In defence of Akshara Goenka!

Firstly, I'd like to mention Pranali Rathod is such a cutie She looks so similar to Hina Khan aka Old akshara, her smiles, expresssion etc. These days she is looking extra pretty- maybe its the pre wedding glow.

I would like to defend Akshara Goenka .

First poor girl hid her love for the sake of her sister. When time came to take stand for her love, she literally dragged her family's name in mud and went against her sister- yet her man keeps complaining that she prioritizes family over him? What more proof does Abhimanyu need of the love and her priorities? She went in fire for him and kept loving him despite his mental abuse. He chose to get hitched to her own sister for the rest of her life which is such an insult to her love. Yet poor girl kept doing favours for him. For a dude she literally met few days back! Yet people expect an overnight growth for her. People saying she doesn't deserve Abhimanyu, she is dumb xyz, I feel abhimanyu doesn't deserve a kind girl like her!

She was literally fighting with her grandfather for this guy - what else does he want her to do? Is he expecting her to worship him?? Akshara wasn't wrong about the things she said after bade papa got heartattack. What she said was very realistic- ever since abhimanyu came in their life, their life has become complicated with daily tensions and love shouldn't come at such a cost. In real life too people sacrifice their love to avoid family tensions and marry a perso their family wants them too. It was just an emotional outburst seeing her family and bade papa in pain but abhimanyu fans bashed her that she is taunting abhimanyu.

Even accident situation i am seeing in a different light today. The reason Akshara thought Abhimanyu forgave her because she has 100% faith in her love. If something like that happened by Abhimanyu, she would have forgiven Abhimanyu too. After all, she is a girl who doesn't believe in holding onto grudges. She has been bearing aarohi's insult. Yet offered only love to her in return. She thinks Abhimanyu too is like her- selfless. That's why she assumed he forgave her. I'm sure if something happened to manjari- she would have died a 1000 death's.

Also, her character is purposely being destroyed in the show by makers just to show that this is Abhimanyu Birla's love story. Even though, Akshara is clearly the better person out of Abhimanyu and Akshara.

Abhimanyu's love depended on a possession- his love depended on possessing akshara and he did so many weird things during abrohi track. Akshara didn't even hold any resentment against Abhimanyu for getting hooked to her sister. Instead, she understood his POV that he is doing this for his mother. She never complained to him. In real life, any girl would be damn pissed about a boy who claims deep love for me, yet goes and proposes my sister because i rejected.Akshara's love never depended on possessing Abhimanyu- it was always there despite whatever he kept doing.

People keep saying Abhimanyu did this for akshara, how are they forgetting so many things akshara did for him too? Abhimanyu is going on doing things to impress Akshara indirectly creating more problems for her. His gifting music therapy department, bringing Kumar Sanu, etc are very small in front of the things she did for him.

Did Abhimanyu ask akshara reason for her panic attack that day?

I legit feel bad that cv's purposely brought that cheating thing and akshara not having one conversation with manjari about the accident just to show akshara in a poor light. They want to keep glorifying the male lead at the expense of the female lead but i'll always say that Akshara's love has been more pure since day 1.

People need to stop saying Abhimanyu's love is selfless, unconditional when he gave up on the love story by getting almost married to her sister. He was also ready to cancel tilak 3.0 for his mom despite knowing how angry goenka's would be this time. If he can choose his mom always, why is he expecting akshara to not choose aru and her family? That's like typical male behaviour- expecting the girl to leave behind her family, keep the husband at #1. Akshara is only going to live with Abhimanyu only now and obviously when she starts living with him, her love for him would increase. Why is he expecting that in such a short time, he will become Akshara's no 1 priority?? Just because he fell in love deeply since day 1 and made akshara her priority. Everyone's pace is different.

Also, Akshara is not dumb. I am sure we will start seeing story from her point of view after marriage.

Stop being hard on that poor girl who lands in situations unknowingly.

