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Posted: 10 years ago
#41

Originally posted by: deejagi

So you mean to say, it is OK even if the brother dies but the father should care only for the daughter? For father either son or daughter, both are equal but when it comes to chose to help out only one among the 2, he will have to chose the weaker one. Here what was the guarantee that Adi would not have taken the extreme step when he was asked to go back to Shagun just because Ruhi had top be brought back. Had he had some time, he would have tried to take Ishita into his confidence and also updated Ruhi about the situation but he didn't had that time.
I am a mother and if such situation comes to me, may be even I would have done whatever Raman did here. At that moment I would not have been ready to take chance with my child's life by opening his truth with even hubby which may have caused a delay or one more uproar which would have alerted the weak child.

There is no way out in such scenarios. A parent drops from hero status to a pariah in the eyes of the child when 1 child is chosen over another... Even if 1 child is stronger, he/she will still feel the pain when parents choose the other child. By the time the child realizes why the parent made such a choice it would be a little too late. You can't have what you have lost...

In this case, maybe, just maybe if Raman had opened up to Mr. Bhalla or Mr. Iyer, with their wealth of knowledge, it might have helped. I agree, going to Ishita at this moment would have caused an uproar but then, Ishita has always been level headed, after some time, she might have come around. A better stop gap could have been found without hurting piyari Ruhi...

High tension sequence...superb acting by all the actors.
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Posted: 10 years ago
#42

Originally posted by: deejagi



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So you mean to say, it is OK even if the brother dies but the father should care only for the daughter? For father either son or daughter, both are equal but when it comes to chose to help out only one among the 2, he will have to chose the weaker one. Here what was the guarantee that Adi would not have taken the extreme step when he was asked to go back to Shagun just because Ruhi had top be brought back. Had he had some time, he would have tried to take Ishita into his confidence and also updated Ruhi about the situation but he didn't had that time.


I am a mother and ifsuch situation comes to me, may be even I would have done whatever Raman did here. At that moment I would not have been ready to take chance with my child's life by opening his truth with even hubby which may have caused a delay or one more uproar which would have alerted the weak child.


I m also a mother n ours is a love marriage not complicated like ishra. Still if due to my husbands mistake my lil one will be away from me i will never talk to him n here ppl wants ishita to understand ramans plight. What if shagun elopes with ruhi for forever? We all know what she can turn ruhi into.
Why rkb has to do everything alone... Earlier the meeting with lawyer n shagun regarding custody case. Now meetings with psychiatrist n stealing papers. To each its own, for me RKB is wrong.
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Posted: 10 years ago
#43

Originally posted by: nicegul

u said no girl like ruhi deserves a father like raman...so then it is right do she dersve a mother like shagun or even adi deserves a mother like shagun..?? no naa...according to me wht raman did to save adi was ryt and now wht ishu will be doing is also not wrong...cmon..Ruhi wud only hate her parents for some days..she dont think like adi does..she is not weak like adi to decide thinking like commiting suicides...Adi ko jada jarurat h secured feeling ki..JABKI AB USNE FINAALLY YEH REALISE BHI KAR LIYA H THAT HIS MOM SHAGUN DOSENT REALLY LOVES HIM THE WAY ISHU LOVES RUHI..AND SHE JUST USED HIM AS HER PAWN AGAINST RAMAN AND ISHITA TO HURT THEM...AGAR USSE APNI MOM KI YEH SACHHAI NAHI PTA CHALTI AUR YAHI SOCHTA REHTA KI USKI MOM USSE PYAR KARTI H..toh naa woh sucidial thots apne dimaag mein lata aur naa raman aise drastic step leta to sacrifice ruhi...Cmon Adi ko kabhi woh family wala pyar hi nahi mila naa parvarish...but ruhi ko mila h...so she can handle herself for some more days as she might say on ishu n raman's face ki she hate them...but andar se she really cudnt hate them...


The way raman dealt with the whole issue is wrong...in short he messed up everything. That is the fact...
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Posted: 10 years ago
#44

Originally posted by: -Vishakha-

What's the use of screaming now 😕

She should not hv rejected ruhi custody!


i guess its before going to court. and ishita thn decided to keep adi
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: SheetalAnshul


I m also a mother n ours is a love marriage not complicated like ishra. Still if due to my husbands mistake my lil one will be away from me i will never talk to him n here ppl wants ishita to understand ramans plight. What if shagun elopes with ruhi for forever? We all know what she can turn ruhi into.
Why rkb has to do everything alone... Earlier the meeting with lawyer n shagun regarding custody case. Now meetings with psychiatrist n stealing papers. To each its own, for me RKB is wrong.

