rich houses shld ask less dahej not more na skewed logic - Page 2

This is what happens when we read lutyens history, british version of history and what media shows us.

Originally posted by: mishkatfanfrevr

the generation when the women joined the work force is added dowry in itself u nailed it #LIFETIME DOWRY 👏 . bahus shld say i will earn but aftr marriage whatever i earn will go to my parents fir mazaa aayega😆

that is still fine, but girls are being too chaalak these days. Filing fake dowry cases.

Originally posted by: mishkatfanfrevr

groceries hahaha ab yeh bhi maangtey hain ..hahahah then toh v sure r we r collectively depreciating as a society😆

aaj kal.koi dowry nahi leta. Ulta they even ask girl's family not to give any gifts for boy's side of family. Girl side kharcha girl ke family aur boy side boy ka family uthatha hain. Atleast in tamil brahmins.

Originally posted by: mishkatfanfrevr

groceries hahaha ab yeh bhi maangtey hain ..hahahah then toh v sure r we r collectively depreciating as a society😆

Originally posted by: Samaina12

aaj kal.koi dowry nahi leta. Ulta they even ask girl's family not to give any gifts for boy's side of family. Girl side kharcha girl ke family aur boy side boy ka family uthatha hain. Atleast in tamil brahmins.

Originally posted by: padmalaya30

am from tamil nadu..

in some community they give groceries for diwali n pongal continuously for three years..

this custom is to basically assure the girl that she is still their daughter qnd she has a right on her birth home and family. A way of maintaining relationship with daughters if we remove feminist glasses and see.

Originally posted by: padmalaya30

i belong to tamil brahmins..

yes some deny gifts..

engagement expenses are managed by boy's family...

marriage expenses are managed by both but still expense is more for girl's side

the poor guy gets caught in the middle of all this..kaashi yaatrai seems so justified 😆

Originally posted by: Samaina12

This is what happens when we read lutyens history, british version of history and what media shows us.

Dowry as a system started in pre independence era to secure the future of girls in theie in laws place as those days child marriages were prevalent n men would die at younger age.

This dowry amout or sthree dhan would be useful for that woman to take care of herself and be independent. Even today, dowry amount or any gifts the bride gets are on the bride's name only.

However, post independence era, people started using dowry as a means of torturing the girl if she is not their choic for bahu .

There is one more thing called kanyashulk where, boy's family gives reverse dowry and marry the girl. This practice is no.longer in existence.

Eversice section 498A came into picture, a lot of false cases are being filed by women to trouble their in laws though there is no valid reason.

Dowry per se is not an evil practice, but few people made it evil with their greed for money.

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There is one more thing called kanyashulk where, boy's family gives reverse dowry and marry the girl. This practice is no.longer in existence. " why dont practices like these mak a cool comeback...😃

Originally posted by: mishkatfanfrevr

the poor guy gets caught in the middle of all this..kaashi yaatrai seems so justified 😆

Originally posted by: padmalaya30

i belong to tamil brahmins..

yes some deny gifts..

engagement expenses are managed by boy's family...

marriage expenses are managed by both but still expense is more for girl's side

i am an iyer too . Upto mangalsutra rasm expenses are by girls and even all the jewellery they buy for the girl is on her name only. Once mangalsutra is tied, havan, bidaai, gruhapravesh and next day's sumangali prardhana and reception.expenses are from boy's side. There's no formal dowry in my subsect.