To me akshu cheating on the sangeet was a little fun and maybe a gesture just to give her family little joys before she leaves them at the end of the day she will be marrying abhi and moving in with him leaving her maika behind. Plus at weddings it should be taken lightly. Also abhi is correct where he stands i think his more hurt that akshu hid arhus involvement. But us the audience know its not the case! Fingers legs crossed wedding happens on a happy note otherwise how are they going show grand entrance and stuff?

Exactly these issues should have been addressed , they are only going to create larger differences between them in future if they don't have a proper conversation and come to know about each WHAT AND WHY

Originally posted by: Choco_mint

To me akshu cheating on the sangeet was a little fun and maybe a gesture just to give her family little joys before she leaves them at the end of the day she will be marrying abhi and moving in with him leaving her maika behind. Plus at weddings it should be taken lightly. Also abhi is correct where he stands i think his more hurt that akshu hid arhus involvement. But us the audience know its not the case! Fingers legs crossed wedding happens on a happy note otherwise how are they going show grand entrance and stuff?

To me that was extremely stupid and childish. Abhimanyu falling down didn't imply goenkas won as birlas were ultimately dancing better. Her way of cheating was cheap- she straightaway made him fall. There could have been other ways to tease. His family members and he also worked hard, so i think competition should have been fair.

Born -- a lot of this post deeply resonates with me and is so well pointed out. I was going to make a similar post, but will paste it here instead!

Akshu has always chosen Abhi when it came down to it. She went against her entire family and risked ruining her entire reputation to save his career during the Ruby track. She jumped into a burning building and risked her literal life to save him. She stranded her sister, the same sister that everyone claims she cannot ever look past, at the alter and confessed her love for Abhi when she thought he would do something to harm himself. She went to the police station and told the cops to arrest her so that Abhi wouldn’t go to jail. She blasted Manish for trying to separate Abhi from his family and putting forth that condition, when in reality, that condition was needed to protect her from that house of sharks she is about to enter. And, the second she learned of the accident truth, she rushed to tell Abhi everything, despite Aarohi severely blackmailing and manipulating her.

What more can this girl do? What else does she have to do to prove her love? Why is her love thought of as less just because she isn’t as verbal and expressive about it as Abhi is? Saying you love someone and trust someone means nothing. It is our actions that show these emotions, and Akshu’s actions have always demonstrated her love for him.

People are saying that Akshu needs to be redeemed. Redeemed for what? Loving her family? Since when is it a crime to love your family? Abhi loves his family just as much as Akshu loves her’s….maybe even more. The only difference is that Akshu has many people she loves, whereas Abhi only has Manjari.

How easily does everyone forget that Abhi was ready to marry Aarohi just because Manjari was sick? He could have told her that he cannot get married. And yet, he easily melted and went for the tilak. He also hid the Anisha truth from her, started avoiding her/dodging her. There is a communication gap on both ends. And that will heal with time. No relationship is perfect from the start. And, during that time when he was ignoring her, she gave him space. She understood him and supported him, even when people around her were trying to make her suspicious. Abhi was ready to cancel this most recent tilak with Akshu just because Manjari wasn’t going to come. Is that not extreme? And yet, no one questioned it.

I understand Abhi’s insecurities. But, I don’t think that Akshu is to blame for them. Rather, I think it is the environment he grew up in and how he sees his parent’s marriage. He has seen Manjari dedicating her entire life to Harsh without getting anything in return. He has seen all of the elders in his family living in loveless marriages. So, at the core, this is where his issues arise from. Of course Akshu rejecting him for Aarohi added lots of salt to his pre-existing injuries and fears. And, she was wrong to remain silent. But, can she be fully blamed for it? I don’t think so. Because, she was acting out of years of trauma. She was so desperate to please Aarohi and give her happiness, because in her mind, she was responsible for her mother’s death. This poor girl is a victim and was acting out of loyalty to her abuser. We should understand that instead of bashing her for it. Yes, the way she treated Abhi was so wrong, but people make mistakes. If we can look past Abhi’s mistakes and forgive him, then why do we hold Akshu to a higher standard??? It’s not fair.

