If Love Liberates, then Love Controls too!! - Page 2

Love itself is a complex thing to understand... Even in real life, people takes their own time in adjusting with their partner... Its not easy to completely happy in someone else's world...

Originally posted by: sanfan

Lovely post... interesting perspectuve too..

If I may just add... both Sameer, Shefali having largely grown in a liberal set up..perhaps don't think too much of a physical overture... it's nothing great really for them..and I can say this from personal experience having grown up in that very time frame and circumstances I can completely to Shefali and Sameer. Yet, when one finds that partner there is almost always a special meaning to physical intimacy.
Which is why we see a Sameer eager for that physical intimacy which in his books would be nothing out of the ordinary..yet he is eager for that special stage in his relationship.

Yes Shefali and Sameer are both from a more liberal world . Agreed on that . But I beg to differ slightly when it comes to physical intimacy. I think they take it very seriously much more than others. Infact they are very choosy about who can get close to them. Both have proved this .

When Kamya tried to get close to Sameer , he hated it and literally pushed her and said he is not that kind of guy
When Shefali was learning cricket , she hated those comments and looks she was getting from those boys

Now when Shefali or Sameer shake hands with people from opposite gender , for them its only action of greeting they don't think much about ...but the same act how did Munna and Pandit react?? That's the difference most people don't understand...

So being from a liberal world doesn't mean they are comfortable to accept anyone and every one close to them. They are happy to accept ONLY the person they have accepted . So here for Sameer , Naina is his world now. For him marriage is for the society...for him she belongs to him and he belongs to her and he needs this feeling belonging from all accepts of their life...emotional and physical...so that's why he is pursuing her because that touch is physical acceptance ...which is very much needed from your life partner.

Brilliant analyses Di 👏👏 Loved the scenes symbolically made so suggestive.

Too good Ashu Di👏

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

Yes Shefali and Sameer are both from a more liberal world . Agreed on that . But I beg to differ slightly when it comes to physical intimacy. I think they take it very seriously much more than others. Infact they are very choosy about who can get close to them. Both have proved this .

When Kamya tried to get close to Sameer , he hated it and literally pushed her and said he is not that kind of guy
When Shefali was learning cricket , she hated those comments and looks she was getting from those boys

Now when Shefali or Sameer shake hands with people from opposite gender , for them its only action of greeting they don't think much about ...but the same act how did Munna and Pandit react?? That's the difference most people don't understand...

So being from a liberal world doesn't mean they are comfortable to accept anyone and every one close to them. They are happy to accept ONLY the person they have accepted . So here for Sameer , Naina is his world now. For him marriage is for the society...for him she belongs to him and he belongs to her and he needs this feeling belonging from all accepts of their life...emotional and physical...so that's why he is pursuing her because that touch is physical acceptance ...which is very much needed from your life partner.

Lest my communication be misunderstood, let me clarify.. I make a difference between being physically demonstrative and choosing physical intimacy.. which is what I was stressing on...often people who are a bit liberal with their physical overtures were misunderstood in my era too..boy or girl, notwithstanding.

All I was indicating is he is making that conscious choice for physical intimacy and importantly it is coupled with consent of the opposite person... it is what makes relationships in any era special!! 😊

Lovely post Ashu👏...wanted to reply earlier...but got busy with other stuff...anyway...

If there were a song for me that signifies what "bondage" means in a relationship it is this beautiful song from the movie Rajnigandha

Rajnigandha phool tumhaare, mahake yoo hee jeewan mein
Yoo hee mahake preet piyaa kee mere anuraagee man main
Aadhikaar ye jab se saajan kaa har dhadakan par maanaa maine
Mai jab se un ke saath bandhee, ye bhed tabhee jaanaa maine
Kitanaa sukh hain bandhan mein

Har pal meree in aakhon mein bas rahate hain sapane un ke
Man kahataa hain main rangon kee, yek pyaar bharee badalee ban ke
Barasoo un ke aangan main


Lovely posts by all!! It was interesting to read the various perspectives too!!

what a beautiful post... just loved it... 👏👏👏

Originally posted by: sanfan

Lest my communication be misunderstood, let me clarify.. I make a difference between being physically demonstrative and choosing physical intimacy.. which is what I was stressing on...often people who are a bit liberal with their physical overtures were misunderstood in my era too..boy or girl, notwithstanding.

All I was indicating is he is making that conscious choice for physical intimacy and importantly it is coupled with consent of the opposite person... it is what makes relationships in any era special!! 😊

Yes , Agreed :)