Trying to process what we just saw… - Page 3

Originally posted by: Prettywitty

If her removing a slip of paper from his hand (also kind of odd, mind you) is equivalent to him grabbing her wrist and pushing into a bowl of water while snarling at her and wrenching her fingers, then main kya kahun aapse...

Accha? He was holding her hand and he swept both their hands to the side to knock off the bowl. Besides isko toh aadat hai - this isn't the first tod-phod we've seen him do.

And you didn't answer me - what's your definition of toxic? What does he have to do before you would consider his behavior toxic?

For me toxic is when one can't handle too much of pressure from other person. Jaise kah the hai na saas le ne ke bhi ijaazath nahi hai.

He Abhi gave every freedom. Akshara does want her heart feels with out considering the other half. It makes him suffocating. He just made a mistake but it was also because her. If you re-watch the scenario.

I really don't know how to tell have you watched a show called 'soubagyavathi bava' that is toxic. In that she doesn't have the freedom to do anything.

If you say Abhi is toxic then I will say we all are living in a toxic house (if you are in India) because humare yahan aisa hi hai. Hum jisse pyar kathe hai usi se haq se gussa bhi karthe hai apna frustration bhi nikalthe hai. Humare parents humain kya kuch nahi kehthe hum ek kaan se sun kar dusre se nikal Lethe hai. That doesn't mean we don't love each other. They give me my freedom and I gave them their. We are equal and mutual.

Okay wow i don’t even know what to say…

Here’s the thing. The most basic thing in a relationship is CONSENT. It doesn’t matter what the person feels or doesn’t feel, if they say NO it means NO.

Not once has Akshu ever told Abhi she loves him. At least not when he was in his senses (fire scene and drunk scene) where he remembers her telling him she loves him. To him, she has always said NO.

He doesn’t know how to respect that. He wants her to confess because he loves her. Because he thinks since he loves her, she must love him too. He can’t take her rejection.

He has found time and time again to torment her, to torture her, to say cruel things to her, to force her to do things (be it dancing at engagement or washing off her Mehndi) because he thinks he’s entitled to do that. He had even agreed to marry her sister. And even with that Akshu hasn’t cracked, he tells her that her existence doesn’t matter? She doesn’t matter? Because she rejected him? He has the nerve to tell her to not be in the city and her own house while he’s about to marry her sister? You don’t think any of that is toxic???

For too long now Indian TV shows have been glorifying toxicity and manipulative abusive behavior in name of romance. Give us good looking leads with great chemistry and show us a few cute scenes and we are supposed to think this toxicity is normal. 🙄

Originally posted by: Maneetlover123

For me toxic is when one can't handle too much of pressure from other person. Jaise kah the hai na saas le ne ke bhi ijaazath nahi hai.

He Abhi gave every freedom. Akshara does want her heart feels with out considering the other half. It makes him suffocating. He just made a mistake but it was also because her. If you re-watch the scenario.

I really don't know how to tell have you watched a show called 'soubagyavathi bava' that is toxic. In that she doesn't have the freedom to do anything.

If you say Abhi is toxic then I will say we all are living in a toxic house (if you are in India) because humare yahan aisa hi hai. Hum jisse pyar kathe hai usi se haq se gussa bhi karthe hai apna frustration bhi nikalthe hai. Humare parents humain kya kuch nahi kehthe hum ek kaan se sun kar dusre se nikal Lethe hai. That doesn't mean we don't love each other. They give me my freedom and I gave them their. We are equal and mutual.

But we also live in country Where No means No, n its what even our parents teach us. AUR SHAYAD ABHIMANYU BIRLA KO YEH NAHI SIKHAYA 😡

I think after this accident guys Abhimanyu well realize his mistakes and will be back to normal. Fingers crossed 🤞🤞

Originally posted by: Maneetlover123

For me toxic is when one can't handle too much of pressure from other person. Jaise kah the hai na saas le ne ke bhi ijaazath nahi hai.

He Abhi gave every freedom. Akshara does want her heart feels with out considering the other half. It makes him suffocating. He just made a mistake but it was also because her. If you re-watch the scenario.

I really don't know how to tell have you watched a show called 'soubagyavathi bava' that is toxic. In that she doesn't have the freedom to do anything.

If you say Abhi is toxic then I will say we all are living in a toxic house (if you are in India) because humare yahan aisa hi hai. Hum jisse pyar kathe hai usi se haq se gussa bhi karthe hai apna frustration bhi nikalthe hai. Humare parents humain kya kuch nahi kehthe hum ek kaan se sun kar dusre se nikal Lethe hai. That doesn't mean we don't love each other. They give me my freedom and I gave them their. We are equal and mutual.

Ok so I don't know how to interpret this but your view is yours and its valid. Here's the dictionary definition of toxic person (sound familiar? rhymes with Koi bhi🤣):

You're left feeling emotionally exhausted after an encounter with them

They try to intimidate you to get their way

They try control you by guilt tripping

They are easily jealous

They constantly see themselves as a victim

They give backhanded compliments

They're overly defensive

And no I don't live in India but my parents are Indian and i have relatives in India. There was no hitting or physical punishment in my parents or grandparents household, and I can count on the fingers of one hand how many times my parents raised their voices to me and my siblings. So yeah maybe I'm lucky - but if a guy behaved with me the way Abhimanyu is behaving with Akshara, I would pepper spray the heck out of them and then give them a swift kick in the crown jewels for good measure😆

Your mileage may vary.

