divorced couple in real life

guys after seeing the current track.. i really wonder if a real divorced couple are there n something similar situation is happening with them.. then wat solution ll they take... is it the oly to make a child feel secure.. i really wanna kno..

being a doc myself, I know its not the only solution

I live in society where man get married more than one woman and they live in same house but the kids learn to respect each other mothers . I saw many divorced couple in my life but they never lat that effect their kids it depends on father and mother but sorry what they show in this current track never related to real life there is no realistic or logical Adi is not going to die

Originally posted by: paagalbandar

being a doc myself, I know its not the only solution

Otherwise, there wouldn't be something called joint custody...and there wouldn't be so many people getting divorced, and their children growing up just fine...It depends how the parents put forward the situation in front of their children...

Joint custodies are given usually to make sure that child gets to meet both the parents, where both parents are agreeing to give time to the child...

OK lets look at it this way...

Lets say Shagun and Raman get remarried...looking at their past and their history, they are meant to fight even if they get remarried, as Raman has someone else in his heart...I am sure you agree with that...

Children have bigger affect on them mentally when they see their parents fighting like a dog and cat while staying together, than staying separate and giving balanced time to their children separately...That is why many books will say that don't fight in front of your children, that is more devastating than being separate and taking care of them one by one during the week for example...Children of parents who are constantly fighting, rather than being separate, are at far greater risk of being in depression and becoming aggressive than, children of parents who are divorced but, get equal love and affection from both sides, even if its separately done...

So this psychological advice that is being given that he needs to feel secure, just simply means that he needs love from both sides, and he doesnt need to see both sides fighting in front of him...Only thing they need to do to make Adi secure is to come to a mutual agreement, and stop manipulating him, and bringing out all of their personal problems on to this child...And he will feel much more secure...he is insecure because of his mother feeding him nonsense, and making him insecure ...So not sure where they got this idea that both parents have to be married :D

Originally posted by: 3fra

I live in society where man get married more than one woman and they live in same house but the kids learn to respect each other mothers . I saw many divorced couple in my life but they never lat that effect their kids it depends on father and mother but sorry what they show in this current track never related to real life there is no realistic or logical Adi is not going to die

I know of several divorced couples and families after the fact - yes the children suffer and yes they may need the guidance of a counselor but

In real life
Telling from my own experience what i had seen
Divorced couple mainly hate each other and do whatever they can to show off to each other
Hatress express a lot during custody case which czn takes years...
But eventually, to take out their frustration and make their kids happy they once go for an outing with their kids or dinner togheter along with kids...
It happen but its only for kids and they clearly, are just taking out their frustration or relax for their kids for a moment.
Then for project as one of them owning a bigger house for kids, the other may help and take the whole work on himself.
Only for their kids...
Strangely of what i have seen, they always hate each other to the core but a moment for their kids they try their best to be normal...
Bu living into same roof is very stupid.
They might go for outing for 4, 5 hours as i said or dinner of 1 hour, but not more...

This is definitely not the only way and this is definitely not even one of the ways. Psychologists would not agree with what they are showing in YHM at the moment. By pretending that all is okay, Raman and Shagun would be giving Adi hope that they can one day be a family. Ofcourse, with Raman being married to Ishita and Shagun's betrayal, this is not a possibility in the real world.

This is what a poted on a different post here only ... Thought to share ...

Originally posted by: yazhi

hloo doc.. thank u soo much..

i am sure u can help the viewers in putting some brain into the cvs head.. please do help us