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I have rarely commented on any post on IF, but at times certain 'hard-hitting facts' force one to break their silence. I am a viewer of YHM right from the beginning. What compelled me to watch this show, even during those long drawn OTT episodes, was the brilliant portrayal of flawed characters by a bunch of good actors. All said and done, Ekta's shows are known for their occasional illogical plotline, histrionics of the highest order and an ever tyaagi female lead, waiting for the next balidaan. 🤢
However, what sets YHM apart from its competitors like DABH, SNS, YRKKH etc. is the unwavering focus of the story on the main couple. With all their problems, misunderstandings, flaws and deficiencies, Raman and Ishita come off as a real life jodi as opposed to the idealistic husband-wife relationship portrayed in the other shows I mentioned. 😉
Which other show talks about everyday issues like the child being weak in Maths and parents arguing over their mutual responsibilities in that regard? Which show has a normal husband who gets pissed at his wife and shouts at her to vent his frustration and vice-versa? Which show has depicted sexual harassment that women face within their own homes, because of lecherous men in the extended family? Which show depicts a father forced to send his wayward son to a juvenile home because he needs to realize his fault the hard way? Which show portrays an adjustment between contrasting people/families brought together by marriage? Which show has the two main protagonists on equal footing, free to shout, scream, rant, slap/hit each other and then make up in their own skewed way? None as of now. 😎
Frankly, I am yet to come across a real-life husband who blindly stands by his wife every single time. Or a wife who is always correct and knows best what's good for the family. You look for a partner who comes to the marriage with open eyes and is willing to compromise to the same extent as you are. A union of equals, that is. Nobody is perfect and the biggest failure of the other shows is their insistence to force such Utopian concepts down the viewers' throats. 😕 An average audience will love a husband like Suraj or a wife like Gopi/Akshara because they each have traits difficult to replicate in real life. For instance, the level of blind faith between Suraj and Sandhya or the love (bordering on devotion) of Gopi towards Ahem are fantasies of an individual, which have found space on the small screen. Moreover, many times these shows are concerned with a strong female lead saving the family through thick and thin, sticking her head out when it counts and being the sanskaari devi she was raised to be. YHM blows all that tripe to smithereens (though the FL has to stick out her neck in this case too, for TRPs). There've been numerous instances where the undercurrent of warmth among all the members of the Bhalla and Iyer family was clear to see, without the facade of overrated formalities. Sample this:
Scene: Mrs. Iyer barges into a hotel room and sees her daughter's father-in-law and her husband sitting around a table, drinking alcohol. Enter Toshi Bhalla. The no-nonsense Mrs. Iyer is quite upfront when she confronts Toshi and says- "Aiyyoo! Yeh poora family aisa hai. All drinkers!" 😆
I can't imagine any of the leading saasumas of the other shows passing such a comment on her in-laws. A clean, straight-forward observation without a hint of malaise. 😊
Lastly, Raman and Ishita work because they are imperfect, capable of committing mistakes, blaming their partners out of frustration and anger, fighting for the love of their kids, but still holding strong to the mutual love and respect that endears them to their fans. They click because they feel real. There may be unlikely and unbelievable tracks (jumping off cliffs, crushed under earthquake rubble, attacked by a crocodile, hanged till death and yet not dying. Ishita is secretly a cat, I guess 😆) we are forced to endure, but as long as the familial warmth emanates from all the characters, we'll bear all the nonsense and watch it another day still. 😃
P.S.: Btw, these days Raman's vitriolic tongue needs a rest, as does my spinning head. Ishita needs to woman up and claim her rightful place beside him and their children. And Shagun needs a one-way trip to Pluto asap. 😡
P.P.S.: I am not a fan of award shows and do not know how they work. I agree that IshRa deserved the favourite jodi, best maa, pati and patni awards though. 😊
However, what sets YHM apart from its competitors like DABH, SNS, YRKKH etc. is the unwavering focus of the story on the main couple. With all their problems, misunderstandings, flaws and deficiencies, Raman and Ishita come off as a real life jodi as opposed to the idealistic husband-wife relationship portrayed in the other shows I mentioned. 😉
Which other show talks about everyday issues like the child being weak in Maths and parents arguing over their mutual responsibilities in that regard? Which show has a normal husband who gets pissed at his wife and shouts at her to vent his frustration and vice-versa? Which show has depicted sexual harassment that women face within their own homes, because of lecherous men in the extended family? Which show depicts a father forced to send his wayward son to a juvenile home because he needs to realize his fault the hard way? Which show portrays an adjustment between contrasting people/families brought together by marriage? Which show has the two main protagonists on equal footing, free to shout, scream, rant, slap/hit each other and then make up in their own skewed way? None as of now. 😎
Frankly, I am yet to come across a real-life husband who blindly stands by his wife every single time. Or a wife who is always correct and knows best what's good for the family. You look for a partner who comes to the marriage with open eyes and is willing to compromise to the same extent as you are. A union of equals, that is. Nobody is perfect and the biggest failure of the other shows is their insistence to force such Utopian concepts down the viewers' throats. 😕 An average audience will love a husband like Suraj or a wife like Gopi/Akshara because they each have traits difficult to replicate in real life. For instance, the level of blind faith between Suraj and Sandhya or the love (bordering on devotion) of Gopi towards Ahem are fantasies of an individual, which have found space on the small screen. Moreover, many times these shows are concerned with a strong female lead saving the family through thick and thin, sticking her head out when it counts and being the sanskaari devi she was raised to be. YHM blows all that tripe to smithereens (though the FL has to stick out her neck in this case too, for TRPs). There've been numerous instances where the undercurrent of warmth among all the members of the Bhalla and Iyer family was clear to see, without the facade of overrated formalities. Sample this:
Scene: Mrs. Iyer barges into a hotel room and sees her daughter's father-in-law and her husband sitting around a table, drinking alcohol. Enter Toshi Bhalla. The no-nonsense Mrs. Iyer is quite upfront when she confronts Toshi and says- "Aiyyoo! Yeh poora family aisa hai. All drinkers!" 😆
I can't imagine any of the leading saasumas of the other shows passing such a comment on her in-laws. A clean, straight-forward observation without a hint of malaise. 😊
Lastly, Raman and Ishita work because they are imperfect, capable of committing mistakes, blaming their partners out of frustration and anger, fighting for the love of their kids, but still holding strong to the mutual love and respect that endears them to their fans. They click because they feel real. There may be unlikely and unbelievable tracks (jumping off cliffs, crushed under earthquake rubble, attacked by a crocodile, hanged till death and yet not dying. Ishita is secretly a cat, I guess 😆) we are forced to endure, but as long as the familial warmth emanates from all the characters, we'll bear all the nonsense and watch it another day still. 😃
P.S.: Btw, these days Raman's vitriolic tongue needs a rest, as does my spinning head. Ishita needs to woman up and claim her rightful place beside him and their children. And Shagun needs a one-way trip to Pluto asap. 😡
P.P.S.: I am not a fan of award shows and do not know how they work. I agree that IshRa deserved the favourite jodi, best maa, pati and patni awards though. 😊
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