Originally posted by: Prettywitty

Ok so I don't know how to interpret this but your view is yours and its valid. Here's the dictionary definition of toxic person (sound familiar? rhymes with Koi bhi🤣):

You're left feeling emotionally exhausted after an encounter with them

They try to intimidate you to get their way

They try control you by guilt tripping

They are easily jealous

They constantly see themselves as a victim

They give backhanded compliments

They're overly defensive

And no I don't live in India but my parents are Indian and i have relatives in India. There was no hitting or physical punishment in my parents or grandparents household, and I can count on the fingers of one hand how many times my parents raised their voices to me and my siblings. So yeah maybe I'm lucky - but if a guy behaved with me the way Abhimanyu is behaving with Akshara, I would pepper spray the heck out of them and then give them a swift kick in the crown jewels for good measure😆

Your mileage may vary.

I mean my mom is the Savage passive aggressive queen. All Indian moms are to an extend I guess. And this culture culture bhaashan mein, the toxicity of parents towards children and the elders towards young ones and teachers to students etc are given such a free pass.

At the same time reprimanding children for their stupidity is not toxic. It's when you stifle them and suffocate them and emotionally traumatize them.

I mean there are so many abusive parents out there. Abusive mothers out there. Some of them are still stuck in their post partum depression and taking it out on their child. But Indian society and society in general has normalized it so much, that even mothers don't get the help they need. 😒

State of the world is really depressing. 😔

PS: Abhimanyu is totally toxic towards Akshara according to me.

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

I mean my mom is the Savage passive aggressive queen. All Indian moms are to an extend I guess. And this culture culture bhaashan mein, the toxicity of parents towards children and the elders towards young ones and teachers to students etc are given such a free pass.

At the same time reprimanding children for their stupidity is not toxic. It's when you stifle them and suffocate them and emotionally traumatize them.

I mean there are so many abusive parents out there. Abusive mothers out there. Some of them are still stuck in their post partum depression and taking it out on their child. But Indian society and society in general has normalized it so much, that even mothers don't get the help they need. 😒

State of the world is really depressing. 😔

PS: Abhimanyu is totally toxic towards Akshara according to me.

My mom can be sharp and she definitely reprimands me (most recently for spending too much time on IF and too much time on my phone in general - and she's right🤣). But I've been spared yelling and physical violence in my family. I know people who have not - that history plays out into their entire lives.

Here in the US everyday there's a story of some parent killing their kid or their whole families and definitely stories of postpartum depression/psychosis induced homicide... I feel sorry for some of those women, some are single mothers, work multiple jobs and have no support or medical help. This is a terrible time to focus on the tragedies and violence in this world - we're all a mess. Better to focus on the good people out there, who're doing their best and trying to help lift up others 🤗

Makes two of us (in case you haven't guessed 😆)

Originally posted by: Prettywitty

Ok so I don't know how to interpret this but your view is yours and its valid. Here's the dictionary definition of toxic person (sound familiar? rhymes with Koi bhi🤣):

You're left feeling emotionally exhausted after an encounter with them

They try to intimidate you to get their way

They try control you by guilt tripping

They are easily jealous

They constantly see themselves as a victim

They give backhanded compliments

They're overly defensive

And no I don't live in India but my parents are Indian and i have relatives in India. There was no hitting or physical punishment in my parents or grandparents household, and I can count on the fingers of one hand how many times my parents raised their voices to me and my siblings. So yeah maybe I'm lucky - but if a guy behaved with me the way Abhimanyu is behaving with Akshara, I would pepper spray the heck out of them and then give them a swift kick in the crown jewels for good measure😆

Your mileage may vary.

Ithink all these are also applicable to Akshara also. She got jealous , making Abhi guilt tripping, too intimidating and controlling Abhi for what to do and not to do. Always makes feels she is the victim and Abhi is the reason, always defends whatever she does.

So they are equal. Both are TOXiC. And poor bachi doesn't know she is in toxic relationship. She can say no to ruby and bla bla but not to Abhi. And I'm thinking why???? Such a smart girl can't identify this much????

Originally posted by: Prettywitty

Here's what I'm trying to process. Arohi is about to go help with some complicated surgery but doesn't have the motor skills to dip a stencil in mehendi and press it onto her left palm with her right hand?

"It's too difficult to apply mehendi mujh se nahi hoga" - WHAT THE HECK WAS THAT ALL ABOUT!

I think she just doesn't want that hideous JIJAJI face on her palm🤣

haha she didn't have time to sit and wait for that MUG SHOT to dry

no time for this taam jham in race to be NO. 1

Originally posted by: Prettywitty

Ok so I don't know how to interpret this but your view is yours and its valid. Here's the dictionary definition of toxic person (sound familiar? rhymes with Koi bhi🤣):

You're left feeling emotionally exhausted after an encounter with them

They try to intimidate you to get their way

They try control you by guilt tripping

They are easily jealous

They constantly see themselves as a victim

They give backhanded compliments

They're overly defensive

And no I don't live in India but my parents are Indian and i have relatives in India. There was no hitting or physical punishment in my parents or grandparents household, and I can count on the fingers of one hand how many times my parents raised their voices to me and my siblings. So yeah maybe I'm lucky - but if a guy behaved with me the way Abhimanyu is behaving with Akshara, I would pepper spray the heck out of them and then give them a swift kick in the crown jewels for good measure😆

Your mileage may vary.

Totally Agreed, N I don't understand how its related to the country that we have grown up in. I'm from India myself, my mom does say things but she also is the one who understands things that I don't say which Abhi clearly doesn't. 😡

Parents do say something in anger but they also give me freedom to make my choices not force them on me, they teach us that we should let go things which we love or which were never ours.

I so wanted Akshu to slap Abhimanyu today, no one has the right to take decisions or order around others.🤢

Toxicity is Toxicity regardless off any Country, upbringing or relation .......Period.