Now I understand you, Abhi!

I was reflecting on why I keep watching YRKKH despite how awful it has become, and realized with a jhatka that I am acting just like poor Abhi! 😲

Here I was jaded and preoccupied with daily life, going about my business, and then I saw that S3 had HC as the male lead. HC - the actor who, like the blue moon, only graces our screens once in a while❤️. Ah, the perfect reason to bring ITV into my life! I immediately ran to my HULU page. Wah, kya aankhon ko sukoon mila HC as a calm, strong doctor, controlling his demons with discipline and grace. Always behaving with restraint even when provoked - and on top it of it, what a dish! I immediately jumped to the conclusion that the show would proceed on track with this lovely and unusual ML, and dreamy scenes like the mature man/innocent girl car waala moment at the Goenkas would happen every day. So many khayali pulaos I cooked, confident in my assumptions. I had found my perfect soul waala time-pass!

But little did I realize the deep and dark loyalty of the creatives to TRPs, which needed to be No. 1😒

So I was shattered to the core by the subsequent events which turned Abhi into an idhar udhar man who stopped using his wits and logic and turned into a shouting, tire-bashing, lying on the ground weeping aadmi. Bas, I said to myself. Bahut hogaya. Time to avoid this show and go immerse myself in my kaam dhaam. Then cleverly DKP gave me false hope. There was calm, cool Abhi again when Arohi landed up in the hospital and I thought, arre yaar of course I wasn’t wrong - such a special character, this one. For sure, they will redeem him and bring him back better than before.

But no, once again my confidence turned to ashes🥺. Now we were shown choice WTFery like cholesterol needing to be cured by immediate shaadi and sexy sorted surgeon Abhi becoming the impulsive, aggressive inTOXICating JIJAJI. Like Abhi, I found out the hard way that this show cares more for its selfish best best TRPs than its loyal and discerning viewers. We are not special to them, we are just bloody KOI BHIs😡

What’s a girl whose hopes have been thwarted so heartlessly to do? Lose the TAMEEZ my MAA taught me and mock and insult JIJAJI with sarcastic words, in hopes the writers will get the message and return to the once beautiful portrayal we were initially shown. After all, jab seedhi ungli se ghee nahi nikalta etc. etc. So what if this hurt the feels of some of the lovely people on this board - all’s fair when it comes to saving one’s perfect soul waala timepass🤪

But alas I don’t have the stamina and strength to turn myself upside down discussing and debating the crap that’s invaded this season, in hopes of getting these creatives to confess they massively screwed up for the uncaring kaand-loving TRPs. So now I’m faced with a dilemma.

Here I am treading the path of Abhimanyu and that means if I keep trying to pursue my obsession with YRKKH, I will turn into a crying mess and risk dehydration given how little water I drink, run around nange paon (causing my toes to fall off from frostbite), make finger hearts like a ten year old (causing my friends to ditch me as a massive embarrassment), indulge in public shouting matches and threaten to quit my job (making my parents to go all Harshvardan Birla and BadePapa rolled into one on me), etc. etc. Who knows what all poor Abhi has done this week...

I thought about asking Mahadev and Kanha whether I should keep watching this show, which is literally going up in flames in front of my eyes. But I figured They probably have more important things to do in this world than give ishaara about trivial things like my obsession with TV shows.

Toh kya karoon? Mujhe lagta hai ab time aagaya to MOVE ON and seek a TV show that doesn’t play with my feelings for the sake of selfish TRPs, and makes me act so idhar udhar in my quest to seek the perfect soul-waala time-pass.

(Also this show has done the impossible and ended my obsession with Harshad Chopda. I know, I know - he’ll cry himself to sleep now that I no longer want to whisk him away to a Caribbean love nest but he’s just going to have to get over that terrible trauma somehow🤣)

Harshad Chopda lost a fan.

So now we know why you haven't been gracing our arguments lately. You are at the stage where you're trying to look for more productive pastures. But like jija you'll soon realize you're destiny lies with yrkkh. Then will come the thod phod stage.

Aww! This means you won't be gracing us with your presence, right?

Happy fairwell, Intoxicator.

We will miss you. I don't know how long I will be here. I hope I will start having a life real soon and can get out of here too! 😆

Why you all are leaving. Give it some more time. You might like it.

I don't know how most of you say that Dr. Abhi was shown as a calm, controlled, cool and graceful man before. I felt him off from the first. The way he suddenly seemed to completely give himself up to his newly discovered love for Akshu during the mask festival. Like from one moment to the next he was like I never believed in love, but now I've seen you so I'm converted immediately. That wasn't the behavior of a mature man who knows himself. Next he never bothered to speak to Akshara about his feelings and hers properly. He wasn't even clear with his mother, though they were shown to be so close. This could be blamed on faulty writing ofc, but it can also be that Abhi's character was being sketched that way..he is so self-involved that he assumes everyone automatically understands his every feeling, or at least those who he loves are expected to. Like his mother, then Akshu. That's why he was getting so fierce with Akshu on the disastrous tilak day. Saying you know how I feel for you. And his rudeness even then towards Aarohi, like whoever stands in the path of his desires wasn't going to get any decency from him. Even though Aarohi did have some very slight signs for thinking Abhi was interested in her...his speaking to her twice on the phone, telling her to create a group for posting pics etc. To be fair to Aarohi she didn't then immediately assume that it was bcz he was attracted. Only after Harsh praises her and sort of gives her the idea that she might become a part of her family as well as hospital and coincidentally Abhi calls her again afterwards when coming to speak to elders that she starts weaving her dreams. He does say to delete some msgs he had sent which she doesn't bcz she was into that guy and wanted to keep them. But Abhi just treats her like dirt even then. Then his forcefully bringing Akshu to Birla house and expecting her to overcome whatever inhibitions were holding her back and just open up in front of strangers regarding her deepest feelings was insensitive and egotistical. After that he just spiralled downwards. So what I'm saying is I never felt him to be a cool, caring, mature guy from the beginning. Then the way his relationship with his mother was shown didn't impress me either. Especially with that Manjari giving kind of unbalanced person vibes.

