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Hi there, myself Don. This is another analysis from the events of the previous episode.
Few points before I start the post.
- This post is not in favor of or against any particular character that you prefer. It's just a basic analysis of characters.
- I do not say that my analysis is absolute or the definite answer.
- Please read the post in the entirety for better understanding.
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With this clear, let's start the analysis
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Naina - The transformation from Deep Love to Cold Practicality.
The post is based on the events till episode aired on 31st July.
Previous episode: The saving grace in the previous episode was the VO that indicated that there will be events or comedy of errors that will finally resolve this ongoing issue between S & N.
Like every other watcher, I was elated how this will proceed and this issue will head towards resolve.
However, the VO masked or covered a very striking change in Naina character graph which was apparent during the Prayer sequence, which I found extremely prominent not to notice.
I don't know how many others felt so?
But few readers did comment regarding that in my previous post.
You might ask whats so prominent and why?
Let me explain.
The most powerful factor that drew me and the majority of us to the story was the unwavering and steady belief of Naina, a teenager, in her love and unending dedication to the person she loved - Sameer!
Naina scaled the initial crush to deep care. She took efforts to understand the boy. Naina's love and dedication were so, so powerful that the Rich, arrogant and the self-loving boy could not stop the good changes in himself.
We all felt bad when Naina's dreams of love were broken by the revelation of bet truth.
However, by then the power of Naina's love had completely changed Sameer. From a self-centered and ME person, Sameer transformed into an all giving, caring and sacrificing boy who was ready to do anything for his Naina.
He, in fact, did everything he can and all the adjustment he could (abuses, slaps, insults and physical pains).
Such was the power of Naina's love that the BOY with the Golden Spoon changed (without even trying) everything about himself to be worthy of Naina's love.
He wanted to be worthy of her acceptance and approval.
Naina's love had that much power to make Sameer a much better person than even he was and he went through everything that he can to make Naina believe in love again.
As Naina said in one of her statements " Thank you Sameer for Not Leaving and Giving Up on me after the Bet Phase"
In all these phases, Naina had all the chances to just move away from Sameer in spite of all his efforts.
But how could she!
It's hard to resist the pull of love when someone you want, loves you with even more deeper intensity.
She couldn't stay away for Sameer and together both of them fell from deeper to the deepest level of love, care, and emotional dependency.
This unwavering love of Naina from such a young age was the reason that all of us got hooked to the story.
But all through this journey, the young Naina was slowly showing the progression to the aspect of cold practicality when it comes of her immediate family. (though she was not conscious about it).
She was vocal about the virtues of love but at the same time, she was closed to any other view when it came to people in her clan.
- The issue of Arjun stealing paper is still a hidden fact.
- The issue of Arjun faking his injury was still a hidden fact till the latter end of the marriage.
(In both the above scenarios Sameer was the accused)
These may not be such major instances at that moment however they hinted at Naina's apprehension and growing Practicality when it comes to her clan.
But, Naina never stopped loving Sameer. Her love for Sameer kept growing and at the same time in some corner of her mind the Cold Practicality also kept on growing.
Sameer or any person, when showered with so much love is bound to be deeply attached to the person giving that love. With the past emotional issues, Sameer gets way ahead into Love in terms of depth.
For Sameer, Naina is his fantasy and also the Practicality & Reality that has to happen.
There is no demarcation between his love and practicality. Yes, he is confident of his Riches and Family Name Power but to him, they are just the accessories to get his ultimate reality - love and companionship of Naina.
But it is apparent that Naina was able to keep the two aspects separate.
All the real moments that she had willingly spent with Sameer were immediately switched over to fantasies that cannot be achieved.
Naina shelved all those moments with Sameer as a fantasy that was good as long as it lasted.
And the fact which Naina knew - Sameer would stand by her when the time comes became a fantasy for her. (which Naina has thoroughly evaluated by evaluating Sameer's Shadi wala Pyaar and knowing that Sameer has that Shadi wala Live for her)
Her fear to face the family and her hesitation to bring the family name down became such a powerful reality and that reality of Sameer loving her to marry her became a fantasy that was good while it lasted.
Sameer is currently lost trying every conventional and unconventional way to cope with Naina's altered reality. For him, Naina was his practicality and fantasy and now he does not know what to do.
The cold practicality of Naina that was growing since the school days is now an all-consuming force.
With that cold practicality, she has cut Sameer from her. She is paining for it but she is still the correct one in her mind. In her practical mind, she feels she did the right thing and also believes it is to the good for Sameer.
Her practical mind has made her oblivious to Sameer's pain. She realizes his pain but yet distant from it. She herself feels the pain but the practicality just overshadows it.
With practicality, She calls him to tell him via songs, we are not meant to be together.
But her practicality has become selective.
She is not practically realizing that Sameer is beyond that point of getting back and is hurting more than ever. It makes her believe it's for his good.
However, that practicality switches off when her own father calls her a "Janjhat. Where her elders are not bothered for her education and just wants to marry her off. Yet again, when it came to her and their injustice to her, the practicality goes weak.
If you had read my previous post- Naina, decisions, and ripples: where I had covered the Decisions of Naina and their impacts, there is detailed analysis of cause and actions.