Also, something I want to point out. Those flashbacks Abhi has of Akshu “choosing” her family over him. The scene in his office when Akshu says she has a forever rishta with Aarohi. Abhi himself chose to bring a rishta for Aarohi, and then when Akshu wanted to draw a line (like any self respecting women should), he got upset. How does that make any sense? The flashback of her stopping Kairav from hitting Abhi— Manjari tried to stop him too. But when Akshu stopped him from making a huge mistake and crossing the line, it was her choosing family? Just how?? And finally — the bench scene. The girl had almost lost a 4th parent. For the first time in her life, she was being vulnerable with someone. She was feeling responsible yet again for almost losing a parent. The heart attack came right after her fight with Manish. Who wouldn’t feel guilty in that situation??? In fact, it would be wrong not to feel responsible somewhat. She was not choosing family then either. She was just expressing how constantly she is torn between family and her love. How constantly her love creates problem with her families… and that is TRUE. First Aarohi’s manipulations, then Manish’s anger… she is constantly bearing the brunt. She trusted Abhi enough to confide in him, and instead of listening, he made it all about himself and his feelings.

I don’t even want to get into this marbles thing because it is so stupid to me. It was a shaadi function, and people cheat all the time. It is all fun and games. There is no deeper meaning there. It wasn’t the cheating that upset Abhi, but rather that he thought Akshu was choosing her family over him yet again….when that was not the case at all. Of course Harsh took advantage of the situation and added fuel to the fire + it worked.

I was disappointed that Abhi was instigated by Harsh.

If he does not let Akshu speak tomorrow, that is going to be another disappointment. He is going to deeply regret his actions. It is only thing to say you trust someone, but an entirely different thing to actually act upon it.

I want to see a breakdown of Akshu. This girl has been through enough.

Again — I am not saying that Abhi is wrong to be insecure. I get where he is coming from. But, why is Akshu constantly the one being bashed??? Why are all of Abhi’s wrongs ignored??

Abhimanyu is a very complicated man. It's really hard to live with a man like him. He does love Akshara a lot but he needs to look at things from her pov. Just like she loves her family he too loves his mom and bro. I know his major complaint with Akshara is her undying love for Aarohi but he needs to think just like he can't leave his father she too can't leave her sister. Somewhere his insecurities are the result of lack of complete trust in Akshara. He has this innate fear that she'll dump him again for her family/sister. After seeing the proof he believed she chose her sister over him again and as he is short tempered and impulsive, instead of calmly asking her the truth he reacts aggressively which is completely wrong. This couple has serious communication problems.

Fans have gone overboard regarding the whole cheating issue. After throwing the pebbles she immediately didn't celebrate their win. She celebrated after Abhi smiled otherwise she would have surely apologized to him. Also, the way people said he would have got badly injured 😂 nothing would have happened to him.

Originally posted by: tptwi

Born -- a lot of this post deeply resonates with me and is so well pointed out. I was going to make a similar post, but will paste it here instead!

Akshu has always chosen Abhi when it came down to it. She went against her entire family and risked ruining her entire reputation to save his career during the Ruby track. She jumped into a burning building and risked her literal life to save him. She stranded her sister, the same sister that everyone claims she cannot ever look past, at the alter and confessed her love for Abhi when she thought he would do something to harm himself. She went to the police station and told the cops to arrest her so that Abhi wouldn’t go to jail. She blasted Manish for trying to separate Abhi from his family and putting forth that condition, when in reality, that condition was needed to protect her from that house of sharks she is about to enter. And, the second she learned of the accident truth, she rushed to tell Abhi everything, despite Aarohi severely blackmailing and manipulating her.

What more can this girl do? What else does she have to do to prove her love? Why is her love thought of as less just because she isn’t as verbal and expressive about it as Abhi is? Saying you love someone and trust someone means nothing. It is our actions that show these emotions, and Akshu’s actions have always demonstrated her love for him.

People are saying that Akshu needs to be redeemed. Redeemed for what? Loving her family? Since when is it a crime to love your family? Abhi loves his family just as much as Akshu loves her’s….maybe even more. The only difference is that Akshu has many people she loves, whereas Abhi only has Manjari.