Here this is the problem, there life is a complete complication and Raman has never learnt to share his problems with others unless it comes out as shockers to the other person through some other means. May be he would have shared his problems with Ishita, if she were available at home when he confronted Adi reading that suicide article and Adi questioning him about why that child committed Suicide. he clearly said that boy had no one to care for him and no one wanted him, that rang a bell in Raman's mind as he knew his son has some issues (trauma). So he had to rush to the counselor and what he learnt there was a blow to him and at such situation, any person will lose his logical side. So Raman didn't had the guts to share his fear with Ishita at that moment and he wanted to stall it as far as possible before gaining his courage.
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Posted: 10 years ago
#46

Originally posted by: anjali_ss_20000



Wow...mil gaya na sukoon ab raman ko...mila use uska ghar ka chiraag...exchange offer worked..no daughter deserves a father like raman. If my dad this to me, i will never forgive him and will hate him for the whole life...biased father...adi and ruhi doesnt deserve parents like raman and shagun...



Ruhi hating bhallas is totally justified. What was need to tell that she wont take ruhi custody. Ishita to waise hi case har jaati bzc of missing paper. But our jagat mata is no less thn Raman in doing mistakes. lets bhalla live with their GKC.
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Posted: 10 years ago
#47

Originally posted by: deejagi



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<div>Here this is the problem, there life is a complete complication and Raman has never learnt to share his problems with others unless it comes out as shockers to the other person through some other means. May be he would have shared his problems with Ishita, if she were available at home when he confronted Adi reading that suicide article and Adi questioning him about why that child committed Suicide. he clearly said that boy hadno one to care for him and no one wanted him, that rang a bell in Raman's mind as he knew his son has some issues (trauma). So he had to rush to the counselor and what he learnt there was a blow to him and at such situation, any person will lose his logical side. So Raman didn't had the guts to share his fear with Ishita at that moment and he wanted to stall it as far as possible before gaining his courage.



But what if Ruhi does the same mistake. She is kid. She also might be feeling unwanted now and she may try to run away from home. Adi became distrubed child due shagun influence. Now Raman is pushing Ruhi to same situation. This was nt the solution of Adi prob. Here i would say he preferred male child and did nt bother abt Ruhi. He just gav paper to Ishita as if he is nt interested in bringing back Ruhi and also if Adi really commit sucide, the blame would go on Ishita if we luk at these kids Ruhi was deprived of father ' love for 6 years and she has gone though 4 custody battle in span of one year. What could be state of mind of such child.Really feeling sorry fo Ruhi.
Edited by ishra00 - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
#48

Originally posted by: deejagi

So you mean to say, it is OK even if the brother dies but the father should care only for the daughter? For father either son or daughter, both are equal but when it comes to chose to help out only one among the 2, he will have to chose the weaker one. Here what was the guarantee that Adi would not have taken the extreme step when he was asked to go back to Shagun just because Ruhi had top be brought back. Had he had some time, he would have tried to take Ishita into his confidence and also updated Ruhi about the situation but he didn't had that time.
I am a mother and if such situation comes to me, may be even I would have done whatever Raman did here. At that moment I would not have been ready to take chance with my child's life by opening his truth with even hubby which may have caused a delay or one more uproar which would have alerted the weak child.


The problem with Raman is he never has time to share things with ishita. When has Ishita ever been unreasonable if she has been told the truth? Raman always makes decision in a hurry and then keeps feeling guilty. What was the need to sign the document in a hurry without reading? That too he hid from ishita. When will he ever learn?
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Posted: 10 years ago
#49

Originally posted by: ishra00



Ruhi hating bhallas is totally justified. What was need to tell that she wont take ruhi custody. Ishita to waise hi case har jaati bzc of missing paper. But our jagat mata is no less thn Raman in doing mistakes. lets bhalla live with their GKC.


this scene is before the court scene IMO. So after Raman shared the truth about Adi with her, she took the same decision as Raman - that is why it is important for Raman not to hide things and worse steal stuff from ishita, when she can understand his POV.
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Posted: 10 years ago
#50
TFS Ramona.

Poor soul Raman.

To be frank, Raman is the one who is suffering the most, more than Ishita. I say it because whether he chooses Adi or Ruhi, he is going to sacrifice the custody of the other kid (even if it temporary). If he chooses Adi over Ruhi, he is additionally going to earn the wrath of his dear wife as well as hurt her. He cannot see her hurt because he loves her a lot. So looking at all possibilities, he is caught in the web of relations and undergoing utmost torture. But l feel that, given the choice between the life of his son and the custody of his daughter, any father would only prefer to save the life of his child first. This does not mean that Raman does not care for Ruhi or Ishita. He will definitely fight with all his might to get his daughter back...
I am waiting to see how well the CVs handle this track...

Cheers
Priya
Edited by priyadarshini.r - 10 years ago

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