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Pointer:
It's not that I do not understand the situation of Naina. When Chachaji is speechless in front of elders, what is her Aukat in front of them?
Her father calls her Jhanjhat. Taiji calls her ugly. They do not even have the pity to let the girl complete her education.
She is practical enough to know that she and her future means nothing to them. It is utterly painful for any girl to be treated as unwanted as a commodity.
And the only person for whom she is the world and most beautiful, (other than Chachaji, Chachiji & Preeti), and who only wants to give her all the happiness is lost in his own battle coping with the unilateral decision of separation. Her decision that came as a kneejerk has set in the motion sequence of events affecting her and Sameer's entire being.
There can still be a way out if she can confide in Sameer. Only if she can understand her pain and also the pain of Sameer and if she realizes that her approach, in this case, is not correct. But for that, she needs to help herself and at least initiate to do so.
So, if I understand Naina's situation then what is the point here?
The point is she is letting the scenario slip further into complicacy, as she has taken for granted that Sameer will at best be sad for some days but eventually get over it.
If she is thinking in that terms, that means, she also feels that though painful, she will get over Sameer one day or another and move on with someone else. She is by default ready to replace Sameer with another man, not may be now but few years down than line. Cold Practicality again!
In other words, she assumes that Sameer will move on and also believes that Sameer is expendable from her life. She does not seem to realize the void sameer is falling in to and it might have consequences.
That's where it is the transformation of a dedicated, intelligent & loving girl to Cold Hard Practical Woman (when it concerns the love of her life). That means finally true love was killed at the hands of Practicality that was growing in Naina since school.
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Coming back to the yesterday's episode:
The VO was the only this that made me elated. It hinted at a sequence of events or comedy of errors that will soon lead to resolution of the issue.
But VO is retrospective. In the present, it has no role as no one knows about it. So, irrespective of the outcome, a person is to be judged by the actions in the present.
(If we are happy in a retrospective way - then should be happy that Sameer played with the dignity of a girls reputation and love for taking revenge? Is it justified to play with a girl's dignity? Can we say, what he did right because then only he fell in love with Naina?)
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However, other than that, the wording of Naina was not again in tune with her character of the initial days.
When praying to God, She says "God! Please show some way. Get me out of this situation. I want to live life, I want to read, I want a career for Chachaji's Happiness." And I want to move away from Sameer, but not in this way"
The prayer was again was in tune with her approach in unilaterally deciding to move away from Sameer.
In her prayer, she asks for everyone's happiness except Sameer's and adds that she wants to be away from Sameer.
Her sense of misplaced virtue that she is doing it for the good of Sameer still stands.
She has let of go of Sameer entirely - the conversion to cold practicality. She is concerned right now not to get married.
Even if this marriage proposal does not work, she escapes this allegiance. But eventually, she is ready to push Sameer away and marry someone else after college.
There did not appear any sadness or guilt for How Sameer would feel seeing her with another Man. It's like all those lectures on love and she did finally this? Also, she will keep on neglecting Sameer for 3 years after she escapes from this allegiance. Again a very cold practical decision.
Naina says " Main Sameer Se Duur jana Chati Hoon, Par iss Tarah Nahin"
Then kis tarah?
If not today then tomorrow you will marry someone. (in-front of Sameer) (with the false sense of pride that she is helping Sameer & at the same time upholding some imaginary virtue)
I state a false sense of virtue because she very well known her family for whom she is pushing Sameer to extremes, do not give a damn about her, her future and her happiness.
Yet, she cannot let go of the high moral ground that what she did is for good of Sameer. Again a cold sense of practicality that tells her who she can erase easily at that point.
Naina's prayer appeared a bit SELFISH in my view. Again Naina was all about me, me and me - my study, my dreams, my chachaji dreams and I want to leave Sameer. (I will bear the pain and let him suffer too. It's for his good!)
In short, Sameer is still Expendable and secondary to her clan (even after all the incidences with her family members that clearly makes her understand that in her own family she is the one who is expendable)
However, the saving grace was the VO that did indicate that at least there will be some incidence and comedy of errors that will resolve this issue.
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Please do not assume that I am being negative of the scenarios and character. As I said before, retrospectively we can visualize many things. It must have happened with you also.
However, when you were in the present, at that moment facing a particular situation, only that moment of time and the action of people in response to that defines the people for you.
And this assessment is based on the reactions of the characters as we see them doing and reacting as they do.
VO clearly indicates that there will be events that will initiate a closure of the issue.
And I hope to see Naina emerge as an Initiator at the least.
No one expects to see her as a Super Woman.
But, at the very least, I want the dedicated girl back who was in love and was ready to do anything (possible within her limits) for the person she loves and who loves her more than her.
To give Sameer that validation that he indeed is not secondary in her life. That she wants him forever. That it was just a phase for her and not a cold practical decision that did not consider his real happiness.
The current COLD & PRACTICAL Naina needs to give way to the happy and sweet Naina determined to do at lest small initiatives to save her LOVE.
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As always, all your views - criticism and support is welcome.
Bade Achhe Lagte Hain
CID
