Mere humsafar...

Hi All!

For the past two weeks Naitik's character has impressed me so much that I was left speechless. After 6+ years of the show, I really didn't expect the Creatives to be able to show so much growth in any character. Naitik as a husband has always been awe-inspiring.

However, his reaction this time has been the most realistic amongst all the Singhaniya and Maheshwari niwasis. Granted he acted impulsively at times, but that made his character more relatable (to the audience) and appealing. On the one hand, I, as a viewer, can understand and sympathise with Akshara's feelings of frustration and suffocation (at being unable to be independent). But, realistically speaking, this reaction should come after a few more weeks after the accident.

At this moment, to be honest, Akshara needs Naitik's help at every step. This is some issue that touched me so much that I was driven to do some research. Psychiatrists, eye specialists and some visually-disabled friends of mine - all seem to agree that it takes a while for any visually-challenged person to get used to his/her new circumstances. Instead of space, he/she needs his/her family's constant care/support, so that he/she can get quickly accustomed. It's been only two weeks. The road to be self sufficient is a long journey and it comes with time.

That makes Naitik's reaction the sanest amongst them all. He is concerned. He feels helpless, unable to see the one (who he has always seen standing tall in adverse situations), feeling helpless. He feels Akshara's pain as if it's his own. As a husband, it is his right to be Akshara's support system. As much as Akshara needs to get acclimatised to the new normal', what we seem to forget is that this is new for Naitik too. Just because Akshara gets heartbroken and cries at every word/mistake she makes, it makes the audience see her apparent pain. But, Naitik is also hurting, he is also slowly breaking into thousand pieces. Just that his pain is generally latent. To suddenly lose one's sight must be a big shock, but to witness your most beloved getting slowly demoralized must be unbearable.

I always admired the character of Akshara as she seemed to be able to read Naitik's silences, yet Akshara has failed this time. She has failed in appreciating Naitik's situation while she is constantly expecting Naitik to understand her situation. Wanting to be by your loved one's side at their hour of need is most natural for any caring, honourable human being. Singhaniya's are an affluent family. Naitik not working for a month or so, should not really affect their financial situation. If Akshara got blind permanently, then Naitik's duty as a husband would be to help her start her journey to become independent (that too after some time when she has healed after her accident). This is blessedly not the situation here.

I don't think I have a problem with Akshara's reaction, but the timing is not right. It's too soon. She needs to realize that for her well-being and others, she right now needs all the aid she can get. This will help her recover quickly. She was discharged from the hospital two/three weeks ago. She needs to spend her energy in getting well again, by taking medicines at proper times instead of screaming at Naitik when he scolds careless people for giving Akshara wrong medicines. Taking wrong medicines is not the right way to go about learning to be independent while making mistakes. A husband getting angry if his wife takes wrong medicines is well-justified as the same can have serious repercussions.

On the one hand, Akshara wants to make her own mistakes while learning to adjust to her situation; on the other hand, she feels demoralized every time she is left alone (for a second) and in her quest to be self-sufficient, someone else gets hurt. Someone needs to tell her that she is contradicting her own words. Naitik has been staunch in his belief that he wants to be Akshara's "eyes to see the world". He feels betrayed that Akshara has taken away his right to be her eyes for this temporary period of one or two months. Words have the power to injure you worse than any physical pain. Akshara's hurtful words are making Naitik feel his inability to help her more strongly.

Yet, throughout it all, Naitik has been supportive, accepting Akshara's grievances, her terms, her anger, while hiding his pain, his frustrations. And this ability of his has gained my appreciation and respect.

So, what do you all think? Firstly, I apologize for suddenly bursting into this forum and posting such a long post. Any reply would be appreciated. I am eagerly waiting. I know that many would disagree with my viewpoint and they are welcome to tell me their POVs. However, a small request, please do not bash the actor in the guise of criticizing the character's current actions; as it is well apparent that both Karan and Hina have put in a lot of effort to make the recent episodes of the show a success.

warm regards

Priya

Originally posted by: Saraa.

Hey Priya

First of all Welcome to the forum. Hope to see you more active

Yes I agree with you. Naitik reaction is completely realistic. Naitik is broken from inside but he wants to take care of his wife because he loves her more than anyone. He is living under constant fear. He cannot afford to loose akshara. Therefore, he just cannot leave her alone. He is right in his own place.

Akshara is righ too because she has always been independent so sudden care is making her annoyed and frustrated. Both of them are right in their own places but Naitik reaction is slightly more realistic

Originally posted by: ruchinaksh

Vry nice post ..i agree nowdays nk is too much caring for ak..but ak felt bad for nk that his life is going around near of her ..what about his business she want support but not every time..
On d other hand he want to take care of her..
Both r right in their place..