How easily does everyone forget that Abhi was ready to marry Aarohi just because Manjari was sick? He could have told her that he cannot get married. And yet, he easily melted and went for the tilak. He also hid the Anisha truth from her, started avoiding her/dodging her. There is a communication gap on both ends. And that will heal with time. No relationship is perfect from the start. And, during that time when he was ignoring her, she gave him space. She understood him and supported him, even when people around her were trying to make her suspicious. Abhi was ready to cancel this most recent tilak with Akshu just because Manjari wasn’t going to come. Is that not extreme? And yet, no one questioned it.

I understand Abhi’s insecurities. But, I don’t think that Akshu is to blame for them. Rather, I think it is the environment he grew up in and how he sees his parent’s marriage. He has seen Manjari dedicating her entire life to Harsh without getting anything in return. He has seen all of the elders in his family living in loveless marriages. So, at the core, this is where his issues arise from. Of course Akshu rejecting him for Aarohi added lots of salt to his pre-existing injuries and fears. And, she was wrong to remain silent. But, can she be fully blamed for it? I don’t think so. Because, she was acting out of years of trauma. She was so desperate to please Aarohi and give her happiness, because in her mind, she was responsible for her mother’s death. This poor girl is a victim and was acting out of loyalty to her abuser. We should understand that instead of bashing her for it. Yes, the way she treated Abhi was so wrong, but people make mistakes. If we can look past Abhi’s mistakes and forgive him, then why do we hold Akshu to a higher standard??? It’s not fair.

Also, something I want to point out. Those flashbacks Abhi has of Akshu “choosing” her family over him. The scene in his office when Akshu says she has a forever rishta with Aarohi. Abhi himself chose to bring a rishta for Aarohi, and then when Akshu wanted to draw a line (like any self respecting women should), he got upset. How does that make any sense? The flashback of her stopping Kairav from hitting Abhi— Manjari tried to stop him too. But when Akshu stopped him from making a huge mistake and crossing the line, it was her choosing family? Just how?? And finally — the bench scene. The girl had almost lost a 4th parent. For the first time in her life, she was being vulnerable with someone. She was feeling responsible yet again for almost losing a parent. The heart attack came right after her fight with Manish. Who wouldn’t feel guilty in that situation??? In fact, it would be wrong not to feel responsible somewhat. She was not choosing family then either. She was just expressing how constantly she is torn between family and her love. How constantly her love creates problem with her families… and that is TRUE. First Aarohi’s manipulations, then Manish’s anger… she is constantly bearing the brunt. She trusted Abhi enough to confide in him, and instead of listening, he made it all about himself and his feelings.

I don’t even want to get into this marbles thing because it is so stupid to me. It was a shaadi function, and people cheat all the time. It is all fun and games. There is no deeper meaning there. It wasn’t the cheating that upset Abhi, but rather that he thought Akshu was choosing her family over him yet again….when that was not the case at all. Of course Harsh took advantage of the situation and added fuel to the fire + it worked.

I was disappointed that Abhi was instigated by Harsh.

If he does not let Akshu speak tomorrow, that is going to be another disappointment. He is going to deeply regret his actions. It is only thing to say you trust someone, but an entirely different thing to actually act upon it.

I want to see a breakdown of Akshu. This girl has been through enough.

Again — I am not saying that Abhi is wrong to be insecure. I get where he is coming from. But, why is Akshu constantly the one being bashed??? Why are all of Abhi’s wrongs ignored??

