broken husband and trying to bring him out of this Terrible situation..both abhimanyu and akshara aren't ruined..akshara isn't a doormat and abhimanyu isn't a bad husband..its just that the time is hard for them..this track is very realistic..

This is not to justify abhimanyu's actions..I agree he is being reckless and a bit insensitive to his wife at this moment..but we need to understand his perspective too..this isn't the time to be a good husband..what abhimanyu needs right now is to come out of his childhood trauma and pain caused by his parents abusive relationship..he needs to rediscover his own self and move on from past..then he will emerge as a good husband, brother and a son..

Originally posted by: ayushisingh29

This is not to justify abhimanyu's actions..I agree he is being reckless and a bit insensitive to his wife at this moment..but we need to understand his perspective too..this isn't the time to be a good husband..what abhimanyu needs right now is to come out of his childhood trauma and pain caused by his parents abusive relationship..he needs to rediscover his own self and move on from past..then he will emerge as a good husband, brother and a son..

Well said..we need to understand that some issues take time to resolve. It's not like we talk and everything is fine the next moment..even between husband and wife , they stop talking to each other for days weeks or months..

Everyone has their bad days and bad moods. As a good husband, he supported akshu whenever harsh badmouthed her , or tried to suppress her career needs ..as a good husband he tried to find time for them ..as a good husband he understands akshu but it will take time . Coz he is too messed up with the current revelations plus manjari is sad...

Originally posted by: _charu_

Well said..we need to understand that some issues take time to resolve. It's not like we talk and everything is fine the next moment..even between husband and wife , they stop talking to each other for days weeks or months..

Everyone has their bad days and bad moods. As a good husband, he supported akshu whenever harsh badmouthed her , or tried to suppress her career needs ..as a good husband he tried to find time for them ..as a good husband he understands akshu but it will take time . Coz he is too messed up with the current revelations plus manjari is sad...

Very well said...

Definitely agree no one means no one is perfect indeed... Husband and family relationships are like this..we can't expect Shri Ram jaise pati or Sita Mata jaise patni..Each one has flaws and managing on livehood of joint family where it's disfunctional to be settle down it takes time..the plot is too realistic happening nowadays and even those days..

It's about what keep us learning with our faults , our love and perseverance...Abhi never had a good childhood except his mom who loved him unconditional and Akshu too had dreadful childhood where she learnt a weapon of patience...

Abhi s too fed-up with his father and who won't..akshu s right on manjari to take decision and abhi saying akshu to not involve fir safe guarding her as he never want anyone to hurt her..

It's life lesson and foundation of marriage has to built that's all

Almost all itv leads are glorified sons but lack in the husband department. I am not surprised here because dragging of misunderstandings and fights is what sustains shows nowadays and somehow the heroine being wronged by her husband and in laws only to realise it later is the new norm nowadays than the Romance troupe. I hope they don't drag it too much and as the magic will be lost.

Originally posted by: ayushisingh29

Abhimanyu is not being nice to anyone at this point not even manjari...he is being distant with Neil and not understanding him..he has started hating harshvardhan more after finding out about his affair..he has started questioning and rebelling against Anand and mahima too..and he has emotionally shut himself off and not even opening up to his wife akshara..AND ABOVE ALL he is not even considering manjari's fear or her feelings..he's just adamant and forcing manjari to divorce Harsh

You can't say that abhimanyu is a terrible husband only becoz right now he isn't justifying any of his relationship..he is neither a good husband, nor a good brother or a son..BUT IT IS NOT HIS FAULT..

Abhimanyu is losing himself and his identity in this mess..it is probably the darkest phase of his life..this truth revelation has shaken up his entire world and he is desperately trying to find a way out of it..its not just about protecting manjari..abhimanyu himself is traumatized becoz of his parents abusive and toxic marriage and hence he wants his parents to Divorce each other..this track is about his childhood pain and trauma..

He loves akshara but is not comfortable enough to share his worries with her..he is not hugging her or going close to her becoz he is extremely preoccupied with all the negativity that is happening around him..akshara on the other hand is trying to pacify her broken husband and trying to bring him out of this Terrible situation..both abhimanyu and akshara aren't ruined..akshara isn't a doormat and abhimanyu isn't a bad husband..its just that the time is hard for them..this track is very realistic..

This is not to justify abhimanyu's actions..I agree he is being reckless and a bit insensitive to his wife at this moment..but we need to understand his perspective too..this isn't the time to be a good husband..what abhimanyu needs right now is to come out of his childhood trauma and pain caused by his parents abusive relationship..he needs to rediscover his own self and move on from past..then he will emerge as a good husband, brother and a son..

Very well said....i agree he is a bit harsh with Akshara but I don't think he is treating her like a doormat or insulting her...he is just not in his right frame of mind....even in today's episode he clearly told that hei s not angry with her because he thinks that she leaked the secret out , he iss mad at her because the entire family is blaming her , in place of Harshwardhan , for all the mess that has been created in Birla house. I agree that his behaviour with Akshara is not right at the moment, but the man is going through his worst phase of his life right now and do not know how to come out of this. It is not a matter of 1or 2 days to come out just like it took time for Akshara to get herself freed from her sister's emotional blackmailing..right now we are witnessing Abhimanyu's journey to come out of his childhood trauma ...he will surely come out of it with Akshara's help..during the journey he will unknowingly hurt Akshara and himself too...but once he comes out of it, he will be the same Abhi to his Akshu who can't see her in pain or getting insulted ...and will definitely realize the mistakes

he made during the period..

Agree

thx god I left watching this show

Character of abhi is

If choice is bw arohi and abhi I will choose arohi 😳