So I feel this is how his character has been written from the first, and the way he's behaving now comes as no surprise to me. And those who love Abhira and Abhimanyu Birla do so for just this-- they like the concept of an innocent girl needing to be saved from herself and of a man who is a boor and a devil but becomes putty in the hands of the woman he loves,who loves like a madman and can commit murder even for his love. A man for whom his only allegiance is for his woman and the rest of the world can rot. This is the kind of character they like. You can see this in the way the fans have been gloating over how Abhi gets violent with Kairav but immediately stops when Akshu pulls him back.

If you were looking for a compassionate, sophisticated, civilized doctor who can love but not sacrifice his integrity and his duty to his fellow humans for that love, you have to look elsewhere than Dr Abhimanyu Birla.

I had actually stopped seeing the show regularly after the Ruby track but somehow still have an interest to see where they go bcz of being kind of attached to the show.

Saw you after a couple of days and with such a long post….

Will read in sometime and then start a discussion maybe

When you find a good show, let me know.

My initial for Abhi was heavily influenced by my ❤️for HC. Now that the HC crush ki patti has come off my aankhen, I'm almost afraid to go back and rewatch those early episodes in case I come to the exact conclusion you have. I will admit the scene that made me go WTF was the one where he flings himself down a flight of steps (!!!) in realization of his love. That's not... normal and frankly speaks of some very self-destructive tendencies. So yeah you might be right that the way Abhimanyu was developed was problematic from the get go...

No interest left in this show but I might be sliding into the Bakwaspolice gang's DMs from time to time so keep an eye out for that😆😆

Originally posted by: austen-eliot

I don't know how most of you say that Dr. Abhi was shown as a calm, controlled, cool and graceful man before. I felt him off from the first. The way he suddenly seemed to completely give himself up to his newly discovered love for Akshu during the mask festival. Like from one moment to the next he was like I never believed in love, but now I've seen you so I'm converted immediately. That wasn't the behavior of a mature man who knows himself. Next he never bothered to speak to Akshara about his feelings and hers properly. He wasn't even clear with his mother, though they were shown to be so close. This could be blamed on faulty writing ofc, but it can also be that Abhi's character was being sketched that way..he is so self-involved that he assumes everyone automatically understands his every feeling, or at least those who he loves are expected to. Like his mother, then Akshu. That's why he was getting so fierce with Akshu on the disastrous tilak day. Saying you know how I feel for you. And his rudeness even then towards Aarohi, like whoever stands in the path of his desires wasn't going to get any decency from him. Even though Aarohi did have some very slight signs for thinking Abhi was interested in her...his speaking to her twice on the phone, telling her to create a group for posting pics etc. To be fair to Aarohi she didn't then immediately assume that it was bcz he was attracted. Only after Harsh praises her and sort of gives her the idea that she might become a part of her family as well as hospital and coincidentally Abhi calls her again afterwards when coming to speak to elders that she starts weaving her dreams. He does say to delete some msgs he had sent which she doesn't bcz she was into that guy and wanted to keep them. But Abhi just treats her like dirt even then. Then his forcefully bringing Akshu to Birla house and expecting her to overcome whatever inhibitions were holding her back and just open up in front of strangers regarding her deepest feelings was insensitive and egotistical. After that he just spiralled downwards. So what I'm saying is I never felt him to be a cool, caring, mature guy from the beginning. Then the way his relationship with his mother was shown didn't impress me either. Especially with that Manjari giving kind of unbalanced person vibes.

So I feel this is how his character has been written from the first, and the way he's behaving now comes as no surprise to me. And those who love Abhira and Abhimanyu Birla do so for just this-- they like the concept of an innocent girl needing to be saved from herself and of a man who is a boor and a devil but becomes putty in the hands of the woman he loves,who loves like a madman and can commit murder even for his love. A man for whom his only allegiance is for his woman and the rest of the world can rot. This is the kind of character they like. You can see this in the way the fans have been gloating over how Abhi gets violent with Kairav but immediately stops when Akshu pulls him back.

If you were looking for a compassionate, sophisticated, civilized doctor who can love but not sacrifice his integrity and his duty to his fellow humans for that love, you have to look elsewhere than Dr Abhimanyu Birla.

I had actually stopped seeing the show regularly after the Ruby track but somehow still have an interest to see where they go bcz of being kind of attached to the show.

Perfect analysis! Abhimanyu's calmness is a mask he wears. He strives to be the calm and cool guy but he and all those that surround him know that he has serious anger management issues. The one thing that was admirable in initially epis was that, he had a much better control over his temper although from the first epi it was clear to me that it doesn't come natural and he had to put effort into it.( to stay calm).

But it's also kinda disappointing how loose his temper has become now :/ . Maybe that's just hinting that his emotions are in a disarray rn. I hope he gets better at managing it again. I despise ITV shows that glorify toxic masculinity and temper-driven characters. Gone are the days when angry-young-borderline-physically-assaulting male leads made us swoon. 🤢

P.s.: there's no shame in being short-tempered by nature as long as one does try their hardest to tame it. And in abhi's case his efforts were evident in the initial days. Now he is just a mess. 🤔