Let Them Grow Up...

Had been meaning to make this post since some time now but couldn't get around to it due to some constraints from my end but tonight just had to do it.

The Bhalla family was reuniting, happy times were almost around the corner when like a dream that seems too good to be true it all came crashing down in an instant and all thanks to a member of the family itself. A girl so absorbed in her greed and pettiness that even when her mother fainted in front of her eyes she was so blinded by her greed and ego that she failed to recognize the reality in front of her eyes.

As she hurled accusations at her mother and sister-in-law, spoke ill of her brother once again, no one once rebuked her as she should have been.

Everyone just let her spew venom, hurl filth, and excused her behavior by branding it as her childishness, her immaturity, called her a child.

I have seen this happen myself for real and I don't know whether I wanna be appalled or applaud the CVs who are addressing this issue here.

How many times do we see someone make mistakes, grave errors but then find no one taking things seriously or the wrongdoer forgiven or even go unpunished all because he is a bachha or she is a bachhi, eventually they will grow up...but the question remains HOW?

When Toshiji learned, somehow of Rinki being the root cause of things, instead of making her wayward daughter realize her mistakes, she took it upon herself to ensure her wish was fulfilled instead and approached Ishita to convey the news of the recently booked flat. For a woman who has raised four children, the most Toshiji did was think to herself when will this girl grow up, have some sense but did nothing to the effect.

Isn't it her mistake as a mother then that is also a reason for Rinki being allowed to behave so callously?

On one end we have a parent who passed his judgement against his eldest not knowing the whole issue just based on a half heard conversation and a partially viewed scene on the other end we have a parent who has the knowledge of what transpired entirely and even she chooses to make her oldest realize the value of family, teach her other son how expensive a lifestyle they have but never once takes it upon her to actually set the wrongs right the way they should be.

Should Romi and Rinki, respect, love and value Raman and Ishita only for the fact that they bear expenses of the family and never let anyone want for anything, should it be always Raman who has to slog for the wellbeing of his entire family even at the cost of throwing away the savings that are rightfully deserved and the inheritance of his children and belong in equal measures to his wife so long as they both are around?

What then is the difference between what Mr. Bhalla did and what Toshiji is doing?

Did she once sit down with her husband to let him know the reality of what caused the quarrel among her children? Fine Romi learned his brother loves him and begged his apology on his own without the impetus of paying the bills that would be levied upon him but what about his rudeness with Ishita, the way he humiliated her, the woman who has forgiven his mistakes so many times, one even involving a scandal related to her own sister or the fact that she and her family, Vandu and Bala too have never reminded Romi of what he cost them when he played his dirty games with them for his own benefit, shouldn't it be also a mother' responsibility to teach her son some manners?

Romi and Rinki are being forgiven and will always be for their mistakes no matter how grave they might be because they are kids...they being the younger siblings always shall have the advantage of this fact, even when they cross the ripe old age of 50 and 60, but for how long should this adage be enough to sweep their mistakes under the carpet forever?

How will they ever learn from their mistakes if no one reprimands them, guides them or does anything about it

I know this is an issue that transpires in many a homes but wish after a certain point of time, parents or the older siblings do acknowledge the simple truth that though a certain someone will always be a bachha or bachhi for them, they do need to grow up and it cant happen with a miracle.

Apologies in advance, since I dont know if I would be able to make replies to anyone 😳

You made an individual thread! Yay!

Edited.

Wonderful post, Aani! I concur with everything you said.

What's happening in Bhalla family right now- I've seen it happen so closely, it feels personal. Raman and Ishita are cursed for life. Raman because he was the first born to such parents and Ishita because she's married to him. Everything is their responsibility. No matter how much they do- it's never gonna be enough. They can't satisfy anyone or be eligible to have some kind of gratitude shown towards them.

The rest of the Bhalla children are so damn lucky! Like, I said, I've seen this happening, so I can guarantee that they'd never change. They'd never learn from their mistakes because no one ever makes them pay! It was and still is very poor parenting from Mr. and Mrs. Bhalla but I blame Raman and Ishita too. How many times have they forgiven Romi? When will they let him finally pay for his mistakes, when he commits a murder? As of now, I don't have hope.


