I'm baaack...and all caught up once more.😳
Seriously feel like I'm binging when I go through this piece sometime... that's definitely a credit to you Nisha.👍🏼
Firstly congrats on the latest thread, I do hope I get to write that at least a couple of more times!😛
As to the latest updates, can I just say how much I love the pacing of your work? It's not at all rushed, a very natural progression... honestly feels like a classic early 90s romantic Tamil movie- the kind of natural, realistic , surprise romances we all love to look back on... just with a little more innuendo and realism then may be appropriate onscreen I suppose!☺️
The overarching ideas in these last few updates and the directness with which you address them has honestly been my favourite aspects of the chapters. Mainly the mamma/maaapilai [FIL/SIL] tension (why do I hear that line from that song in that unforgettable voice while I type this? 🤣 )- in 'tug of war' and bijnore & bay area we see the pain of the acknowledgement of the depth of the connection between n II + R&B. It can't be easy to let your pattu kutty go in the first place and that too with someone that is so suitably unsuitable, someone who won't bend, who won't pretend, who you most of all just don't understand- beautifully illustrated Nisha.
I also loved the way you had both sisters turn to comparison in order to try and understand their parents' reaction to the union- II in 'mobility & self defence' and Vandhu in 'NH8'... though presented in a nonchalant manner it is very reflective of a coping mechanism we all turn to and it really speaks to the frustrations of the Iyer sisters- beautiful.👏
I adore that he knows that her father doesn't approve and has come to terms with it, but tries, acknowledges and accommodates because it's important to her.
As well, I am really loving how you are fleshing out R&B as a man while keeping that elusive mysteriousness that keeps all your readers on their heels as much as II.😆 His care and concern for her, shown in innocuous and not so subtle ways is very well presented- from his clenching fists when he hears about her trip to his anger over her lack of awareness of her surrounding in 'ponds' to his babying of her in 'shut up.' The best thing about him & them is that they are able to be what the other needs in that moment- when she needs to be babied, he senses and does that even if it's not the usual for him, when she needs him to take charge...errrmm... okay... forget that..☺️ - but you get the gist, right?😉
Also, I love the way you presented the different ideas of what defines a marriage in these updates. Maybe it's a traditional vs contemporary thing, maybe it's simply an individualistic thing... but the differing definitions of what makes a marriage and relationship is some thing I have often debated with my friends and family and I love that I got a glimpse of that here.
And finally , can I just say how much I admire the way you are able to create sympathy and empathy for two such different and opposing characters in Appah and Ranjan? Both are @ heart fathers who want the best for their children but because of personal circumstances and ideologies they feel that perhaps they can't share that happiness with them and your describe that pain , longing and frustration so beautifully.
It always amazes me how much can be said in your work when it's mostly conversation and not long paragraphs of descriptive writing- it's truly a credit to you, your skill and frankly your intelligence. Thank you for sharing with us.
As always, I look forward to the next piece... though perhaps I will start reading on a more frequent basis to avoid typing essays in response!😳
Edited by RomComFan - 10 years ago