Whatever Abhimanyu did has been extremely toxic according to me. Also, this too much of love from side is kind of scary. I would distance myself from a guy like that. I would want a guy who can respect my no- even if he knows am suppressing my feelings. Kartik's expectations from naira was valid as they were together since a long time. Yet when naira rejected him, instead of making an issue out of it , he respected her no saying he will keep loving her even if she doesn't- its okay. She taught him love and his love will end with her. Then again, moving on is not wrong but abhimanyu literally was getting hitched to akshara's own sister whom he earlier rejected. He literally treated aarohi like trash even though he was using her for his mother. When he got to know about akshu's love, he conveniently dumped all blames on aarohi's shoulder without sympathizing about her broken wedding and the things he told to aarohi was extemely disrespectful like besharam. Even if someone does wrong, there's a way of expressing your views, that's not how gentlemens behave. He himself had proposed aarohi for mother's sake, so why to make so much issue when fire incident etc came out as if he ever respected aarohi for doing those things for him. He was treating her like trash even after assuming all this. He should have respectfully backed out from the marriage.. even aarohi doesn't deserve a person like abhimanyu. Such males are really intimidating in real life. He always wants to impose his love on akshara which i don't like. God knows how many tandavs he will do after marriage. He always does tandav and then does stupid things. I'm sure a lot of trouble in akshu's life due to abhimanyu's anger issues and his love for this mother.

His extreme gestures for akshu ,completely neglecting his family is also weird. In a real life too, a guy like that would get bashing.

He was so disrespectful in talking to bade papa before his heartattack. Imagine someone talking to his mother like that? His mother too did so many wrongs and create kaands- if akshara blames manjari like that, would he like that? Yet he blamed bade papa for his genuine concerns for his granddaughter by saying i'll run away with your granddaughter, you will have to listen to what i says, there's no mistake on our end blah blah. He clearly doesn't respect elders- be it his dad, mahima or bade papa.

Also, he is a person who will be nice to you as long as he gets what he wants.

He got akshu- so his behaviour with her took 360 degree turn.

Bade papa gave in to his demands- so he became nice to him too.

He told Kairav i only respect you because you are akshu's sister. He was ready to hit him for his psycho , suicidal sister.

Abhimanyu never realizes his fault. Till date, we haven't seen any apology from his side to akshu for choosing aarohi . Both ma beta are same.

Abhimanyu is an extremely self righteous guy- cvs are trying to keep him like that because a lot of people are abhimanyu's fault, so they are trying to give abhimanyu a perfect lover boy image even tho he is far from being one.

You are right . In the flashbacks, situations were different. Whatever Akshara was doing was sensible. His insecurities because of the flashbacks dont make any sense!
Also, he gets instigated so easily- first by manjari, then harsh......

Originally posted by: borntorule12

Whatever Abhimanyu did has been extremely toxic according to me. Also, this too much of love from side is kind of scary. I would distance myself from a guy like that. I would want a guy who can respect my no- even if he knows am suppressing my feelings. Kartik's expectations from naira was valid as they were together since a long time. Yet when naira rejected him, instead of making an issue out of it , he respected her no saying he will keep loving her even if she doesn't- its okay. She taught him love and his love will end with her. Then again, moving on is not wrong but abhimanyu literally was getting hitched to akshara's own sister whom he earlier rejected. He literally treated aarohi like trash even though he was using her for his mother. When he got to know about akshu's love, he conveniently dumped all blames on aarohi's shoulder without sympathizing about her broken wedding and the things he told to aarohi was extemely disrespectful like besharam. Even if someone does wrong, there's a way of expressing your views, that's not how gentlemens behave. He himself had proposed aarohi for mother's sake, so why to make so much issue when fire incident etc came out as if he ever respected aarohi for doing those things for him. He was treating her like trash even after assuming all this. He should have respectfully backed out from the marriage.. even aarohi doesn't deserve a person like abhimanyu. Such males are really intimidating in real life. He always wants to impose his love on akshara which i don't like. God knows how many tandavs he will do after marriage. He always does tandav and then does stupid things. I'm sure a lot of trouble in akshu's life due to abhimanyu's anger issues and his love for this mother.

His extreme gestures for akshu ,completely neglecting his family is also weird. In a real life too, a guy like that would get bashing.

He was so disrespectful in talking to bade papa before his heartattack. Imagine someone talking to his mother like that? His mother too did so many wrongs and create kaands- if akshara blames manjari like that, would he like that? Yet he blamed bade papa for his genuine concerns for his granddaughter by saying i'll run away with your granddaughter, you will have to listen to what i says, there's no mistake on our end blah blah. He clearly doesn't respect elders- be it his dad, mahima or bade papa.

Also, he is a person who will be nice to you as long as he gets what he wants.

