Abhimanyu Birla

Why can't he understand that Akshara has been emotionally.abused over the years. She needs therapy, positivity, certain interventions to understand the difference between right and wrong.

He has witnessed his own mother getting reduced to a doormat. Could he save her completely his father's clutches.

It is not easy to change. Akshara can fight against any X, Y , Z for Abhimanyu. She becomes helpless when Aarohi is in between.

A backstory or a long monologue is never given.

The connection is lost.

Why cant abhimanyu understand ? I also can't understand. Even if I do, I don't agree to it. those who r being abused must be encouraged to come out of it and given strength or rather , see the mirror . In a way they become enablers to the abuse . ...abhimanyu has been pretty straightforward about it with his mom.

He failed with his mom doesn't mean he should stop trying ...he should also continue to try to make akshu see that she is gullible...vulnerable to manipulation by aru...

Originally posted by: _charu_

Why cant abhimanyu understand ? I also can't understand. Even if I do, I don't agree to it. those who r being abused must be encouraged to come out of it and given strength or rather , see the mirror . In a way they become enablers to the abuse . ...abhimanyu has been pretty straightforward about it with his mom.

He failed with his mom doesn't mean he should stop trying ...he should also continue to try to make akshu see that she is gullible...vulnerable to manipulation by aru...

Akshara is extremely dumb who can’t think anything beyond Aarohi . Normally aisi sister obsessed pagal ladki ko koi bhi chod dega but seems like Abhimanyu has true feelings for Akshara so he is fighting with Aarohi and Aarohi’s selfish attitude for the sake of Akshara and his life.

Today he questioned entire Goenka family that why they ignore Aarohi’s mental abuse towards Akshara since years? That was much needed question to address in front of Goenkas.

Aarohi ne apni car se Abhimanyu ki maa ko uda diya , itna bada kand kiya and uda ne ke baad chupa bhi rahi thi ! Chahe galti se bhi Udaya ho Abhimanyu ki Maa ko but atleast ek bar bata dena chahiye tha!

Khud toh Aj tak sirat ki accidental death ke liye Akshara ko taane marti hai but usne khud ne toh sahi me accident kiya tha! I am glad Abhimanyu ne iss baat ko address kiya aj.

Originally posted by: Salutethearmy

Why can't he understand that Akshara has been emotionally.abused over the years. She needs therapy, positivity, certain interventions to understand the difference between right and wrong.

He has witnessed his own mother getting reduced to a doormat. Could he save her completely his father's clutches.

It is not easy to change. Akshara can fight against any X, Y , Z for Abhimanyu. She becomes helpless when Aarohi is in between.

A backstory or a long monologue is never given.

The connection is lost.

You are right, as a doctor he should recognise the signs of someone needing some counselling.

You mention his mother...children who grow up watching one parent abused by another develop a need to save....in this context, it can be looked as if maybe Abhi has recognised that Arohi's presence is not good for Akshu and therefore he needs to 'save' her from Arohi. His approach is to come heavy handed...he is an alpha after all. Being in love with her, he feels it gives him the right to dictate who should be in her life....

In real life that can constitute as a red flag in a relationship. It is well known statistically that children who grow up in a abusive environment are more likely to become abusers themselves when they grow up...bullying, actual violence, emotionally abusing another...

@ red, we have now entered the subplot where Akshu will be slowly learning to move away from Arohi...she will start to see the truth and that she will never change...it will take some time but it will happen.

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

In real life that can constitute as a red flag in a relationship. It is well known statistically that children who grow up in a abusive environment are more likely to become abusers themselves when they grow up...bullying, actual violence, emotionally abusing another...

@ red

How is it different for akshu then? Same circumstances , of emotional abuse over years and we have two opposite personalities as a result of it . Howz that ? By this logic akshu must also be an abuser . Abhi drifted away from his father and akshu became a slave to aru.

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

In real life that can constitute as a red flag in a relationship. It is well known statistically that children who grow up in a abusive environment are more likely to become abusers themselves when they grow up...bullying, actual violence, emotionally abusing another...

Dis is so ri8....abhimanyu alrdy shos...abusive pattern.....it cn also expln y akshu is attrctd 2 abhimanyu.....her most important rltnshp is wid aaru who is abusive 2 her......so she jst chuse nother abusive rltnshp 2 rplce.....abused ppl also tend 2 chuse abusive partners......

Originally posted by: _charu_

How is it different for akshu then? Same circumstances , of emotional abuse over years and we have two opposite personalities as a result of it . Howz that ? By this logic akshu must also be an abuser . Abhi drifted away from his father and akshu became a slave to aru.

I said mostly likely. Not that every one of them becomes an abuser. Some turn their lives around while others don't. That is a true fact, you can go read up on abuse and the affect on childhood development and adulthood.

For a fictional character you can put whatever spin you want to. One thing though, Abhi is more similar to his father than he thinks he is...he shouts, yells, breaks things when angry...it's not always fists.

If Akshu is a real life person then I would say by entering into a relationship with Abhi, she in the long run may face the same emotional abuse as she did with her sister....as Abhi also comes from the background where the male in his life (father) was abusive to his mother (the female) both verbally and no doubt physically...in fact I'm sure some psychologist may even say it was a subconscious choice on her part as Abhi and Arohi share similar traits...however, it could also be opposite as well that both having come from an abusive background decide to never ever let that enter their lives...

Please do not start thinking this is what is going to be on the show, this is just a conjecture based on human behaviour, conditioning and the affect abuse has on young psyche. This is just a personal opinion based from my work history ( research work with MIND) and the opinions of friends who work in medical, especially in paeds/social care and see the effect of abuse on children on a daily basis up to their adulthood.

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

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Please do not start thinking this is what is going to be on the show, this is just a conjecture based on human behaviour, conditioning and the affect abuse has on young psyche. This is just a personal opinion based from my work history ( research work with MIND) and the opinions of friends who work in medical, especially in paeds/social care and see the effect of abuse on children on a daily basis up to their adulthood.

Thx..the purpose of my msg was to gain clarity on the subject. Thx for the insight.

I know what will happen in the show as I am aware of their pattern .

However when it comes to abuse , my pov is that it's not . Akshu wasn't abused , n if she was , she chose to be like the way she is . Inspite of aru putting her IN guilt mode, she became a mentally strong woman . What we call abuse was a possibility to face such situations , and how a person can actually learn to transcend , rather than sit and cry over it. Yes sometimes she breaks , sometimes she has her weak moments , but overall she has a pleasing personality plus she has loads of strength to endure and the quality to love people irrespective of how they are.

It's the same with abhimanyu. He may lose it at some moments when he watches his mom getting verbally abused , but he never let this become a hindrance to help out people by becoming a doctor , basically to not be like his father ... the abuse what we call it also helped him to raise a voice against it.

N there are people who can't take the pressures , become depressed and suicidal. Here in the show , they r giving a positive msg n I appreciate it.

abhimanyu may act impulsively but he always listens to the sane advice of his mom and follows her . The fact is that he dwells upon his reactions and tries to correct everything when he cools down. That's what I take from this character .

As opposed to others I don't think akshu prioritizes aru Over abhimanyu . She will.not cut one of them from her life. She has to strive to maintain a balance . That's how I look at both the characters n I find terms lime abuse a little off for them.entirely my pov