Rinki- I don't know who she is anymore! She looks like the old Rinki but everything about her screams Shagun! What kinda person can't stand her brother sitting and smiling with the family? Mr. Bhalla seems to be deaf to her cruel words.

Mr. Bhalla is showing a whole new side to him. I thought he was the most sensible one in the Bhalla clan. But since this track started- the way he's acting with Raman and Ishita it makes me wonder is this new change a result of the company ownership transfer?

Mrs. Bhalla- I get her intentions. They are good but her approach is so wrong! She's trying to show her husband and kids that Raman takes care of the family without ever mentioning it. But the thing is, what if Raman wasn't this rich guy who walks with a signed check? What if Raman was an average service holder? What if he only provided for his nuclear family like everyone else? Wouldn't there be anything in him and Ishita that still commanded respect?

I'm gonna be so disappointed if the family reunites. I know Raman and Ishita would be heart broken if that doesn't happen but some heart breaks are good. Some heart breaks can save you a life time of ill-treatment and regret. This is one of them.


P.S. I have to add how impress I am with Resha Konkar. It looks like she's been given Shagun's old scripts but she's playing the character how it should've been all along- with more than one expression!

Awesome thread Aani and I loved the effort you took to pin point to such life touching realities.

Aani wonderful points raised...and frankly as much as I loved the build up for misunderstanding ..this week things have gone downhill...I absolutely cannot connect with the fact that two married adults and one with a kid too ..how can they be labeled as Bachcha or bachchi? And Bhallaji looked at Ishita and Toshiji's actions (ridiculous plan as it absolutely didnt make sense at all😕) but totally overlooked their positive intent behind such actions. And when everyone can see Rinki hellbent on spoiling the home environment...creating strife within the family...why the heck no one for once stopped her?... I never understood why a brother needs to help fulfil his married sister's outrageous wishes...it was not that Rinki didnt have a roof over her head...

So yeah this week ..nothing makes sense ...and from the look of it...the consummation/surrogacy possibility to fulfil Ruhi's wish for a sibling is getting stronger...Why cant any of the adults talk to Ruhi and explain to her she's already got a sibling and loads of cousins to play with, even two little ones...why make it so much pressure on a couple that they have to have a biological kid...The way they are building it up, it's like if Ishra don't have a biological kid of their own, the world will come to an end...hence they would seek surrogacy as probably it would be shown that Ishita still has problems that would inhibit normal conception..For me I truly feel the CVs have turned the Ishra love track, their child track ...their relationship a big joke now... and truly joke is on us for believing in the journey that Ishra would come full circle with them consummating their marriage as they are so deeply in love...truly become a couple in all aspects...but now their consummation( if it happens at all) is going to turn into a baby making process...It's a shame that in the land where Kamasutra was conceived, the normal intimacy, desire between a married couple, a very much in love couple is portrayed as an act of abnormal behavior and is endorsed by the creative brains of the top PH and top GEC on Indian telly industry.

And after precap my kostin stays the same after I had watched the news segment...How is Shagun privy to the details of Ishra's sexual life?...unless she's developed super power of bionic vision or did she set up some spy cam to satisfy her voyeuristic curiosity about her ex and his current wife.🤢 ?

Sorry Aani I diverted from the main topic a bit at the end...but couldn't control my displeasure at how things are shaping up.

Today Bhalla ji was a much bigger put off than he has been recently. How rudely he rebuked Raman once again not letting him meet his sick mother. Now who is creating differences in the family?

Raman is true son of Mr bhalla...his attitude ...love for family...everything is so similar...that proved today...

Aani, wonderfully written, so aptly put. To me the entire Bhalla clan are a selfish lot, other than Raman. Most of them are all full of themselves, that they seldom understand what it takes Raman to give them whatever they desire. To me Romi never had a redemption for all the kaands he did, though Ishita's influence did seem to rub off on him a little. Toshiji too is quick to blame Ishita the minute anything goes wrong. Having known the reason for the rift, she still has not said a word to Rinki.

updated my rant-wa 😳

i am very happy with the things you have mentioned in this thread.. even i am of the same view.. God knows what the CVs are trying to convey😕

Thanks for voicing it out, Aani!