He got akshu- so his behaviour with her took 360 degree turn.

Bade papa gave in to his demands- so he became nice to him too.

He told Kairav i only respect you because you are akshu's sister. He was ready to hit him for his psycho , suicidal sister.

Abhimanyu never realizes his fault. Till date, we haven't seen any apology from his side to akshu for choosing aarohi . Both ma beta are same.

Abhimanyu is an extremely self righteous guy- cvs are trying to keep him like that because a lot of people are abhimanyu's fault, so they are trying to give abhimanyu a perfect lover boy image even tho he is far from being one.

You are right . In the flashbacks, situations were different. Whatever Akshara was doing was sensible. His insecurities because of the flashbacks dont make any sense!
Also, he gets instigated so easily- first by manjari, then harsh......

I disagree with many of your points about Abhi. I think that Abhi messed up BIG TIME in bringing the rishta for Aarohi, but she was also to blame in accepting it, being very well aware of the entire situation. And since then, his treatment of her, in my opinion, has been entirely warranted. His intentions were never wrong, and her intentions are always wrong. He sees through her, and he calls her out. She gets bashed, because she brings it upon herself.

I disagree that Abhi completely neglects his family. At the end of the day, he cares for all of them. The Birlas have very toxic dynamics, and he grew up in an environment that was not loving nor caring. He grew up witnessing abuse. It makes sense to me why he acts the way he does, especially towards Harsh. Despite Mahima using him for selfish motives, he respects her too. He worships Anand like his mentor, and he takes care of all his siblings. And of course, he would die for his mother, despite her choosing Harsh over him over and over again -- that too, because of her own abuse.

In terms of Abhi and Manish prior to the heart attack. Yes, Abhi, once again, acted impulsively. But, Manish was equally responsible for that in my POV. The way he treated Abhi was entirely unacceptable. The way he threw insults at Akshu was vile. Manish was acting out of pure ego at certain points during that track, and he was behaving completely irrationally. Abhi tried talking to him calmly, but all he did was bash him. I was pretty pissed at Manish then.

I don't believe that elders deserve respect just because they are elders. Respect is earned. Abhi is not wrong to call out his elders, even though he can be harsh in his tone.

I actually do think that Abhi recognizes his faults. To this day, he is triggered by how he treated Akshu in the past. Whether that be during tilak or on mehendi. He is someone who loves with his whole heart. I don't find his possessiveness to be toxic. The way he defends Akshu against everyone is admirable to me as well. I truly believe that his love for her is infinite, and I don't question it at all.

His main issues are his impulsiveness, his lack of control over his anger, and his inability to look at things from Akshu's POV.

I deeply feel for his insecurities. He has been traumatized to the core by witnessing his parent's marriage, and I think that is why he is even more scared of losing Akshu. He pours all of the love that he didn't see his mother get into Akshu. He does not want her to have a life like his mom, nor does he want to be in Manjari's position where his partner does not care for him, while he give it his all. There are a lot of dynamics about his past that are yet to be explored.

I believe that people are more than their mistakes, and I choose to see the good in them. But, if we are calling out one character's mistakes, then the other character's mistakes should not be entirely ignored!

In defence of akshu (I never call her akshara coz for me akshara is one and only) , ab main kya hi kahoon. She doesn't do anything yet everybody's life around is up down uthal puthal..howz it possible that she doesn't do anything ?

Till the time She listens to aru over her own heart , and over abhimanyu , she will be forever in trouble. Take any instances in these, whatever number of epis . Every problem has been bec of aru and love for aru.

Abhimanyu prioritizes manjari over akshu but at least manjaris intentions are good and manjari tries to do everything that is good for abhimanyu . Unlike aru.

Great post. It’s nice to read a different perspective.

To me Akshu has always been bland as a character- the typical FL but she has a lot of goodness in her heart. She does some silly things - like overtly trying to gain Arohi’s love, hiding mistakes and so on but her intentions are good.

And right now, I feel pity for her coz a good soul like her is getting married to an unstable, obsessive man- one who’s temper switches uncontrollably.