Do you believe in love at first sight? IV inspired post..

I personally was very sceptical about love let alone love at first sight. Obviously I laughed at the idea of love at first sight. For me love at first sight was foolish attraction or crush or at the most nothing more than puppy love... until it happened to me... 😆 one fine day ...at my office.. he came, he smiled (not at me tho 😆), and he conquered..

I felt such strong conviction at that moment that he was the one I was looking for.. I don't know if that's called love at first sight.. bt that conviction was so strong that it compelled me to act on my feelings.. it wasn't impulsive thing, it was jst a very very strong conviction that I instantaneously deduced, that he was the one, the honest, genuine and loyal life partner tht I was looking for, from a mere heartfelt smile that reached his eyes 😆 (coz it was the happiest occasion of his life and he was distributing sweets) .. and also bcoz I strongly believed at that time that no smile can reach the eyes till it comes straight from the heart..😳

Luckily all these traits as per my gut feelings at that moment turned out to b true later on when I started to know him better... God's little mercies.. and thnks to my strong gut.. 😆😆

and thankfully we had entered an era where a girl proposing a boy wasn't considered to b cheap or despo but was rather flattering for a boy and it stumped them completely with our confidence and courage (like Naina stumped Sameer every now and thn with her unexpected bold courageous resourceful moves ) and also becoz we represented those first line of new-age career-driven goal-oriented focussed tech-savvy girls..

there was no looking back after that and my pursuit of love started in Internet Cafes on Yahoo chats. Coz he had taken up a job in another city after that and we could only meet on holidays when he visited his hometown. So actually our love story kickstarted as a long-distance relationship (when we didn't even know such term cud exist one day)... 😆 .. and yes we both had those 90s value system in place where commitment was the biggest thing, the value of your words outweighed everything else, every hurdle was surpassed bcoz the faith one had in each other was unshakeable (like Naina's is for Sameer.. Sameer still has to prove a lot when it comes to commitment and dedication in love.. thrs no dbt abt his devotion for Naina..bt he has to prove tht he is the man for Naina)

.. And so I too believed in my love blindly like Naina... which was boosted also becoz he was so deserving.. and so my devotion and dedication to our love and him brot him in my life.. it is too ridiculous to think that it all actually came true now.. 😆 clearly a miracle happened.. 😆...

But I still cannot say with certainty tht love at first sight works for all.. coz for many it didn't.. bt for us it worked.. and i believe love combined with faith and absolute trust (like that of Naina's) is tht magical potion tht does all the tricks and makes it work like a miracle..

bt I still cannot define workings of heart in such matters in any clear terms in spite of experiencing it personally.. bt I can say one thing with absolute certainty that Love is not an instantaneous thing... it needs to b worked upon constantly.. this relationship, like any other, needs to b nurtured patiently and devotedly.. and like that rose plant that Naina grew.. it cannot just survive on fanciful idea of dreamy romance, it needs sunlight, water, nutrients and proper "regular" care to blossom into a full bloom...

so apart from love... care, trust, faith, devotion, dedication, prioritizing love and relationship over everything else makes it work and yes most importantly it cannot b a one-sided effort ... or else the love train will topple down.. 😆

also it cannot b foolishly all hearts over head.. practicality is must in life for any relationship to survive long term...

also those bitter pills r much necessary every now and then.. to make us value the sweetness of love.. 😆

so yes I do agree with Randeep that fights r must in love.. but also agree with Ashi that one needs to b easy going, one cannot b all high-strung all the time and one must know the way back to each other ...whenever fights happen.. 😳

okay this is what 10-years of my marriage and 5 years of dating phase has taught me about love and importance of love in our lives.. still I know its not enuf..I still feel I m novice when it comes to learning and growing in love.. 😆.. my in laws crossed 30 years of togetherness.. my aunt-uncle crossed 50... still I cant imagine ourselves there.. not tht I m sceptical abt it... I have absolute faith in my love tht it can still move mountains.. but I take it with a pinch of salt.. not everything is hunky dory in life.. often reality strikes with a harsher note.. 😆

bt like Randeep and Ashi we all seek that special someone in our lives.. sometimes we r lucky, sometimes not.. bt we cannot know that untill we take that plunge.. or.. to put in better words.. take that leap of faith.. 😆 😉

so may Randeep and Ashi find their better halves soon and as per their wishes.. (I love to use this term better-half coz its so much more practical than soul mates 😆).. ..also there is no time, age or season to fall in love.. it just happens...😳

so now u all know how much I relate to Naina.. 😆 and y I love her character so much... ❤️

p.s. I also didn't believe in destiny either.. I was sceptical abt tht too.. but as destiny has it, I fell in love with the guy whom I studied with in college for 3 long years, sat in same classrooms, attended same lectures, did long practicals in same lab year after year bt never ever knew about each other's existence till we joined the same firm two years later... 😆

so yes, life and God was hell bent on proving me wrong in every ways... 😆

so yes I m still sceptical and practical in my approach towards life in general (like Ashi) but these incidents have taught me when to trust my gut feelings blindly 😳

OK, I hv a lot to say about this topic!!😆

That' really sweet of you sharing your personal experience..

Beautiful write up.👍🏼

Originally posted by: dakshaavi

That' really sweet of you sharing your personal experience..

Naina is nurturing her love with lot of patience and she so called gut feeling works well..most importantly she believes in her love ..

With RD and Ashi I tell you they are so different yet similar in so many ways ...if they are meant to be together then destiny will pull them together no matter how and where they run ...

They look damn cute together.

regarding Naina and Sameer, Naina is the one who is spearheading their relationship right now... just wish Sameer joins her soon.. 😳

Regarding Ashi and Randeep, I don't like to speculate anything abt what would happen.. I jst like to observe their personalities and like them for what they r.. rest is upto them and their destiny.. behind the scenes to bahot kuch hota hai.. positive negative both and we jst get to know a part of it.. so let us leave it to them..

as u said, if thy r destined to b together thy will b.. no matter what.. warna aisa bhi hua hai both in tellyworld and Bollywood ki saath hone ke baad bhi... perfect Jodi ghoshit hone ke baad bhi.. thy cudnt take it too the end.. and cudnt have a happily ever after.. 😳

so lets not predict what can happen.. let us jst enjoy for whats happening..

and yes I too believe that Ashi and Randeep r very similar at the core.. thy can definitely share a good bond.. whether it can emerge into something substantial and long term is not for us to guess.. 😳 ... life has strange ways.. and u never know what would happen at the next turn.. 😳

also we still don't know complete real personalities of both, may b Randeep is cautious jst bcoz he doesnt want it to affect his professional equation with Ashi and hence affect this golden opportunity of his life.. but Ashi by now has rest assured him tht it wont affect hence we see the comfort level and trust off screen.. 😳

Originally posted by: -Ross-

Beautiful write up.👍🏼

Thanks for sharing anecdote and your definition of love. First hand experience is a great read.😉

I don't know about it at all. 😆Right now for me love at first sight is just an infatuation.😃

Ross, jst for that and to prove ur notions wrong, I want u to fall in love... 😆 😛

saari kitabi batein dhari ki dhari reh jaayegi.. all the definitions tht u read abt love wud turn over its head.. 😆

and yes nothing teaches us better than experiencing it first hand it life and observing it from close quarters .. so yes never lose ur faith in this thing called love.. it has miraculous ways to reach u.. in unexpected circumstances.. so b ready for it.. 😛

Ashi seems to have observed it and was already sceptical abt love.. bt then she met a certain Sameer who changed her notion abt love completely.. but unfortunately he is just a fictional character.. 😆

Thanks for sharing your story.
As for love at first sight...I have heard it from lots of my friends and cousins. Most probably 1 or 2 got success. Rest moved on and found love somewhere else.
As for me...it takes at least a year for me to understand..."Oh ! He likes me...Oh he loves me too..." 😆🤪
But love at first sight from my side happened a lot of times. I guess every serial I watch and like... I fall in love with the heroes. And every movie stars including Salman, Ameer, Hrittik, John...I mean countless times. I dream of them.🤪 Unfortunately I keep falling in love again. 🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪

Your story was a cute one..thanks for sharing it with us😳

Originally posted by: violette

regarding Naina and Sameer, Naina is the one who is spearheading their relationship right now... just wish Sameer joins her soon.. 😳

Regarding Ashi and Randeep, I don't like to speculate anything abt what would happen.. I jst like to observe their personalities and like them for what they r.. rest is upto them and their destiny.. behind the scenes to bahot kuch hota hai.. positive negative both and we jst get to know a part of it.. so let us leave it to them..

as u said, if thy r destined to b together thy will b.. no matter what.. warna aisa bhi hua hai both in tellyworld and Bollywood ki saath hone ke baad bhi... perfect Jodi ghoshit hone ke baad bhi.. thy cudnt take it too the end.. and cudnt have a happily ever after.. 😳

so lets not predict what can happen.. let us jst enjoy for whats happening..

and yes I too believe that Ashi and Randeep r very similar at the core.. thy can definitely share a good bond.. whether it can emerge into something substantial and long term is not for us to guess.. 😳 ... life has strange ways.. and u never know what would happen at the next turn.. 😳

also we still don't know complete real personalities of both, may b Randeep is cautious jst bcoz he doesnt want it to affect his professional equation with Ashi and hence affect this golden opportunity of his life.. but Ashi by now has rest assured him tht it wont affect hence we see the comfort level and trust off screen.. 😳

For me love at first sight is only possible if we have some idea about the person before hand.